Vintage79 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 My schedule gets busy, and my down time, when I can actually call someone for a date, is usually on the later side (i.e. after 10 p.m.). How would it be perceived if I e-mail a girl and essentially ask her about a good time to call (and obviously include a bit of witty banter/sincere content)? Or would it be better to just call, and not worry about this? Neither is tough - I'm wondering more about the perceptions - is asking a sign of low confidence, or is it a sign of courtesy? Without a time called out, it would likely turn into phone tag, or me calling when she really doesn't want to talk (i.e. after her bed time or during the middle of the work day). It's not hard for me to lock down a time, but without the notice, I frequently have plans that run through strange hours. Thoughts would be great. Thanks!
firehawk_1 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 its what women want now. where you have to schedule when to call her and that it cant last more than 20 seconds. basically they say everything and treat you like a troll and a dog. you get no say at all.
Author Vintage79 Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 Firehawk - you seem a bit bitter...I haven't had the issue with them only wanting to talk for 20 seconds, or treat me like a troll or dog, or give me no say. I have generally found that women like a guy who takes charge - which is part of the origin of my questions.
FitChick Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I generally date men in different time zones so it is imperative that we set a time for a phone date, same as any other date. I am very punctual and appreciate a man who is punctual as well. It's common courtesy.
january2011 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I don't think it's weird to ask when it's the first phone call and you've just received her number. But then I'm very protective of my time and space, so getting a non-emergency phone call at an ungodly hour from someone I don't know very well is unwelcome. I do think it depends on the woman though - some may not mind the interruption. As an aside, I agree that it's a matter of courtesy, but then not all women may think that way - some may want you to just "get on with it." You'll have to make the judgement call as to which it is based on previous interactions.
phineas Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I always ask when a good time to call is. But it's only because the women i'd be calling usually have kids also. If they don't have kids then I just call when I don't have my kids.
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