aa112211 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 (edited) So this girl I work with before I went on vacation would rarely start a convo with me and would walk by me and not even say hi. Only really talk to me if I talked to her first. Then I went on vacation a 3 weeks ago and when I come back she does this. " Well I go on vacation. When I come back she's going on about how she missed me. telling another girl she would hug me if she wouldn't get in trouble. I get glitter in my beard and she goes on about how cute it is. Point out I have a dimple and say its so cute. and hang around me all the time. just stand beside me and stare at me. . Even stopped in front of me in the hallway and backed herself into me with a smile on her face. Then was constantly whispering my name even in the break room table for some reason. I was working in an area and she comes over and says "Remember when we used to work over here by ourselves just me and you" She even took vacation the week after mine and stopped by my house to see me on the Sunday before she came back. So I ask her to hang out and she says she just wants to be friends. I declined. If she wouldn't have acted so different I never would have asked her to do anything. She told me she didn't act any differently when I came back from vacation. But when I pointed out how and told her I would just have to remember she is a flirt and nothing she says or does means anything. She hasn't spoken to me since. But she tells me she would act this way with any other guy and I am basically reading to much into it. So am I wrong or is she just a tease looking for attention? I should add that she got out of a three year relationship in Jan. I don't think she is over it. That's why I hadn't really ever asked her to do anything, I only brought it up because she acted so differently after I was gone for 10 days. So I don't know if she is just a tease or scared to get hurt so she pushes me away so we cant get any closer. I mean we were fine before she broke up with the guy. She never told me she broke up. I heard from others. Then she got all weird around me and pretty much stopped initiating talking to me and looking at me for like 3 months. So I pretty much minded my own business. Only talked to her occasionally and never asked to hang out or nothing. There was like one time I said something about going somewhere, and she was like that sounds fun. I said you can go and she was like I'm busy this weekend so I never brought it up again. Edited June 22, 2012 by aa112211
fishtaco Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Typical. You'll run across this type of behavior from women many many times in the future. Learn to deal with it. The most simple and basic thing you can do is to call her bluff. You flirt? Okay, let's go. No? kthxbye. Next. Alternately you can keep flirting with her to practice your flirting skills, but then hit up on someone else right in front of her. That could get a reaction out of her. If so, you strike while the iron is still hot... get her in bed ASAP, because it won't last. Also, having her flirt and hang all over you is raising your social value in the eyes of other women. So even if you never plan on nailing this chick, she's useful anyway; she can increase your chances with other women. But whatever you decide to do, now you know not to take her seriously. 3
Feelsgoodman Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 The most simple and basic thing you can do is to call her bluff. You flirt? Okay, let's go. No? kthxbye. Next. Alternately you can keep flirting with her to practice your flirting skills, but then hit up on someone else right in front of her. That could get a reaction out of her. If so, you strike while the iron is still hot... get her in bed ASAP, because it won't last. Also, having her flirt and hang all over you is raising your social value in the eyes of other women. So even if you never plan on nailing this chick, she's useful anyway; she can increase your chances with other women. But whatever you decide to do, now you know not to take her seriously. Good advice here. This girl is an attention whore, but you can use that to your advantage provided you don't "fall" for her. 1
Author aa112211 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 (edited) well I almost told her she was an attention whore but didn't. I told her if we were just friends not to expect much out of it. Because I wouldn't put any effort into it and would never ask to hang out or anything. And I know for a fact guys that are just friends with her still have to initiate everything. So it seems pointless to me. I pretty much just plan on going our separate ways and only being co workers. Edited June 23, 2012 by aa112211
fishtaco Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 well I almost told her she was an attention whore but didn't. I told her if we were just friends not to expect much out of it. Because I wouldn't put any effort into it and would never ask to hang out or anything. And I know for a fact guys that are just friends with her still have to initiate everything. So it seems pointless to me. I pretty much just plan on going our separate ways and only being co workers. And that's perfectly fine. I believe a man should never react badly. So you did right by not calling her out. Let her be an attention whore, not your problem, some ex-con will knock her up in no time. Shrug and walk away but stay polite, is usually the most simple and direct response to most of these common women behaviors.
Author aa112211 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 One thing I don't get is. I had an errand to run and didn't have a lot of time so she offered to do it for me. I didn't let her. When she did stop by my house we went to get food(like a 30 mile trip). I offered to give her gas money and she was like no I invited you so I will pay. Then she always wants to cook stuff and bring it into work for me. Why go through that much trouble for attention. There are many other guys who are willing to give her attention and think nothing of it. Because they think they will eventually get somewhere.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 One thing I don't get is. I had an errand to run and didn't have a lot of time so she offered to do it for me. I didn't let her. When she did stop by my house we went to get food(like a 30 mile trip). I offered to give her gas money and she was like no I invited you so I will pay. Then she always wants to cook stuff and bring it into work for me. Why go through that much trouble for attention. There are many other guys who are willing to give her attention and think nothing of it. Because they think they will eventually get somewhere. You are the one who's not giving her attention, so she's upping the stakes by being super nice and trying to get you to like her. But once you cave in, it's mission accomplished and she will lose interest. If that sounds crazy, that's because it is...but that's women for ya. If you were good at playing women, you could probably manipulate this ho into sleeping with you. 1
Author aa112211 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 (edited) idk I don't plan on talking to her other than when I have to at work. I have like 2.5 weeks vacation coming up this month so I won't be around her much. Now if she tries to get a hold of me in that time do I act nice and give her short replies or just ignore it. Edited June 23, 2012 by aa112211
2sunny Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 idk I don't plan on talking to her other than when I have to at work. I have like 2.5 weeks vacation coming up this month so I won't be around her much. Now if she tries to get a hold of me in that time do I act nice and give her short replies or just ignore it. Don't spend any time or energy on her since she shot you down. She's teasing you - that's not nice when she doesn't intend to date you. Attention seekers are too much trouble. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Typical. You'll run across this type of behavior from women many many times in the future. Learn to deal with it. The most simple and basic thing you can do is to call her bluff. You flirt? Okay, let's go. No? kthxbye. Next. Alternately you can keep flirting with her to practice your flirting skills, but then hit up on someone else right in front of her. That could get a reaction out of her. If so, you strike while the iron is still hot... get her in bed ASAP, because it won't last. Also, having her flirt and hang all over you is raising your social value in the eyes of other women. So even if you never plan on nailing this chick, she's useful anyway; she can increase your chances with other women. But whatever you decide to do, now you know not to take her seriously. Yup, the truth at its core. Women are never going to stop doing all of this silly nonsense. They're like children who can never grow up.
Author aa112211 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 And I'm assuming that if someone were to keep a friend like this she will interfere and sabotage relationships you have with other girls. In order to keep your attention on her.
Sugarkane Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 She sounds pretty weird. So she stops by your house? Was she stalking you or something? I would never do something like this. It's not just women that do this kind of thing either. I have a make co worker- the boss's son who akways lies and leads everyone on. I never fall for it. He always lies that he's going to breakup, even though he claims he's been engaged to the same woman for YEARS! He always flirts heavily with each girl and tries to make them jealous of each other. So much for women just being childish. I just grab the pop corn and watch.
Author aa112211 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 She sounds pretty weird. So she stops by your house? Was she stalking you or something? I would never do something like this. It's not just women that do this kind of thing either. I have a make co worker- the boss's son who akways lies and leads everyone on. I never fall for it. He always lies that he's going to breakup, even though he claims he's been engaged to the same woman for YEARS! He always flirts heavily with each girl and tries to make them jealous of each other. So much for women just being childish. I just grab the pop corn and watch. lol funny about the stalking. Because like back in March she texted me and asked me something about my house. I was like what in the world are you doing out by my house. She was like I was bored and went out driving. I would have stopped by if you would have been home. Which I thought was really strange because when didn't even hang out together so why would she just show up at my house, which is like 15 miles from hers.
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