maysj18 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 (edited) So if you read my last thread, you will see that me and my boyfriend went on a weekend vacation. Everything went awesome, except for one thing: I feel like he is desperately trying to make me jealous, retarded, or a blatant *******. Friday a girl texted him and he told me she said "I'm at the beach. Come see me!" Of course he told me that he liked me way too much (in a playful way), but I cheerfully changed the subject because I didn't want him to know it got under my skin (technically at this point we were not exclusive). That was that and nothing else was said, but then today she texted him again, inviting him to see her. Again, he told me about it and then added "It's so weird that once you settle down, you suddenly have people all over you." I told him he would have one less person if he wasn't careful and left it at that. Why I think he's trying to make me jealous is that while he's confident, I feel like he second guesses himself a lot. He waited nearly a month to kiss me and the first time we had sex, he had trouble because of his nerves. Maybe he feels inadequate? I don't know. It's no excuse, but I'm really hoping that's all it is. Every time I bring up his sketchy comments, he tells me he didn't mean anything by it and then adds something really sweet. His actions and his words just don't match. He is so affectionate: always holding my hand, putting pictures of us up on Facebook, playing with my hair, taking me to really nice places, and planning future trips and stuff; however, he comments on how hot certain women are (like random strippers and escorts he saw back in his party days) and then gets weird texts from a girl he knew in high school. I'm really chill and I dont want to come off as a hardass, but I'm tired of hearing comments about other women. I find other men attractive, but I'm not going to tell him about it. Also, I do want to clarify that he doesn't comment on other women out in public or something. It's more of just if he's telling a story, hell make sure he throws that in there. Is this just immaturity? He is just so adament about always seeing me and making future plans, but then he says things about having tons of options? What. The. ****? Edited June 25, 2012 by maysj18
FitChick Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Next time a girl texts him say, "Why don't you just tell her you have a girlfriend now and you're not available? I've been doing that with all the guys who text me lately. It's really not fair to string them along." That's only if you want to bring up the exclusive talk.
Author maysj18 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Next time a girl texts him say, "Why don't you just tell her you have a girlfriend now and you're not available? I've been doing that with all the guys who text me lately. It's really not fair to string them along." That's only if you want to bring up the exclusive talk. We are exclusive now. Facebook official actually but really, I just want some opinions on what his motive might be.
FitChick Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Why don't you ask him? Since you are exclusive, there is no reason for him to accept texts from other women. I'd put my foot down.
Author maysj18 Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Why don't you ask him? Since you are exclusive, there is no reason for him to accept texts from other women. I'd put my foot down. We talked about it and he said he didn't answer her. He won't really give me a clear cut explanation on why he brings these things up.
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