Karisma01 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 In my early to mid 30's and still single. It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. All the ones I seem to meet turn out to be players or jerks. No matter where I meet them. Get pretty down about it at times. Especially when I see most people around me getting paired up lately this year. Maybe I am cursed or something...
Lonely Ronin Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 In my early to mid 30's and still single. It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. Maybe I am cursed or something... I know exactly how you feel, but with the genders reversed.
DuchessKaye Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. Because this guy doesn't exist...
MrCastle Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. Also ask yourself, what is it you're looking for, and what do you bring to the table that would warrant getting what you're looking for.
Snakechammah Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Google Matthew Hussey. He may have the answer to your woes. ...and no, this isn't a spam post promoting the dude. I think more people need to be aware of the dating games and what nots. The OP certainly do! Good luck babe!
goldengirl11 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 In my early to mid 30's and still single. It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. All the ones I seem to meet turn out to be players or jerks. No matter where I meet them. Get pretty down about it at times. Especially when I see most people around me getting paired up lately this year. Maybe I am cursed or something... I totally match your situation!
goldengirl11 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 You may never meet one, quite possible. I hope you're joking.
grkBoy Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 In my early to mid 30's and still single. It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. All the ones I seem to meet turn out to be players or jerks. No matter where I meet them. Get pretty down about it at times. Especially when I see most people around me getting paired up lately this year. Maybe I am cursed or something... Well, what "type" of guy are you pursuing? I'm not judging you or anything, but I notice any time a women says what you say, I'll notice they leave out how all the guys they chase are cut from the same athletic guido doucheag or narcissistic shallow yuppie mold. Now they'll claim I'm judging a book by its cover, tell me of how many ways this guy was wonderful to them at first etc...but I have to bluntly point out their track record. If it seems every guy you meet like that ends up the same way, then perhaps you're desperately looking for a rose in a pile of sh-t. I have two female friends who keep ending up with playas or "overgrown children", but I notice they both seemingly go for "working class Italian" types or Jersey Shore types. I know that going out with some "nice guy" isn't a sure deal either...as we've seen with verhzn's debacles, but I'm still wondering what type of guy you're pursuing. 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 You may never meet one but you need to be OK with that
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 What constitutes a decent guy? I notice most women around your age want a "decent" guy. What they fail to take into account is that they neglected these decent guys throughout their teens and twenties, consequently these men have either been hardened by rejection and now emulate the men you ( many women ) go after or they've focused on their careers and now make enough money to where they don't need to date women their own age. 5
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I hope you realize how terrifying advice this is to perpetually single people It's like telling a child in Africa - "you may never eat, but you need to be okay with that" (Yea I know companionship isn't life or death as a base human need, but it's just 1 small step below that) I think it's solid advice. Many people only get married because they decide to settle and/or accept poor treatment. Many stay single. Minority finds the real thing. Realistically, she is not going to be in that minority. Just talking probabilities here. 4
Sugarkane Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 I feel the same especially after being humped and dumped recently. And the guy gave me The usual lines of wanting a relationship and all my friends are married/ engaged. And I don't go after Jersey Shore types at all.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 What constitutes a decent guy? I notice most women around your age want a "decent" guy. What they fail to take into account is that they neglected these decent guys throughout their teens and twenties, consequently these men have either been hardened by rejection and now emulate the men you ( many women ) go after or they've focused on their careers and now make enough money to where they don't need to date women their own age. And what you fail to take into account that in today's world, a lot of men in their teens and 20s don't want to settle down either. They play around, they look for how many girls they can sleep with, they don't want to man up and take any kind of responsibility for themselves, let alone another human being. Which means that today, women need to go to school and create their own path that allows them to be finacially independent just like men always had to do. Which means other things get pushed off later in life since that time and space is now needed for women to do certain things. This takes time, growing up and maturity. And do you really think every single girl in their teens and 20s never gets rejected? Like, seriously? Is that what you really believe? I've been rejected plenty. Does that mean that I don't "need" to date men my own age now because men my OWN age somehow have less value? You are bitter because you feel that women failed to acknowledge your worth but now you are gleefully happy to degrade women YOUR OWN AGE? Petty. Ridiculous. Bitter. Small-minded. Mean. UNTRUE. When you are able to see women as human beings like yourself who have a wide range of life experiences, good and bad, just like you, then you will be able to relate to women much better. However, you don't see women as real human beings and you clearly don't consider them of worth when they are even your own age or you wouldn't have made the statement you did in the first place. This will always create a problem for you and how you think, relate and see women. 7
Algermas Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 And what you fail to take into account that in today's world, a lot of men in their teens and 20s don't want to settle down either. They play around, they look for how many girls they can sleep with, they don't want to man up and take any kind of responsibility for themselves, let alone another human being. Which means that today, women need to go to school and create their own path that allows them to be finacially independent just like men always had to do. Which means other things get pushed off later in life since that time and space is now needed for women to do certain things. This takes time, growing up and maturity. And do you really think every single girl in their teens and 20s never gets rejected? Like, seriously? Is that what you really believe? I've been rejected plenty. Does that mean that I don't "need" to date men my own age now because men my OWN age somehow have less value? You are bitter because you feel that women failed to acknowledge your worth but now you are gleefully happy to degrade women YOUR OWN AGE? Petty. Ridiculous. Bitter. Small-minded. Mean. UNTRUE. When you are able to see women as human beings like yourself who have a wide range of life experiences, good and bad, just like you, then you will be able to relate to women much better. However, you don't see women as real human beings and you clearly don't consider them of worth when they are even your own age or you wouldn't have made the statement you did in the first place. This will always create a problem for you and how you think, relate and see women. Women demanded to go to school and have careers, don't put that on men. The fatal flaw in this is that men couldn't care less about careers when it comes to women. Desirablility in women comes largely from their physical attractiveness, which goes into a freefall somewhere between their mid twenties and early thirties. Putting the number of rejections the average male goes through compared to the average woman is, quite simply, ridiculous. For every rejection a woman faces a man has to face at least ten. Women don't have the option to pick and choose as they grow older, unlike men their desirability steadily declines with age. It doesn't create any problems at all, I was fortunate enough to figure the game out early in life and have planned myself into a position where I can now take full advantage of it. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 The problem is, and I can put myself in this group, guys who don't have a lot of success with women tend to think that women just have perfect dating lives where they get approached 10 times a second everywhere they go and have a constant stream of millionaire male models approaching them This is probably true of the top 5% of women who are very beautiful/have great bodies but I imagine the rest of the female gender struggles the same way that the males here do to find anything worthwhile Absolutely, this is very true.
joystickd Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 What is the right guy for you? Honestly we can complain about how there are no guys left or no women worth the time but in a sense part of the trouble is you. Are you 100% sure you want this right guy? Know what you want is a lot of the problem because when you pinpoint exactly what you want you are better able to weed out the undesirables or won't accept someone that is mediocre to you. Then really don't devote so much energy to looking for that person. When you devote so much energy to it makes you come off as desperate. Desperation leads to settling for someone.
ascendotum Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Especially when I see most people around me getting paired up lately this year. I wonder if its a like Grkboy alluded to...maybe you go for style over substance guys possibly. You want to snag a guy that has lots of options and very confident (full of themselves). We wont really know. * Given that all your friends are pairing up....would you be happy with the men your gfs are partnering up with? * Why is it working out for them do you think..I would assume you move in the same social circles and have not too dissimilar style, attitude & outlook to life? (don't say you have the worst luck) * Do you have a 'type' when it comes to guys that you fall hard for?
jobaba Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 In my early to mid 30's and still single. It sux that it is so hard to find a decent guy these days. All the ones I seem to meet turn out to be players or jerks. No matter where I meet them. Get pretty down about it at times. Especially when I see most people around me getting paired up lately this year. Maybe I am cursed or something... You may never meet one, quite possible. Because this guy doesn't exist... I totally match your situation! You may never meet one but you need to be OK with that Please... I could introduce you guys to a few of my friends tomorrow that are great guys. They might not be the best looking, might be somewhat effeminate, and might be kind of boring, but they are good guys. I guarantee none of you guys would like them. Think about all of the nice guys you've rejected in the past 5 years because they weren't attractive to you. 3
somedude81 Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Nothing more than a woman saying that there are no more good guys left, and all the women agree with her; when the group is completely surrounded by tons of great guys. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Womanese for "good guy" is there are no respectful nice guys left with six pack abs, chiseled facial features and masculine personality traits Said the man that spends a good portion of his time posting pictures of women that certainly aren't exactly average. When was the last time you saw women on here posting pictures of men like you enjoy posting pictures of women? 2
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