brucks520 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I have been dating a girl for the past 3 years on and off, things have been great currantly if you ask me. Today she tells me that we need to stop hanging out so much because we have been getting into little fights. She says that " she loves me but we have been spending to much time together and we need space to breathe so that we appreciate what we have." It is hard in our case considering i am 20 she is 22 and goes to the bar about 2 times a week with her friends who never really make plans that involve me. Let me know what you think thanks!
utterer of lies Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Let me know what you think thanks! It's over and you need to accept it and find someone new.
Silly_Girl Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I think she's probably looking for a gentle, guilt-free break-up. How do you feel about breaking up? Sounds like things haven't always been smooth...
Titanwolf Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Offer her a handshake, say "it was fun" and then go about your business? no drama, just let her go and live!. I come across as apathetic sometimes
Algermas Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Aka she wants to bang other men to see if she can do better than you, if she can't she'll be back. Accept the breakup and cease commincating with her.
goldengirl11 Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 She could be being honest with you though. The thing is IF she did meet someone else she liked in the meantime I suppose there would be a risk that she would then move on.
joystickd Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 She is looking for some new dick. Honestly its time to move on to someone else and more than likely her friends have convinced her to find someone else.
oldshirt Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 There are a few euphamisms that people use to soften the blow so they don't hurt their partner and so they don't feel bad for saying it themselves. here are a few of those common euphamisms and their direct translations. "I need some space" = I want to go back on to the open market again and see what else I can get but I don't want to burn my bridges with you in case nothing materializes. "I need a little time to sort things out" = There is another guy(s) that I am interested in and I want to see if he will be better than you but I don't want to burn my bridges with you in case he isn't. "We are spending too much time together/you are smothering me" = you are getting in the way of me going out and having fun with other people but I don't want to burn my bridges with you for the times my other friends (or other guys) are busy. "I think we should see other people" = I AM seeing someone else that is potentially better than you, but I'm not sure if it's going to work out or not and I don't want to burn any bridges with you if it doesn't. I could go on but I think you get the point. The reason people use those euphamisms is so they can basically have a period of time to have some cake and eat it too and keep you as a back-up plan in case things don't work out as opposed to just cleanly breaking up with you. The bottom line is she is disengaging and wanting to move on and see what else is out there for her.
oldshirt Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 The bottom line is she is disengaging and wanting to move on and see what else is out there for her. And too be honest, for a 20 year old this isn't a bad thing and even though it will sting for awhile, it is good for you to get out and play the field too. Trust me I've been there done that MANY times over the years and it's way better to just let things dissolve and fade away ammicably and on a relatively positive note than to get all possessive and psycho and have a lot of drama and anger and hurt feelings. If it was meant to be, people do drift back into each others lives at later dates as long as there wasn't too much negativity and anger and name calling and pain. People's attention span is short when they are young and it is normal and natural for people in their teens and early 20s to serial-date and to go through dating partners and relationships like changing socks. It hurts at the time and there is a greiving period but better you accept it and move on and get out and do things with other people the shorter and less painfull that grieving period is.
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