january2011 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 LS isn't the real world...and for every one of you or any of the other mature and self-aware individuals on LS, there are five women out there in the real world who will base attraction purely on two dimensions... In that case, let them stand up and be counted. If the two-dimensions-oriented women are a common experience for you in your "real world," it suggests a re-location after you return from deployment.
USMCHokie Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 In that case, let them stand up and be counted. If the two-dimensions-oriented women are a common experience for you in your "real world," it suggests a re-location after you return from deployment. I honestly don't believe I'm in an age group old enough for this not to be prevalent, regardless of my location.
Leigh 87 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 If your ugly, the best outcome would be for you to have a very positive attitude and outlook on life, and to try your best in life to be the best version of yourself, and to go about life without thinking about the fact you are ugly. You know your ugly and canot attract people, so you may as well be positive and go about your life alone. Eventually, since your happy and not looking for love, you will probably make friends with a person who falls for you. Yes, even ugly people get into relationships. A strong minded, confident and happy ugly person, will eventually come across another ugly person who has a positive attitude like they have, and connect and become close. Like all other relationships, but without the initial attraction. If your average, same goes; just go about your life as best you can, if your that remarkable as a person, you may not garner initial attraction, but out of the people you interact with in work, school, or people who are forced to get to know you, eventually ONE great person will come to like a average person, who is a pretty amazing person. If your good looking, obviously you do not need to wait as long for people to show interest. People do not have to get to know you well first. Self belief is just living your life and doing your best, without letting being ugly or average bring you down. It is not believing hyour physically attractive. You will be happy in life, and will probably make friends with enough people, where one of them will fall for you based o your personality. Being confident is one thing, believing your attractive when your not is pointless. People who are not attractive or average, are better of just not focusing on looks, and just being themselves, rather than rank their appearance and letting it dertermine who they talk to and how they act.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I must interject another great Mae West quote here: "A man can be short and dumpy and getting bald but if he has fire, women will like him." It was true whenever she said it, and it's true now. As for women, it's tougher to work with mediocre or bad looks in the dating realm - but having fire never hurts 2
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 As for women, it's tougher to work with mediocre or bad looks in the dating realm - but having fire never hurts ORLY! My Fake Fat Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums How do you think a fat short bald man would fare against that gem? 1
somedude81 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I hate how it's constantly spewed that only women are affected by their looks or how heavy they are.
Necris Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 ORLY! My Fake Fat Girl POF Acc - Bodybuilding.com Forums How do you think a fat short bald man would fare against that gem? Read that thread my reaction: http://boywritesmiami.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/speechless.gif
SJC2008 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Good looking + confidence = relationship Good looking + no confidence = relationship Average looks + confidence = relationship Average looks + no confidence = friend zone Ugly + confidence = friend zone Ugly + no confidence = friend zone I agree! People for the most part date those similar in LOOKS, education, religion and ethnicity. It is a proven sociologial FACT loveshackers and I'll dig the book up to cite if needed. How many charming and charismatic people do you know? Those are very rare traits. Most people are run of the mill every day janes and joes and most of those everyday janes and joes have bf's/gf's.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I hate how it's constantly spewed that only women are affected by their looks or how heavy they are. You boys love to argue rather than learn. 2
USMCHokie Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 ... I'll dig the book up to cite if needed. Please do, if you don't mind. I'd be interested to take a look. 1
somedude81 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 You boys love to argue rather than learn. Who says I love to argue?
SJC2008 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Please do, if you don't mind. I'd be interested to take a look. "Sociologists have found that people, especially when they are young, are very likely to marry someone close in age, and people of all ages typically marry others in the same racial category, of similar social class background, of much the same level of education, and with a similar degree of physicall attractiveness" Taken from page 2 of "Sociology, 14th edition" by John J Macionis. Copyright 2012,2010,2008 by Pearson Education, Inc. Published by prentice hall. 1
betterdeal Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 People for the most part date those similar in LOOKS, education, religion and ethnicity. Not the thirty-year old virgins here. They have their sights set higher, and woe betide any woman who has a similar way of picking a suitable mate. 1
USMCHokie Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 "Sociologists have found that people, especially when they are young, are very likely to marry someone close in age, and people of all ages typically marry others in the same racial category, of similar social class background, of much the same level of education, and with a similar degree of physicall attractiveness" This tends to suggest similarities to the "free market" analogy argument going on in the Physical Attraction and External Validation thread...
USMCHokie Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Just ask any fat chick in her 20's what she thinks of herself, most of them think they're amazingly hot because sometimes good looking , physically fit men hit on them during a dry spell. Physical attraction and external validation...
amantis Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 You DO need a good attitude, no matter what you look like. So don't think I am saying that personality / attitude doesn't matter, it does. In your situation, you need to put yourself in situations where you are spending some regular time with women so they get to know you without the dating pre-text. Ex: meet up groups or sports teams or book clubs, just something where you are around a group and will widen your network. You are so right . What i think is that the good looking guys dont need to try hard in meeting girls , and its not really difficult for good looking guys to have a relationship with them , and everything happens very quick . The "not good looking" guys do have a problem and they have to try harder , so i think that when you meet someone dont think about having a relationship straight away, think about being friends first , get to know them and let them know you , after that maybe you have a better oportunity in dating them . Now im single , sometimes im having luch by myself , and i look around and i see alot of average guys with better looking girlfriends then them . Yes you have to try harder but keep going
betterdeal Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 For every one of these male virgins, there's a female whose complaining about "flaky" men. Oh sure, this unrealistic expectations thing is applicable to men and women. It's a bit like talking about what you'd do if you won the lottery: passes the time, but doesn't actually pay the bills. But maybe that's the point: by having standards you yourself don't actually live up to, one can be safe in the knowledge that one won't have to deal with an actual relationship, be it a one-night stand or longer.
Necris Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Oh sure, this unrealistic expectations thing is applicable to men and women. It's a bit like talking about what you'd do if you won the lottery: passes the time, but doesn't actually pay the bills. But maybe that's the point: by having standards you yourself don't actually live up to, one can be safe in the knowledge that one won't have to deal with an actual relationship, be it a one-night stand or longer. What happens when you live up to your own standards but still can't find a woman? Should you lower them? And if no women at all seem attracted to you would lowering your standards do anything?
AD1980 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Which is why i will go to an escort..instead of listening to the cliche fluff advice given here to attract women ill finally get laid..
AD1980 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 If the OP is like me then you are probably wrong. In my case most women in general reject me I typically talk to average looking girls but that doesn't make anything easier they reject me as well. Yeah average women sometimes act more entitled and mean when you aproach then good looking women Probably because average looking women tend to get hit on by good looking guys for an easy lay that it inflated their ego of what level of Man they can really get
somedude81 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Not the thirty-year old virgins here. They have their sights set higher, and woe betide any woman who has a similar way of picking a suitable mate. Bullcrap. The vast majority of women I've been into are well within my range. It was them who had their sights set higher.
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