NYC-BigKat Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 My cousin says the only way this to work is to not care no more. But how do people even get to that level I dont understand how? Its true that I'm easily hurt and upset but how can I stop caring about things so it doesn't bother me anymore? I really really wanna get tougher and be unaffected, but I need a way to start. So tired of being sensitive .
Philosoraptor Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Wait how are you weak? I'm sensitive but don't consider myself weak in the least. What I'd recommend is not letting outside influences change you or how you feel about yourself. Become strong, confident, and happy with yourself just the way you are and the outside world won't tear at your core.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Wait how are you weak? I'm sensitive but don't consider myself weak in the least. What I'd recommend is not letting outside influences change you or how you feel about yourself. Become strong, confident, and happy with yourself just the way you are and the outside world won't tear at your core. Its my cousin that said I'm weak . I dont know how true it is but it may be true though anyway. I do things like beg sometimes. If I meet a girl I'm into or something I will keep calling & texting her 'cause I like her & then it usually turns them off . I'm trying to get a job since I graduated college but its not easy 'cause of the competition so when I get interviews with a employer they ask me questions I dont know how to answer . My cousin says this makes me weak. I wanna overcome this.
Philosoraptor Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 It sounds like you lack boundaries more than anything. What you need to do is set boundaries for yourself. First figure out who you are and become happy with that. You lack self confidence and that's what needs to be worked on. The thing to understand is that if someone doesn't like you just the way you are they're not the person for you anyways. Work on your confidence before you put yourself out there. 1
an6el Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 it's not that you should not care anymore, but just be more laid back... just let things fall to place... it will be hard... but that's the best thing to do and just step back
Ross MwcFan Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 (edited) I'm not sure how not knowing how to answer particular questions makes you weak. A good start would be by not giving a **** about your cousins opinion. Only change because you believe you're weak and you want to change for yourself. Edited June 19, 2012 by Ross MwcFan
henderson14 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Its my cousin that said I'm weak . I dont know how true it is but it may be true though anyway. I do things like beg sometimes. If I meet a girl I'm into or something I will keep calling & texting her 'cause I like her & then it usually turns them off . I'm trying to get a job since I graduated college but its not easy 'cause of the competition so when I get interviews with a employer they ask me questions I dont know how to answer . My cousin says this makes me weak. I wanna overcome this. Well you just answered your own question didnt you? A lot of guys don't even realize what they are doing wrong. Dating is sort of a game in the early stages. You need to show self control and STOP calling and texting all the time. Make sure she calls and texts you first sometimes. Don't beg! Act like you have a busy life and that she isn't the center of your life, even if you feel that she is! Give her space! Don't be annoying. These things should be common sense. As far as job interviews, you answered your own question there also. You need to print out a list of interview questions and memorize answers to every single one. Success in life and with women is very similar. I think thats why women subconsciously seek out characteristics in men that make them successful in real life. Interviewers often seek out things that women in dating seek out. In a job interview, just as a date, you need to seem confident and know who you are.
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