danny1234 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Hi, I've done this recently and it's helped me feel a lot better, you need to be in the right frame of mind to do it and it will take you a while. It may also need to modify it depending on the nature of the breakup. Write down the following:- Why it was destined to never work:- -make a list of fundamental reasons it was never destined to work long term. ie: they were unreasonable, uncompatible etc. the more specific you can be the better. List all the reasons you were unhappy, how your ex irritated you, conflict of beliefs,etc. What did I do wrong -make a list of all the things that you think you did wrong down (if any). Sometimes we feel like we are also to blame i.e. we got too lazy in the relationship. Positive things:- What positive things did I learn from the relationship eg: had fun, learnt lessons, etc. Lessons i learnt:- Write down what you learnt from the relationship (this will help you take these lessons to a new relationship). What I need to do now:- Write down steps you are going to take to move forwards, eg, expand social circle, exercise, join a dance class, etc. This made me feel a lot better about the dead relationship and positive about moving forward. It is sort of a reflective learning method used in education. You can modify/add to it at any time and re-read it when you are low. Good luck, Dan x 1
edwards99 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I had thought about doing just thay but wondered if it would be beneficial..seeing someone else has thought tge same n it helped them makes me think i should try it. thx for that
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