SteveC80 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Lately a lot of threads have come up with desperate guys and girls who cant attract the opposite sex dont you think the problem is a lot of them just arent attracted to the people in their league? I know somebody made a thread that youre attracted to what you can get but i dont realy agree with that,were all visual and like looking at pretty things i dont believe people are attracted to other unattractive people just because they are i beleive some settle because its all they can get,its self preservation in the mating world to find somebody who will be with you imo but i dont think these people are that hot for each other
AD1980 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I agree and disagree..I agree in that im 32 never been with a women but i still cant be with somebody unattractive just because they might be in my "league" being unattractive myself doesnt make me attracted to people i dont find attractive.. I disagree with people who say if you stay in your league youll do well..ive found some average or blah looking women even more nasty and picky then attractive women.. Some average looking women have a snese of entitlement because your average women can get sex and pumped and dumped by a hot guy so it may inflate her view of herself and where she stands on the social food chain and what level guy she can get.. Your average guy knows where he stands because he has to go through many rejections before a yes if he gets one at all.. 1
somedude81 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Lately a lot of threads have come up with desperate guys and girls who cant attract the opposite sex dont you think the problem is a lot of them just arent attracted to the people in their league? I know somebody made a thread that youre attracted to what you can get but i dont realy agree with that,were all visual and like looking at pretty things i dont believe people are attracted to other unattractive people just because they are i beleive some settle because its all they can get,its self preservation in the mating world to find somebody who will be with you imo but i dont think these people are that hot for each other I don't remember any threads about women who couldn't attract anybody. 1
MrCastle Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I think some people have priced themselves out of the market. I've seen this more so with girls. They reject people in their range with the belief that they can do better, but in reality, the high quality guys they're holding out for are going out with higher quality women. 1
FitChick Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I don't remember any threads about women who couldn't attract anybody. You mean you've missed all those endless threads started or hijacked by your female twin, "she who cannot be named?"
Feelsgoodman Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Lately a lot of threads have come up with desperate guys and girls who cant attract the opposite sex dont you think the problem is a lot of them just arent attracted to the people in their league? That's what I keep telling these people but they won't listen. I think hollywood and television ruined things for a lot of people. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Why should anyone date someone they find unattractive? Would rather be alone, frankly 2
somedude81 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 You mean you've missed all those endless threads started or hijacked by your female twin, "she who cannot be named?" Oh, I forgot about her. She hasn't been around in a couple of days. Ok, so that's one girl. Of course, it's not like she's a virgin and never had a relationship...
LittleMissSatin Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 It makes me feel sad for ugly people that they dont get to find someone they love. If I had to choose between being with someone I didnt find attractive and being alone, Id be alone. A relationship isnt worth being miserable with someone you dont even want to touch! Ick!
Feelsgoodman Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Why should anyone date someone they find unattractive? Would rather be alone, frankly Attraction is a relative concept. On an island inhibited by Rosie O'Donnell clones, any average girl would be seen as extremely attractive. And if you lived in a small American town and then went to Eastern Europe, every other woman would seem like a beauty queen...initially anyway (after a while, your standards would adjust).
Kamille Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Fortunately, I'm attracted to more than looks. Otherwise, I would have the limited view that finding a partner is all about appearances. 4
ThaWholigan Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Attraction is a relative concept. On an island inhibited by Rosie O'Donnell clones, any average girl would be seen as extremely attractive. And if you lived in a small American town and then went to Eastern Europe, every other woman would seem like a beauty queen...initially anyway (after a while, your standards would adjust). Probably, I'd imagine so. I think that attraction is also a subjective thing. For example, I'm not really that attracted to Eastern European women normally (some of them are hot though). I'm more into black, hispanic and middle eastern women.
skippercollector Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I mentioned this in a previous thread, and I am copying and pasting it. I am a woman, and I've always considered myself a 4 in attractiveness. 5, I can manage a few times a year, and I think I've been up to 6 once or twice in my life. Unfortunately, I've never found the male 4's that I've met over the years to be attractive, either physically or emotionally. What makes it worse is that I live in a town with a much larger female than male population. Actually, many of the 4 guys are "taken" as well, since there are so many women around. All that's left are the the 1's and 2's, who seem to worship me. I'm talking about homeless guys, morbidly obese men, men with substance abuse problems, men with police records, etc.
jobaba Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Lately a lot of threads have come up with desperate guys and girls who cant attract the opposite sex dont you think the problem is a lot of them just arent attracted to the people in their league? I know somebody made a thread that youre attracted to what you can get but i dont realy agree with that,were all visual and like looking at pretty things i dont believe people are attracted to other unattractive people just because they are i beleive some settle because its all they can get,its self preservation in the mating world to find somebody who will be with you imo but i dont think these people are that hot for each other Yes. I think people aim for what is just above them lookswise and accomplishment wise as well. Not all people think like this, but most do, want the best they can get in terms of looks and resume that is.
Bristolius Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 That's what I keep telling these people but they won't listen. I think hollywood and television ruined things for a lot of people. I think you're onto something here.
AD1980 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I would rather be alone then with somebody i have no physical attraction to at all just because its all i can get..i just cant be with someobdy i cant even picture making out with..but its not like im only attracted to 9's an 10's I maybe wrong but i honestly believe mediocre looking women have a harder time being attracted to mediocre looking Men then vice versa because those women can get hot men to sleep with them which in turn may inflate their ego and self awareness.. 1
Nomad Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 It seems to be the consensus here that average-looking women have an easier time attracting good-looking guys than vice-versa. I would have thought it would be just the opposite: in my experience I seem to see more ugly-to-average guys with hot women than not-so-great-looking women with handsome guys. Of course, maybe that's just me... 1
Nomad Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 (edited) The question raised in the OP is one I've wrestled with, as well (I myself even began a thread on it a while back). For instance, I don't need to date a "10" (good thing, too, because no "10" would ever want to date me!), but I do need to be at least somewhat physically attracted to the woman with whom I'm on a date if there's the expectation that we're going to get physical at some point (if we're on a date just for interesting conversation or something, then I needn't be physically attracted to her). I'll be honest: to me, looks matter more than personality when I'm initially attracted to someone. I don't think I've ever become attracted to anyone merely on the basis of personality. When I see a couple who are both overweight and so-so looking, I can't help but wondering if they're really happy together, or if each just "took what they could get"? If the latter, perhaps they grew to appreciate each other more over time, but how do such relationships get off the ground in the first place if each feels that they're settling? Edited June 21, 2012 by Nomad
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 It seems to be the consensus here that average-looking women have an easier time attracting good-looking guys than vice-versa. I would have thought it would be just the opposite: in my experience I seem to see more ugly-to-average guys with hot women than not-so-great-looking women with handsome guys. Of course, maybe that's just me... This is what I see around as well. When I look at couples, the woman is usually hotter than the guy. The opposite is extremely rare. I am baffled by some threads on LS. It has been widely accepted and evidenced that men are more visual than women - so this is just a natural extension. I can't help but feel that guys on here like to twist reality to make excuses for themselves. I also don't think that dateless guys on here are that awful looking - it's more likely that they are socially inept and that weirds girls out. 2
Snakechammah Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Bear in mind that really ugly guys with a truck load of cash will get the hottest chick on the planet to go out with them... It depends on what you're attracted to - looks, status, money.. so sometimes, looks doesnt matter at all! Also, one man's meat is another man's poison. Someone you may not look at twice may be the most beautiful girl in someone else's eyes. It's all in the synastry!
GoodOnPaper Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 It seems to be the consensus here that average-looking women have an easier time attracting good-looking guys than vice-versa. I agree with this but I don't think it's necessarily because average-looking women are magnets for good-looking guys. I think it's because at any given time, average-looking women tend to have a lot more first-date options than average-looking men. With a larger sample to choose from, there is bound to be at least one really good-looking guy among them -- of course, he's the one she'll go with. The rest of us strike out. 1
Necromancer Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 This is what I see around as well. When I look at couples, the woman is usually hotter than the guy. The opposite is extremely rare. I am baffled by some threads on LS. It has been widely accepted and evidenced that men are more visual than women - so this is just a natural extension. I can't help but feel that guys on here like to twist reality to make excuses for themselves. I also don't think that dateless guys on here are that awful looking - it's more likely that they are socially inept and that weirds girls out. Women are better looking than men, because they have make-up we don´t. A 6 looking women can turn to a 7.5/8 with a good make-up. I think it´s not gender based i know girls who are like they are from soup opera, YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE TO THEM, if your ugly: your boring/lame. If your good looking: your bold/funny/confident. Then they complain how there is a lack of good guys out there, it´s funny that they don´t realize that they are the problem not the guys.
GoodOnPaper Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 When I see a couple who are both overweight and so-so looking, I can't help but wondering if they're really happy together, or if each just "took what they could get"? If the latter, perhaps they grew to appreciate each other more over time, but how do such relationships get off the ground in the first place if each feels that they're settling? In most cases, I would be surprised if both partners feel they are settling -- at least to an equal extent. Also, not everyone in real life may analyze physical attraction to the nth degree like we do on LS. On LS, we try to fit physical attraction into a very rigid two-mode model -- we're either completely turned on or completely turned off. I suspect real life isn't that simplistic or we would only see the most gorgeous people having sex and getting married. 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Women are better looking than men, because they have make-up we don´t. A 6 looking women can turn to a 7.5/8 with a good make-up. I think it´s not gender based i know girls who are like they are from soup opera, YOU ARE WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE TO THEM, if your ugly: your boring/lame. If your good looking: your bold/funny/confident. Then they complain how there is a lack of good guys out there, it´s funny that they don´t realize that they are the problem not the guys. Yes, I will agree with the bolded.
jobaba Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 When I see a couple who are both overweight and so-so looking, I can't help but wondering if they're really happy together, or if each just "took what they could get"? If the latter, perhaps they grew to appreciate each other more over time, but how do such relationships get off the ground in the first place if each feels that they're settling? Not everybody cares that much about looks though. I have certain women that I have dated and they have all been decent looking, not model or spectacular. I would take way less than that looks wise if the other pieces were there. So I wouldn't call it settling.
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