Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Hey I wasn't complaining at all about that. I wouldn't mind if women were a lot more shallow than they currently are as it would make things easier for me :) Also what's wrong with posting a little eye candy for the other guys here to enjoy? Oh you are all talk. C'mon, show us your picture.
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Nothing more than a woman saying that there are no more good guys left, and all the women agree with her; when the group is completely surrounded by tons of great guys. I actually agree with Somedude today Bit disappointed to see all these posts about never finding decent guys. Such retarded statements 4
jobaba Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I actually agree with Somedude today Bit disappointed to see all these posts about never finding decent guys. Such retarded statements Yuppers... Just like me saying all women are shallow. In my heart, I know it not to be true. I've had GFs before. It's kind of like me saying, "There's no good gals out there. They all want to use me." But just last month a real good gal who happened to be obese confessed having a crush on me (that never happened) and I rejected her. Good looking guys who are decent ARE a relatively rare commodity. My best friend is this. And he was a hot commodity. His wife who snagged him? She's a doctor. So, you gals need to get off your arse and make yourselves worthwhile if that's what you want. Just like instead of me whining about how all women are shallow, actually putting in the effort to wade through all those women to find the gems and then improve myself to the point where I can snag her and keep her when I find her.
firehawk_1 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 reality check: there is no such thing as the perfect guy. same thing with the perfect girl. lower your unrealistic standards, then you will have a chance
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Hey I wasn't complaining at all about that. I wouldn't mind if women were a lot more shallow than they currently are as it would make things easier for me :) Also what's wrong with posting a little eye candy for the other guys here to enjoy? You do it way too much. You do it in treads where no one asked or cares what your idea of eye candy is. You've done it in thread where women were looking for advice. If you want to have a circle jerk with a bunch of other men over internet babes because you can't manage to get in with a real one, do it on a male dominated forum. You mentioned that you visit those kind of places...no need to do it here as well where it's much more of a gender mix. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Yea it seems like most girls want a good looking guy who is equal parts masculine and sensitive Those kind of guys are very rare and they're very high in demand. I feel like I have some of those traits but I'm very shy Improve yourself as much as possible and put in the work to find the right person. That's all any of us can do I encourage guys a lot to reach that higher standard, especially on this forum. And even recently I talked about standards and what we can do to raise them. I understand that there are a lot of f**ked up guys around, and also how hard it is to find attraction to a guy no matter how decent he is - but the pessimism is really off-putting. Everyone has their challenges. It's up to us to act accordingly and stay realistic without succumbing to misery. 1
jobaba Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Yea it seems like most girls want a good looking guy who is equal parts masculine and sensitive Those kind of guys are very rare and they're very high in demand. I feel like I have some of those traits but I'm very shy Improve yourself as much as possible and put in the work to find the right person. That's all any of us can do I would like to add that she chased him. Something that most women won't do which is SO STUPID! You're so particular about what you want, but you're going to wait until, in the words of a woman I know, "He pops up when I least expect it"...
thatone Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I would like to add that she chased him. Something that most women won't do which is SO STUPID! You're so particular about what you want, but you're going to wait until, in the words of a woman I know, "He pops up when I least expect it"... not just a woman you know, but a woman we all know. fact is there are millions of women who think they're owed their childhood fantasy. every non virgin man on here has ex gfs just like her. this isn't the 1950s anymore. those women aren't owed a husband just because they're physically normal to attractive, rather than the opposite. this is the price of gender equality. the fantasy is gone. now all you ladies live in the real world like men do. which means you only get what you go and get. it won't fall in your lap. 2
oldshirt Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Womanese for "good guy" is there are no respectful nice guys left with six pack abs, chiseled facial features and masculine personality traits Yeah because those guys already have boyfriends:laugh:
joystickd Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Honestly the biggest problem is in an area the focus is on a small group of people that are desirable. We all want to date someone from this collection of perceived attractiveness. So when people say there is no good men/women here it usually means " I can't get someone that is in that group". Then the other issue is some don't even know what the hell they want so they take anything that talks to them. Then they get done wrong because these people are not compatible with them and they become bitter. You know the usual line of complaints women See me as a human being not a sex object men I'm tired of golddiggers or always being friendzoned. Just take time to figure out what is it you want. 1
Bristolius Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 There really seems to be a correlation between the sad sack men and sad sack women here at LS. Woman: "There aren't any decent guys left." Man: "Women don't think I'm good enough." Kind of sad, but it adds up. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The problem is, I feel like I have to offer pretty much everything I am asking for. I am intelligent, highly educated with a good job in academia. I own two properties, one I live in one is investment. I am not stunning but I am a bit above average looking. I take care of my looks, body, how I dress, smell, groom myself in every way. I am kind, loving and loyal. I have no kids and previous marriages. I am a great cook. Why shouldn't I ask for even close to what I am offering? I would even happy with little less. Yet, all I am meeting are no hoppers that have much less to offer. 3
Bristolius Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I hope you realize how terrifying advice this is to perpetually single people It's like telling a child in Africa - "you may never eat, but you need to be okay with that" (Yea I know companionship isn't life or death as a base human need, but it's just 1 small step below that) No. It's orders of magnitude off. You need a better analogy.
joystickd Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The problem is, I feel like I have to offer pretty much everything I am asking for. I am intelligent, highly educated with a good job in academia. I own two properties, one I live in one is investment. I am not stunning but I am a bit above average looking. I take care of my looks, body, how I dress, smell, groom myself in every way. I am kind, loving and loyal. I have no kids and previous marriages. I am a great cook. Why shouldn't I ask for even close to what I am offering? I would even happy with little less. Yet, all I am meeting are no hoppers that have much less to offer. Where are you going to find these guys?
ThaWholigan Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 You know dating people is not a business exchange right? or at least it's not supposed to be a business exchange Shouldn't you judge men more on their character rather than their job or education? Not really, she's entitled to ask for the equivalent of what she brings to the table. I'm sure that whatever characteristics in a man she finds attractive is tied to those things. I can't comment on why women seem to meet so many no-hopers, just like I can't fathom how most guys who don't do well with women meet so many samey girls. I'd still much rather see a little more fight than "ho-hum, there's no decent guys :(". That gets as tired as the guys who say "girls won't give me a chance". Where she will find those guys is another issue. Probably a socio-environmental issue more than anything. 1
d'Arthez Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Problem is of course that in conjunction with what people have to offer, they are also offering a few less desirable things. It is human nature to downplay our flaws as well, and overestimate our virtues. 1
thatone Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 You know dating people is not a business exchange right? or at least it's not supposed to be a business exchange Shouldn't you judge men more on their character rather than their job or education? i think it is a business exchange. it's not unreasonable to ask for people you date to have comparable positive qualities.
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The problem is, I feel like I have to offer pretty much everything I am asking for. I am intelligent, highly educated with a good job in academia. I own two properties, one I live in one is investment. I am not stunning but I am a bit above average looking. I take care of my looks, body, how I dress, smell, groom myself in every way. I am kind, loving and loyal. I have no kids and previous marriages. I am a great cook. Why shouldn't I ask for even close to what I am offering? I would even happy with little less. Yet, all I am meeting are no hoppers that have much less to offer. A man with these qualifications can date a girl who looks a decade better than you, men aren't impressed by academic achievements and finances. 2
somedude81 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Not really, she's entitled to ask for the equivalent of what she brings to the table. ROFL! When ever I talk about entitlement and equivalent, people always get on my case. Obviously I'm not the only guy who thinks the same way.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Problem is of course that in conjunction with what people have to offer' date=' they are also offering a few less desirable things. It is human nature to downplay our flaws as well, and overestimate our virtues.[/quote'] Go on, what flaws are you talking about? Seriously just get it out. Not being interested in you is not a flaw
jobaba Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The problem is, I feel like I have to offer pretty much everything I am asking for. I am intelligent, highly educated with a good job in academia. I own two properties, one I live in one is investment. I am not stunning but I am a bit above average looking. I take care of my looks, body, how I dress, smell, groom myself in every way. I am kind, loving and loyal. I have no kids and previous marriages. I am a great cook. Why shouldn't I ask for even close to what I am offering? I would even happy with little less. Yet, all I am meeting are no hoppers that have much less to offer. What's your level of education?
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Go on, what flaws are you talking about? Seriously just get it out. Not being interested in you is not a flaw Being well over a decade past your prime.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 A man with these qualifications can date a girl who looks a decade better than you, men aren't impressed by academic achievements and finances. Some are actually. Not the ones that post on these forums obviously.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Being well over a decade past your prime. Eh do you have anything better than that? Men that think like you are automatically excluded from my pool.
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