kansasu Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I kept passing a girl on the street near where I live and I eventually plucked up the courage to talk to her. She was talkative and positive when I did so and asked my name at the end. I found myself forgetting all about the lines and topics I had planned to talk about and it all became natural conversation. This sense of relaxed chatting lead to me asking her if she would like to go for a coffee or something. This was my first time speaking to her so I shocked myself that I was even able to do this. She said maybe next time we bump into each other. I politely said no worries. I didn't have it in me to start looking for her phone number after that first question. I also understood this answer as she was well out from where we live and also it was very random where I met her, but I knew I would see her again. A few days later, I saw her in a mall. Trouble is, it was like 4 days later. I saw her coming and she waved with a HI wave first. I thought jumping in her path again so soon was probably a bit much, so I said Hi and asked how she was while we both kept walking. We were both looking at each other as we passed and then eventually, we looked away. She had a kind of searching, eye smile look on her face. I'm kicking myself as it was a perfect chance to speak to her again. But a few reasons put me off, firstly, I really don't want to come across as someone who will try to stop her each time I see her. I know how easily we can all be labelled as a creep. So my hope was to show that I'm not like that(I never approached a girl like I did with her before) and that I am busy with my own things and that now is not the perfect time. Quite possibly it was not the right time for her either despite how it looked. Secondly, It was such obvious pressure considering that there were coffeeshops all around. I didn't want her to feel somehow pressured into going just because there were so many around and look "It's me again!". I have already decided to try and speak to her next time I see her which could be anywhere, anytime, hopefully not a long time and at that point I will try to see if she wants to share her number etc. What are your thoughts on this?. Would I have appeared over eager to go right back up to her again that short after the first encounter?.
Imajerk17 Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I think you did fine. You asked her out for coffee, she gave you a noncommital answer, and so the ball was really in her court. You showed her you weren't creepy by how you handled it.
FitChick Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Next time you see her say, "It was great seeing you again. If you still want to go for coffee some time, here is my number." Not necessarily those exact words but you get the idea. No pressure, light and breezy, and it's up to her. Then mentally just let it go to happen or not. She might even surprise you by mentioning it first. Who knows? I think you did well.
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