Rudyruude Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Hi everyone, I'm new to posting on the site. I've read some posts on here that were helpful but I just needed to tell my story and see if anyone had any advice for me so here we go. I met my girlfriend through one of my female friends I knew from highschool. They were very close and considered themselves sisters. My girlfriend and I started dating just over two years ago. It was great. We were so in love, spent a tonne of time together, spoke of our future together. I loved her with all my heart. I would have gone to the moon and back for her and I'm pretty sure she knew that. Anyways, I am a university student and I go to school an hour plane ride away from my home town (where her and I met). I made sure I came home to visit her at every opportunity I had (actually she was the only reason I wanted to come home to visit). We had spoken about the long distance relationship before I left and we were both prepared to see it through. We stayed in touch (talked everyday, saw eachother on skype) and made plans for when we would see eachother next. My second semester was pretty crazy and I wasn't able to come home to visit. We went 4 months without seeing eachother, but we still talked all the time. We decided we should go on a trip to Cuba as soon as I got home so they day after I got back, away we went. It wasn't the best trip. Things felt a little awkward, I could sense she had something on her mind. The lovey dovey behaviour that we used to have for eachother seemed to have dissappeared. I chalked it up to the fact that we hadn't seen eachother in so long and that it was going to take some time to get back to the way we were. Anyways, when we got back we went on as usual, but things were still a little strained between us. She ended up going to her cabin with two of her close girlfriends for the long weekend and we didn't speak the entire time she was away. When she came back she messaged me saying "hey wanna get together tommorw and talk?" I messaged her back with "absolutley, how was your trip". She ignored me. I tried calling her a few times and she never picked up. I went into panic mode as I kind of had a feeling how our conversation the next day was going to go. Anyways, so I went over to her place the next day to talk to her. She said she had been doing alot of thinking and wasn't happy anymore. So she broke up with me. My heart instantly broke into a million pieces. I didn't know what to say so I just left without saying much. I couldn't believe she would throw away 2 years of being together without even trying to make things right. I was pissed off because I'm pretty sure her girlfriends that she went on a trip with put the idea in her head. I then found out she had been hanging out with these other guys (one of whom was the boyfriend of one of the girls she had gone to her cabin with) who were hockey players who were also around her age (she was 3 years older than me). I went into a pretty deep depression. I treated her like absolute gold. Told her how beautiful she was every time I saw her, would cancel plans with other friends just to come watch a movie with her at her place, picked her up wasted from the bar a couple times, had a great relationship with her whole family. I don't know how I could have been a better boyfriend. So now she's hanging out with these other guys almost every night now. I don't think she is involved with any of them but how should I know. It's been about a month now since we broke up and it has been really hard on me. I wake up thinking about her and continuously check my phone to see if she messaged me which never happens. We haven't spoken very much since she dumped me at all. I know I should move on but this break up has been so hard on me because I loved every inch of her. She just doesn't seem to care especially now that she hangs out with these other guys alot. MOst of you will probably say move on and that's ok because I know thats what I should do. But I would really appreciate your input on my situation. Thanks
Jose11 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I got the im not happy anymore explanation. Trust me i know where you are coming from. It sucks. unfortunately I don't know what to tell you that you don't already know. It seems like she got a case of the GIGS, and just doesn't want to be tied down to anyone. If you don't know what gigs is, look it up here on this website. Take comfort in the fact that many relationship end this way, hell i was with my ex for 8 years when it hit. You should start to move on. Although its hard to hear, as it was for me, thats the best thing to do. build your support network with all your friends and family. they'll help you through this. also take this relationship as a learning experience. You'll know more about what you want in a relationship. Remember a relationship can only work when both people want it to. You can't carry it all on your own. It'll never work that way. Trust me i know.
Chi townD Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Just remember, you're going to college. University is going to help set you up in the long run. And do you know what? IT'S HER FRICKIN LOSS!!!! You're at college, there are so many different things to do, events to go to, parties to attend. Enjoy it! Get involved. Keep busy! Sooner or later, she's going to contact you again. IGNORE IT! It's nothing but breadcrumbs and means nothing.
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