AverageJoe80 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I've known this girl for maybe 4 or 5 months, but in those months we'd run into each other at our local hang out, but not often...maybe twice a month, then we got kinda closer & then maybe about a month or so ago, we decided to take it to the next level. And we did. And it's been a perfect, great time. We've been spending our entire weekends together, and stay at her place during the week as well. The chemistry is certainly there, and it's a wonderful thing...everything is simple & easy with her. And I've been on cloud 9. And then the other day, we were texting each other and she brought up this topic of slowing it down. I'll agree with her, we have been moving fast, but it hasn't been a problem at all, ever. And we're both having a good time in the fast lane Until now. We still routinely talk from day to day, and obviously, we don't spend time together as much as originally. But when I'm not with her, miss her, she's on my mind nonstop & it's driving me crazy. I'm a little confused because she always goes on & on about how I treat her the way that she's always wanted to be treated. I guess her past relationships weren't the best. So, of course, that sounds like a good thing to me, and now this? How does she love the way I am with her, yet want to slow down & be like really great friends again? I'm having a hard time back peddling. She honestly might just not be ready because she was with someone for a year, and they split up, probably around the time I originally met her. Maybe 5 months ago? I just now she's so perfect for me, I think she knows that too...but something I guess scared her. I just wish that she would figure out that I'm not like the last clowns that she shared her life with, and there's no doubt about that. Does anyone have advice for me? I know how I want this situation to turn into...something good with us. But how do I handle the situation right now? I don't think I'm very good at being slow. Thanks for any help.
utterer of lies Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 And then the other day, we were texting each other and she brought up this topic of slowing it down. I'm a little confused because she always goes on & on about how I treat her the way that she's always wanted to be treated. I guess her past relationships weren't the best. She's getting bored, you are too much of a certainty. You should probably push her away a bit, until she comes to her senses. That is, if you didn't already lose her.
Author AverageJoe80 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 That could be. But I don't think that's the case at all. It's hard for me to describe how like perfect the 2 of us are. I've been in slow mode. But then I just get confused, because she invited me over last night & we cuddled on the couch, kissed each other, that sorta thing. We're good when we're together, but when we're not together, it seems that's when she's getting these doubts.
utterer of lies Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 That could be. But I don't think that's the case at all. It's hard for me to describe how like perfect the 2 of us are. I've been in slow mode. But then I just get confused, because she invited me over last night & we cuddled on the couch, kissed each other, that sorta thing. We're good when we're together, but when we're not together, it seems that's when she's getting these doubts. You said she had bad experiences before. Maybe she's used to a certain level of drama and uncertainty. I've had gfs who needed that...
Author AverageJoe80 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 I hope you're right about that. I just gotta convince her that with me, there's nothing to be scared about & that she should embrace the fact that someone good came into her life. I'm pretty good friends with her sister, she says that is all it is. Idiot ex boyfriends cause this whole thing. So, I guess we'll see. It's a ****ty spot to be in, it's like I'm just like on call or something. I did fail to mention she has a 2 year old child too, and she might just wanna take her time & realize when the time is right, it's right...for the good of her family.
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