edelveis Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Hello guys..Almost 2 months after my brake up and if u see my previous threads you ll understand that even though things get a little tough sometimes i am doing generally well keeping my self busy and having no contact since then..I am just a bit worried coz the "missing her" feeling is not fading with time..i dont miss her whole day but the times during the day (or night)i do are really too hard..in such a moment yesterday i found my self going to the bench at the park where she left me and havent seen her till then.. I dont know why i did that,it was just pointless and i felt too much pain going there..i just had that need..deep down i have decided and realised that she will never come back but even if she will i will never take her back coz i deserve much better than her.the thing is that sometimes when i am telling that to myself it feels like i dont really believe it and just trying to pursuade myself on that..and when it happens its so annoying.. One last thing that keeps playing in my mind is that one day i would get satisfied if she would return one day just to be rejected by me.to make her feel like i am feeling right now..go through all this pain.its not very pleasant to know that she is probably enjoying her life when i am trying hard just to move on..but i dont think of it that often.. p.s if a dumper ever want to come back to you how you understand it ?they really show it now matter their personallity?eg shy or not,expressive ,not good with word and each..its a general question that i always had.
betterdeal Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Aw, I hope you keep getting better and I know you will. Imagine the day when you don't feel bad at all about it? That day will come, and you just got to keep that in mind. Things will get better. Find other things to do that you enjoy. Maybe just have a nice hot bath or go for a run, or fly a kite. And soon enough, you'll be tired of being sad and you'd let it go. Keep posting if you need to. People here will listen. Take care.
Author edelveis Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 hi.yeah i know that one day i ll be totally fine :)i hope to be soon! i ll certainly keep posting here.. take care too !
Mariana345 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hello guys..Almost 2 months after my brake up and if u see my previous threads you ll understand that even though things get a little tough sometimes i am doing generally well keeping my self busy and having no contact since then..I am just a bit worried coz the "missing her" feeling is not fading with time..i dont miss her whole day but the times during the day (or night)i do are really too hard..in such a moment yesterday i found my self going to the bench at the park where she left me and havent seen her till then.. I dont know why i did that,it was just pointless and i felt too much pain going there..i just had that need..deep down i have decided and realised that she will never come back but even if she will i will never take her back coz i deserve much better than her.the thing is that sometimes when i am telling that to myself it feels like i dont really believe it and just trying to pursuade myself on that..and when it happens its so annoying.. One last thing that keeps playing in my mind is that one day i would get satisfied if she would return one day just to be rejected by me.to make her feel like i am feeling right now..go through all this pain.its not very pleasant to know that she is probably enjoying her life when i am trying hard just to move on..but i dont think of it that often.. p.s if a dumper ever want to come back to you how you understand it ?they really show it now matter their personallity?eg shy or not,expressive ,not good with word and each..its a general question that i always had. I'm thinking that way too, that some day he'll want to come back and that will be my turn to hurt him... But it seems pointless to think that way, cause there is a chance that he doesn't want to come back at all, and that may be a lose of my time... We need to move on! We can do this!
Samilia Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hello guys..Almost 2 months after my brake up and if u see my previous threads you ll understand that even though things get a little tough sometimes i am doing generally well keeping my self busy and having no contact since then..I am just a bit worried coz the "missing her" feeling is not fading with time..i dont miss her whole day but the times during the day (or night)i do are really too hard..in such a moment yesterday i found my self going to the bench at the park where she left me and havent seen her till then.. I dont know why i did that,it was just pointless and i felt too much pain going there..i just had that need..deep down i have decided and realised that she will never come back but even if she will i will never take her back coz i deserve much better than her.the thing is that sometimes when i am telling that to myself it feels like i dont really believe it and just trying to pursuade myself on that..and when it happens its so annoying.. One last thing that keeps playing in my mind is that one day i would get satisfied if she would return one day just to be rejected by me.to make her feel like i am feeling right now..go through all this pain.its not very pleasant to know that she is probably enjoying her life when i am trying hard just to move on..but i dont think of it that often.. p.s if a dumper ever want to come back to you how you understand it ?they really show it now matter their personallity?eg shy or not,expressive ,not good with word and each..its a general question that i always had. It's normal that you go back to that bench, that's where your relationship died. I hate to make the comparison, but it's like those flowers and crosses, bears, that you see on the side of the road, people mourn the person they lost where the accident happened. It does get better but I think we all heal at our own pace, the key is to want to get better though. Don't bury yourself in misery; from what you say, you keep busy, so that's good. Keep up the "good work" on getting better, you seem angry, that's good, your grief is evolving.
CopingGal Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Of course you are still missing your ex. It's only been 2 months. It takes timeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Good luck.
pathetic1999 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I'm almost 9 weeks out so close to you too and I feel like you do....and YES I want him to come back so I can reject him! I just ...hope...I would reject him...
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