whichwayisup Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 that really hurts...so all the things he told me, he meant them.... He actually told me "no way in hell I date someone like you who doesn't do drugs and ...." a month before that he had told me if he wanted to date anyone it'd be me. but then he said he has changed his mind. It hurt so much that i just cried back then, but then i told myself maybe he didn't mean it and its because i couldn't act like "just a friend" sometimes... but he actually hates me.. See what drugs do? He is so messed up. He isn't worth your tears..
Author without Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 See what drugs do? He is so messed up. He isn't worth your tears.. thanks you're right, I'm trying to be strong about it, but it still hurts.
AlexanderJames Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It hurts because you care. It's easy for him to say and do these things because drugs have numbed his senses and robbed him of his moral fiber. The fact that he shows such immaturity and lack of discipline at that age says it all. Stay well away. You're still so young. You have so much to live for and so much to see and do in this world. Look forward to what is to come, not backwards to what you've left behind. It will hurt less in time as im sure you already know. Us 21 y o's have to stick together.
Author without Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) It hurts because you care. It's easy for him to say and do these things because drugs have numbed his senses and robbed him of his moral fiber. The fact that he shows such immaturity and lack of discipline at that age says it all. Stay well away. You're still so young. You have so much to live for and so much to see and do in this world. Look forward to what is to come, not backwards to what you've left behind. It will hurt less in time as im sure you already know. Us 21 y o's have to stick together. I don't know exactly how much he uses but he had cancer in his teenage-hood, and he obviously suffers from at least depression. But he has changed in the last two months, the problem mostly started when he added some sluts on fb and talked to them and i got jealous and i confronted him at first he said I should know that he only wants me but then he changed his mind. I think i had to do it, i couldn't take it watching him like that and he expected i should stay calm. are you really 21? you seem much more mature Edited June 28, 2012 by without
Author without Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 At least someone you were so kind to or told you likes you, wouldn't say to your face "no way in hell" or that you read that he actually "hates" people like you. sigh.
Author without Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 people like to complicate things, by not saying the whole truth or lying. Maybe he got out of a relationship when we met so because of that he didn't want a relationship, and now he doesn't want me at all. He didn't like me from the beginning. Maybe just a regular friend. I asked him at first whether he's in love with someone or not but he said he isn't and he hasn't loved anyone (which i thought was a lie everyone has loved someone in their life, at least when they're late in their 20's.) But i forgot to ask him when his last relationship has ended. But he did told me a month ago if he wanted a relationship it'd be with me. and when we first met each-other he was much kinder. I'm trying to figure out was it all my fault? I should have left him in the beginning? After he told me those mean stuff recently he told me there's no point in seeing each-other anymore, "like they were dates, which according to him at first they weren't". I don't know how can someone suddenly lose interest in you, or maybe i'm so dumb that I thought one day we'll date.
AlexanderJames Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 At least someone you were so kind to or told you likes you, wouldn't say to your face "no way in hell" or that you read that he actually "hates" people like you. sigh. Yep I'm only 21. Guess you could say I've been through a lot in my short time on this earth. I've learnt a fair bit. I had this, the girl I loved and devoted my time to, a girl who I had shared so many intimate and romantic experiences with, looked me in the eye and said to my face "I feel nothing for you, I do not think about you at all, and there is no hope for us now, or in the future". She was nice enough to add "Sorry to be blunt but I want it to be clear to you... For closure". Bless her... B****. He's being meand a hurtful to push you away. I think he gets the impression that if he's horrible and cruel, he will push you away, and make you angry or lash out and do something. Therefor making him look like he's not the bad guy here. Dont waste your time worrying about this man.
Author without Posted June 29, 2012 Author Posted June 29, 2012 Yep I'm only 21. Guess you could say I've been through a lot in my short time on this earth. I've learnt a fair bit. I had this, the girl I loved and devoted my time to, a girl who I had shared so many intimate and romantic experiences with, looked me in the eye and said to my face "I feel nothing for you, I do not think about you at all, and there is no hope for us now, or in the future". She was nice enough to add "Sorry to be blunt but I want it to be clear to you... For closure". Bless her... B****. He's being meand a hurtful to push you away. I think he gets the impression that if he's horrible and cruel, he will push you away, and make you angry or lash out and do something. Therefor making him look like he's not the bad guy here. Dont waste your time worrying about this man. I still can't believe you're 21 you're much more mature. hah, To my surprise he actually called me today, I was kinda cold to him. I was out of town and my phone was running out of battery and it didn't have much antenna. But I could talk to him. ( He never calls that much and when he does i'm out of battery and antenna LOL) And I don't want to ever contact him again myself, what's the point of being friends with him when he talks like that with me and don't want to date me nor see me?
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