Joaquin Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The most "fun" I've had in the last 5 years was with a girl who'd never had sex before. She was moulded into the perfect sexual partner for me. She would do whatever I wanted. I'd say the her next bf got a real treat. Just throwing it out there.
Emilia Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The most "fun" I've had in the last 5 years was with a girl who'd never had sex before. She was moulded into the perfect sexual partner for me. She would do whatever I wanted. I'd say the her next bf got a real treat. Just throwing it out there. I'd say it depends on personality. Some of the worst and best sex I had was with relatively inexperienced (not virgin but only 1 or 2 partners before me) guys. They were very different from each other though. One was hugely keen on sex and very confident in bed (great) the other keen but nervous (awkward).
Author Joaquin Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 Bizarrely the girl had no personality, but was happy to do anything. It was like a porn movie everytime. If she had a/more personality I'd have probably have held onto her. I think she may have ruined me though as no girl since has been so giving.
Emilia Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Yep, I know the feeling. Still, if there was one, there must be more out there
TigerCub Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 It would be a huge red flag to me. I find it funny that you say that. You are inexperienced and there is nothing wrong with you - so why would it be a red flag if the girl was?
ThaWholigan Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I would imagine that in many cases, a person's sexual inexperience isn't necessarily indicative of their sexuality and their expression of it. I'm fairly confident in my sexuality despite my inexperience, and I'd imagine there are guys and girls who are the same. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I find it funny that you say that. You are inexperienced and there is nothing wrong with you - so why would it be a red flag if the girl was? Well, I'd say there are things "wrong" with me. I have major problems being able to create attraction, chemistry, etc. I can't flirt, I don't understand innuendo. I'm sure I'd be horrible in bed. I don't understand how dating and relationships work. I'm a total mess and it's likely the reason I've had problems dating in my life. If I met a girl with just a few of the above issues I don't think I'd want any part of the situation. It would be the blind leading the blind. Not a good situation.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 why? didn't you say you were inexprienced? Yeah I am. But I need someone who can take charge more and kind of lead me a bit.
january2011 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 She was moulded into the perfect sexual partner for me. She would do whatever I wanted. I'd say the her next bf got a real treat. Unless her next boyfriend is/was you, not necessarily. People fit together differently and "perfection" doesn't usually transfer from one relationship to the next, nor even from one sexual experience to the next. 5
Leopard Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I've always found the same with men but not with inexperience as so much with shyness or "non-slutiness". The guys who aren't trying to be super sexual and don't try to display their sexuality are usually the ones who are better in bed. It's the guys that talk about big penis size and how girls they slept with that are usually the ones trying to make up for a lack of exactly that. I've also heard guys say that it's the women who aren't slutty that are usually the ones that are better in bed. I guess it has something to do with the fact that they are private about their sex lives, don't sleep around because they don't need "validation" when it comes down to the sheets. I also find that the guys who are shy or inexperienced are more willing to learn, so like you said, they "mold" into you when it comes to sex and the sex ends up better. After all, what they learn about sex is how you like it, instead of what they assume every girl likes and they stick to that.
somedude81 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 It would be a huge red flag to me. Really? I would love a virgin girl or one who had very little experience. All that matters is that she is willing to experiment and figure out things as we go along.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Really? I would love a virgin girl or one who had very little experience. All that matters is that she is willing to experiment and figure out things as we go along. That's the problem. By the time you get to 21-25 or so everyone who is inexperienced has one of or all of these characteristics: inhibited, psychological issues, social awkwardness, or is hyper religious. In that case she's probably not going to be willing to experiment. Or those experiments won't go very well.
RedRobin Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The most desirable person is the one with an open heart who is willing and able to be 'present' during intimacy. It is only a coincidence that the person you referred to is sexually inexperienced. Your description of her is rather repulsive though. You sound like a jerk. I'm betting she dumped you because you were selfish and thought you could continue to take advantage. Too bad for you. 2
ThaWholigan Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 That's the problem. By the time you get to 21-25 or so everyone who is inexperienced has one of or all of these characteristics: inhibited, psychological issues, social awkwardness, or is hyper religious. In that case she's probably not going to be willing to experiment. Or those experiments won't go very well. Erm, I don't have those issues . Not anymore anyway......
ThaWholigan Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The most desirable person is the one with an open heart who is willing and able to be 'present' during intimacy. It is only a coincidence that the person you referred to is sexually inexperienced. Love this 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Erm, I don't have those issues . Not anymore anyway...... Well perhaps "everyone" is a bit of an exaggeration.
somedude81 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 That's the problem. By the time you get to 21-25 or so everyone who is inexperienced has one of or all of these characteristics: inhibited, psychological issues, social awkwardness, or is hyper religious. In that case she's probably not going to be willing to experiment. Or those experiments won't go very well. And you know this how? Yeah an inexperienced girl at 21-25 aren't that common but it just be that she had no interst in relationship and wanted to focus on school/work first. And maybe she was shy and the guys never have her attention. Or she was a total bitch who only wanted guys who were out of her league, and of course they wanted nothing to do with her, and she passed over the normal guys that wanted her 1
Leopard Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 the guy who talks penis size usually gets the girl at the end. girls by and large want to be led by guys. Not true. Even if he can back it up, a man who talks too much never gets the girl. The guy who walks the walk does. If talk is enough to get a girl, then you don't want her.
oaks Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The most desirable person is the one with an open heart who is willing and able to be 'present' during intimacy. That's beautiful. 1
Author Joaquin Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 That's the problem. By the time you get to 21-25 or so everyone who is inexperienced has one of or all of these characteristics: inhibited, psychological issues, social awkwardness, or is hyper religious. In that case she's probably not going to be willing to experiment. Or those experiments won't go very well. She was mid 20s, quite nerdy in her manner, had been with a guy for 5 years, and said her Christianity had stopped her having sex and she wanted to wait for marriage blah blah. I think a bell just went off in her head and i just happened to be there. So in the present case, you are wrong. The experiments, as you call them, were successful - never judge a book by it's cover.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 And you know this how? Yeah an inexperienced girl at 21-25 aren't that common but it just be that she had no interst in relationship and wanted to focus on school/work first. And maybe she was shy and the guys never have her attention. Or she was a total bitch who only wanted guys who were out of her league, and of course they wanted nothing to do with her, and she passed over the normal guys that wanted her How do I know this? Hmm...maybe because every person I've ever met who reached that age as a virgin or inexperienced has had this problem. Sure there are exceptions to that but by and large people who are inexperienced are inexperienced for a reason. Some of them are very legitimate (like having autism or depression or something like that) but most of them are pretty simple.
RiverRunning Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I lost my virginity shortly before I turned 22. I don't think I was 'awkward,' 'weird,' 'hyper-religious,' or anything like that at all. I could've lost it when I was 19 to my first boyfriend...but I knew he was a loser and I disliked him. I didn't feel he was worth the loss. I never slept with him. The second boyfriend - we dated for a year. I'm not the type of person who sleeps with someone after a few months. We had sex around the year mark and were together for nearly four years. I probably could have 'lost it' sooner had I started dating younger and had I dated higher quality guys. But it never had anything to do with being a weird loser.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 She was mid 20s, quite nerdy in her manner, had been with a guy for 5 years, and said her Christianity had stopped her having sex and she wanted to wait for marriage blah blah. I think a bell just went off in her head and i just happened to be there. So in the present case, you are wrong. The experiments, as you call them, were successful - never judge a book by it's cover. Of course not. I prefer to judge a book by the picture of the author in the back jacket fold (at least on hardbacks, paperbacks are a whole different ballgame).
somedude81 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 How do I know this? Hmm...maybe because every person I've ever met who reached that age as a virgin or inexperienced has had this problem. Sure there are exceptions to that but by and large people who are inexperienced are inexperienced for a reason. Some of them are very legitimate (like having autism or depression or something like that) but most of them are pretty simple. So you know in-depth details of how inexperienced women act in intimate settings?
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