notaneatfreak Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 This guy I am into and I finally confessed our feelings for each other the other night. However, we both just got out of a long distance relationship that did not really end well, however, I like this guy a lot, he's my best friends, best male friend. We want to take things slowly. How long am I supposed to wait til he calls me? I just really enjoy his company and he makes me laugh a lot. Our work schedules clash right now yet I still would like to hang out and get to know him, and I know the feeling is mutual. My friends say I am supposed to play hard to get but I am really horrible at that but how long are you supposed to play hard to get? i don't get the whole play-hard-to-get thing someone care to explain?
Cracker Jack Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 (edited) You don't need to play hard to get. Nothing wrong with picking up the phone and calling (or texting) whenever you'd like. If you're both clearly into each other, there's no point to playing games Edited June 18, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
mortensorchid Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 It's best to wait for a bit. If he has not called within the first 24-48 hours after a get together, he will be a friend and not a lover. It's been proven to me time and again.
FitChick Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 There is a middle ground between playing hard to get and chasing. Be receptive to meeting him when he suggests it. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 My friends say I am supposed to play hard to get but I am really horrible at that but how long are you supposed to play hard to get? You're supposed to play hard to get as long as it takes for him to get sick of your B.S. and start dating somebody else. 1
truth_seeker Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 This guy I am into and I finally confessed our feelings for each other the other night. However, we both just got out of a long distance relationship that did not really end well, however, I like this guy a lot, he's my best friends, best male friend. We want to take things slowly. How long am I supposed to wait til he calls me? I just really enjoy his company and he makes me laugh a lot. Our work schedules clash right now yet I still would like to hang out and get to know him, and I know the feeling is mutual. My friends say I am supposed to play hard to get but I am really horrible at that but how long are you supposed to play hard to get? i don't get the whole play-hard-to-get thing someone care to explain? This topic gets my blood boiling. Your first mistake is listening to your friends. Your friends are suppose to support you, not dictate your life. I can't begin to tell you how I would be into a girl, I know she would be into me and I had to get her friends approval before I could get a date. Your friends may not be your friends. One or two of them could be insecure and jealous and just want to sabotage your happiness with bad advice. This almost happened to a friend of mine. He asked out this girl he liked and she almost turned him down because her friends did not approve of him. She didn't listen to them, gave him a chance, and they've been dating 4 years now. What do you want? Do you want to call this guy? Yes? Then do it! Don't listen to your friends. Listen to your gut. 1
january2011 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 (edited) You like this guy and he likes you. Not only that, you are best friends. Why would you want to mess that up by playing games and pretending that you're not that interested in him? Don't play games. You started the relationship with honesty (about your feelings for each other), there is no reason to be less than honest going forward. Edited June 19, 2012 by january2011 2
El Brujo Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 This guy I am into and I finally confessed our feelings for each other the other night. However, we both just got out of a long distance relationship that did not really end well, however, I like this guy a lot, he's my best friends, best male friend. We want to take things slowly. How long am I supposed to wait til he calls me? I just really enjoy his company and he makes me laugh a lot. Our work schedules clash right now yet I still would like to hang out and get to know him, and I know the feeling is mutual. My friends say I am supposed to play hard to get but I am really horrible at that but how long are you supposed to play hard to get? i don't get the whole play-hard-to-get thing someone care to explain? Sounds to me like someone played a practical joke on you and you took it seriously. The internet spelled the death of HTG. Nowadays, those who play HTG end up not gotten.
KungFuJoe Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 LOL. These topics make me SO glad I'm not single anymore. If you really like someone, do what you want to do. If he/she gets all pissy because you called within 18 hours instead of 32.5, then EFF them...they weren't worth your time or they weren't that into you to begin with.
truth_seeker Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 LOL. These topics make me SO glad I'm not single anymore. If you really like someone, do what you want to do. If he/she gets all pissy because you called within 18 hours instead of 32.5, then EFF them...they weren't worth your time or they weren't that into you to begin with. These girls then wonder why they can't meet anyone. 1
Author notaneatfreak Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Sounds to me like someone played a practical joke on you and you took it seriously. The internet spelled the death of HTG. Nowadays, those who play HTG end up not gotten. Sorry I don't follow. Explain?
Author notaneatfreak Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 You like this guy and he likes you. Not only that, you are best friends. Why would you want to mess that up by playing games and pretending that you're not that interested in him? Don't play games. You started the relationship with honesty (about your feelings for each other), there is no reason to be less than honest going forward. Clarity - we're not best friends. We both like each other. He's my best friends best guy friend.
nessaaa Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Clarity - we're not best friends. We both like each other. He's my best friends best guy friend. i don't get why ur playing hard to get when you both already confessed you like eachother. shouldn't you be trying to move forward with the relationship and moving on to the next step instaed of holding back with this playing hard to get bull****? quit holding back.. if u wanna talk to him, call him... you wanna hang out, let him know. 2
WonderKid Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 First and foremost if I see a woman needing ANY approval regarding her relationships and decisions I leave her right away. That means she can't ****in think for herself and she's a grown ass woman. I hate that with a passion. Second, this is why some guys get frustrated and actually go for mature women. Stop playing hard to get. Never play that. Women can go get their man just as a man can go get that woman. Just be real.
AH1990 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 ...but how long are you supposed to play hard to get?... Try playing hard to get. I think I already know what he's going to do when you try that. I had a girl try that on me. After I got wind of what she was trying, I just pushed her off to the side and made some other girl my priority. Why should I make the first girl my priority when she thinks a relationships are just a silly little game? My honest advice: CALL HIM! TEXT HIM!! Do whatever it is you have to do to get in touch with him and ask him out! Who gives a **** about calling 3 days after he texts you, or not returning his calls for a week. If he has any sort of smart mindset, he will know what you are trying to do! Then your pushed to the back of the line. See it like this: Would you chase after a guy who did the same to you? Would you chase after a guy who made you have to work to get his attention? Most likely no. By any chance are your friends single? Cause their advice that they have given you might explain why.
mortensorchid Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 I reread things that you (and others) posted on this. I am unclear, has one party actually ASKED the other for a get together? I see nothing but a feeling of want to see him, but there is nothing here that says you have planned or will plan a get together on (date).
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