SugarM Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Advice needed, about 8 weeks ago I had a fairly serious falling out with my best friend which has resulted in us not speaking. Yesterday while waiting for my husband in his car I was bored and started playing with his phone and I saw he had messaged her and called her a couple of times. The texts were nothing sinister but they date back to over a month ago and he has never mentioned it? Why? My initial reaction was anger and I'm finding it hard to look at him today ( only found out late yesterday) I feel very betrayed as he knows why we had the falling out and he agrees with me about the issue- I should clarify about four years ago he interfered in another of my friendships and that ended very badly. My husband doesn't really have any friends only work pals. He is very clingy and controlling at times and also has a fiery temper and never wrong- we have been under a lot of financial stress this year and I'm just trying to work out if it's a case of pick your battles? Thank you in advance
Radu Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 Even if you pick your battles and you won't fight this one right now, it doesn't mean that you should forget about this and not bring it up later at a more mellow time. The good news is that if he didn't password his phone, it is probably innocent in his mind, but he is obviously disrespecting your boundary from 4yrs ago. 2
lovefilter Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 If he was friends with her, maybe he was just making sure she was ok. Perhaps he understands why you are right in the disagreement but he hopes you guys will be friends again.
Makavelli Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 That is a tough one.... don't jump to conclusions just yet. Since the previous incident, and now another incident appears anyone would think something shady is going on. It could be her just trying to find out if you guys can still be friends or it could be something more... If the situation isn't approached it will probably eat you away inside so it is best to get a clean slate and sit down and talk to him about it... I know it is easier said than done but he needs to be called out on it somehow.
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