Beaker78 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Ok so here is my story(am here to vent) so i have been seeing this older women for about 11 months 6 of those was long distance.. We had made plans and spoke most of the time on skype but there was a 4 hour time difference between us she stayed on an island in the middle of the atlantic i visted this island and stayed for 6 moths last year and have now returned for another 6 months. She is leaving at the end of august to return to her home country and then after maybe a month or 2 she will move to the UK...Although the move to the UK was so that we could be together and i could work as i am unable to on the island i am living on. Ok so here is the thing, we have in all the time we have been together the full 11 months never had an argument at all not 1 we had conversations about everything and we seemed to be open with each other... This includes me missing valentines day and her birthday (yup i am a bastard) i was unemployed though for 4 of the 6 months of the LDR. So about 4-5 weeks ago i found out that my dad has Lung Cancer and then about a week after that 1 of my friends was Murdered (should have seen the third thing coming) the same weekend my friend was murdered my ex decided she wouldnt contact me and wait until i contacted her which i didn't until she phoned me on skype on the Tuesday. On this skype call we discussed how i hadn't contacted her she said to me that she felt like we where just friends i explained that off course it feels like that because there is no intimacy in skype and that after 6 months its difficult when your 4000 miles apart (yeah 4000) but we had got this far blah blah blah... Then she said something that stuck in my head "it would be crap if you where here and we had split" this stuck in my head all night and then the next day i sent an email that said basically lets split up if thats the only reason we are staying together. her response was "Well, that's not the only reason, as we do get along well, but you may have a point. I think that there are some bigger issues. Over the last little while, I've been questioning how compatible we would be together long-term." with some more stuff aswell but tbh as soon as i seen that i kinda figured that was that so i went NC straight after that and removed her from FB and all got rid of everything that reminded me of her.... Now i just needed to vent and write all this out somewhere... I get the feeling if i had not instigated the break up then i dont know if it would have happened at that point or not.....
Author Beaker78 Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 Hmm thought some people may have had something to reply
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