luvinthesun Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 My bf has been continually getting hit on by this chic who works at fast fpod place he and buddies eat at. Bf tells me about it. She will say things like compliments and will ask why he didbt ride his motorcycle and say must be fun... would like try that. This is daily for about tge last two weeks. (Bf works in different areas when jobs come up and finish...) She is apparently about ten yrs youbger ...Bf said he was going to.pawn her off.on single friend. Bf again was telling.me this ... and said friend replied tgat they dont.like the same kind of women tgat he does ... Or find same kind attractive. I told Bf he was busted... as apparently the two buddies had been talking about thongs other than what he tells me. Bf says not Now i do.not thonk my bf wants this person or anything... And he DiD say he was going to t married.. ya thatll help. I guess for me... I would tell soneobe thanks... Not intereste Obviously there will be times we both get hit on ... And for one time i guess it is fibe to ignore. But what about repeatedly?
xxoo Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 If all she's doing is complimenting him, and making comments about his motorcycle, how would he work in "not interested"? Bringing up his gf (you) in a casual way, and mentioning that he is going to be get married, is sufficient, imo. It isn't like he can stop the fast food worker from complimenting him, or flirting. We've each been hit on repeatedly in these kind of situations--esp food places you visit a lot. I don't make a big deal about someone who 1. may just be making their workday more interesting by flirting with the customers, and 2. we never see outside the eatery.
veggirl Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 When a guy hits on me I say "hey I have a BF" and that usually stops it. If it doesn't, I admit I am kinda rude to them. In a fast food situation I would probably just be grunting responses or shrugging...I mean it'd be obvious by my reactions that I was not interested and that the worker needs to quit it. Sorry your BF won't put an end to it, he enjoys it.
MooBear Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 When I think a guy may be coming on to me, I will drop my boyfriend into the conversation so they are aware. Has he told her he has a girlfriend? He's clearly not going to act on it, but maybe he just likes the attention. It's always a nice ego boost!
FitChick Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Have your boyfriend take you to the fast food place for a quick bite to eat or something to go. He can introduce you.
KathyM Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 If your bf has mentioned to her that he has a gf and she continues to hit on him, he has to make sure he is not doing anything to encourage her interest. He should not be flirting or engaging in small talk with her. He needs to actively show he is not interested if his words have not sunk in. That means, he talks to her only with what is necessary to place his food order. He gives minimal, disinterested responses when she talks to him. He doesn't look at her any longer than necessary to place his order. His body language, tone of voice, and minimal responses should give her the message that he is not interested. I have had to do that when men hit on me. I give them a minimal response, and sometimes don't even look them in the eye. My husband has to continually tell people he is married and discourage people's interest. Your guy probably doesn't know how to discourage the interest of women. I think you should give him a few suggestions on ways to discourage this person, or she will continue to hit on him if she thinks she has a chance.
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