Leigh 87 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I feel strange - I seam to take very bad pictures, no matter how natural or happy I am - even when I do not know there is a camera! I thought it was supposed to be the other way around - good pictures are easier, therefore in real life, most people who meet online are a tiny bit underwhelmed? From what I have hard - normal girls taking skinny pics and with loads of make up, turning out to have a bit of a gut.... Peoplle constantly tell me, that when they meet me in real life, I am much better looking than in my facebook/online pics. I fact- they look and soud very relieved that " wow you are really attractive in real life, you sure do take bad pics". Like WOW. Without me even asking their opinions! Does this happen to you? They actually sound surprised, as though I take bad pics, and they are shocked they actuall find me attractive in real life. Even my own boyfriend says I look significantly better in real life, than online - and that I do not take very nice pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is just strange how people always tell me I am very attractive in real life, and yet online MUCH more people think I am a 6/10. In real life, people act and say they find me to be much more attractive than people consider me to be online. Would YOU tell a girl you met online, that her picture was not great, and you were shocked that you found her quiet attractive? I tend to attract honest guys that do not beat around the bush - that tell me if I have gained a few pounds, but are still very complimentary, but strong enough to tell me before it gets out of hand. ..... This also brings me to a question; do people using online dating, take pics when the wear a lot of make up, and when they look their very best? Obviously it is not when your gut is hanging out, after you have had a few too many beers and pizza, and with no make up - but I still take normal pics, the one I had that people said was average on here was of me in the morning with my dogs, without any make up. Is it silly to show your real, un made up self, without your body ( if your body is really good) to guys, hoping that they will like you for your natural self? Really, should you sell yourself better, in the hopes that they will like you so much that they will overlook the fact your much mroe attractive with make up and in your online profile? I have always assumed that a guy will see the real you without make up eventually... so.... *sigh*. The good thing about online dating, though, was that I got a good feel for people based on just talking to them, so our minds were already made up regardless of looks - neither of us found the other to be UN attractive, and I was very fit, therefore they obviously overlooked the fact they did not like my online pics - and proceeded to tell me so! I only hear horror stories of online dating -Literally, all the guys have met Psycho's, or very over weight girls. Yet, plenty of ATTARCTIVE and FABULOUS girls I know of, try online dating! You know - smart, fun, attractive, great job...... I guess you don't hear the good outcomes..... Seams to be more of a talking point, to share the funny or extremes? Then I try it, and have guys tell me " look, honestly, I really liked talking to you, I knew you were slim, but I was not sure if you were that attractive or not , and I am extremely relieved I really find you to be attractive, it makes things easier" ......So guys that pick you for your personality and the fact your not UGLY to them - are relieved if you are actually good looking to them, because being average would be so bad? Anyways...............
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Yeah, that happened to me a lot when I started online dating. I was always aware that I wasn't that photogenic but I still thought that my OLD pics looked reasonably good. But then when I met guys from online, quite a few told me that I look better than my pictures. I was even slightly offended. Then I started taking lots of pictures and I think I now have a more representative collection. It's a struggle because I *still* get that comment occassionaly and I am afraid I am missing out on some great guys because of it. I think with me, I am very animated and energetic in person, so perhaps that comes off as more attractive *shrug*. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Funnily enough, most people that have seen a pic before meeting me have commented that I look different than in my pictures. I don't think it's that I'm necessarily non-photogenic, but rather that pictures don't really capture my likeness that well.
Squishy_Belle Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Funnily enough, most people that have seen a pic before meeting me have commented that I look different than in my pictures. I don't think it's that I'm necessarily non-photogenic, but rather that pictures don't really capture my likeness that well. I feel this happening to me a lot too.
Author Leigh 87 Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 Yeah, that happened to me a lot when I started online dating. I was always aware that I wasn't that photogenic but I still thought that my OLD pics looked reasonably good. But then when I met guys from online, quite a few told me that I look better than my pictures. I was even slightly offended. Then I started taking lots of pictures and I think I now have a more representative collection. It's a struggle because I *still* get that comment occassionaly and I am afraid I am missing out on some great guys because of it. I think with me, I am very animated and energetic in person, so perhaps that comes off as more attractive *shrug*. How long did it take you to get a feel, for what .. really represented you? I am also a very animated person! People online get that from talking with me, though..... All my fb pics, come to think of it, are of me making retarded faces, and running down the road with my pants off drunk ( I ONLY add friends, and let friends see my fb page- as if I would show that side of me to employers, I have a diff account for them) You know?There are NO normal, nice pics of me! Just me with a fake moustache on my face, grinning like an idiot, or of me .... well, being me. I guess I am a little immature for my age. Oops. What do you guys think it is? That people think your a lot better in real life? I would like to think it is how you act and the energy you bring and the over all package that shines through - yet, I have a feeling it really IS superficial - some people do not take good pics. IN fact, they take very BAD pics..... I mean, ****.... If I attracted so many good looking men online, when I take sh*tty pics, imagine what the best looking girls get>!>!! 1000.0083084328482032 requests? I guess they added me because I WAS very thin with big boobs back then.... Not because they thought I was pretty, lol. The thing with me is... I literally, in real life - go from being called gorgeous and hit on by a lot of guys, and my honest friends of all ages tell me I am attractive ( without me asking). Yet online, people on this website, in that other dating thread, were like " your up yourself, your not hot, your a 6/10 at best" I am like.. really? That is not the feedback I get in real life, and I am not deluded, and the people I am around are not all LYING..... And, again - I never have any problems finding people in real life that find be attractive - I have a weird nose and therefore am no model ( but have had a lot of people tell me I could be a model without my bad nose) but besidse the nose, a lot of people think I am attractive.... YET online, I am average at BEST.... There just seams to be a huge difference between how I look in real life and the feedback I get online. Not just a difference of " oh, you were alright, but your even better" but, the difference between being HOT or.. not....
Ross MwcFan Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 I only wish I could meet someone from online, so they could tell me if I look anything like my good pictures IRL, or even let me know if I'm very ugly IRL.
FitChick Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Most people are relieved if you look like your pictures because of people posting pictures that don't look like they do now. I would love to do a glamor shot with Roger Gania James when I can afford it, but I'd only make it one of several real life photos because I wouldn't look like the glamor shot on a daily basis.
nessaaa Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Most people are relieved if you look like your pictures because of people posting pictures that don't look like they do now. I would love to do a glamor shot with Roger Gania James when I can afford it, but I'd only make it one of several real life photos because I wouldn't look like the glamor shot on a daily basis. I haatte how I look in pictures, but in videos I look really nice. but I hate pictures I look brutal!
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