daisy088 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Today my ex emailed me after more than a month of not having had any contact. The email is along the lines of asking me how I am doing, how my job is, and how living in a new city is treating me. He also mentioned something he had heard about my mum and congratulations about it (her getting remarried). He hopes I am doing well. I know the intentions are purely friendly/99% sure there is no wish to reconcile- but I am feeling somewhat over him finally. He broke my heart completely, out of nowhere, a day after I had been in the hospital sick, invaded my privacy, and said a bunch of terrible stuff to me after he ended things with me. We were together for a year and living together as well after being friends for multiple years prior to the relationship. Should I respond? I feel like the best thing to do is keep it short and sweet to send the message that I no longer care but am adult enough to acknowledge him. What do you guys think? 1
Jono85 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Today my ex emailed me after more than a month of not having had any contact. The email is along the lines of asking me how I am doing, how my job is, and how living in a new city is treating me. He also mentioned something he had heard about my mum and congratulations about it (her getting remarried). He hopes I am doing well. I know the intentions are purely friendly/99% sure there is no wish to reconcile- but I am feeling somewhat over him finally. He broke my heart completely, out of nowhere, a day after I had been in the hospital sick, invaded my privacy, and said a bunch of terrible stuff to me after he ended things with me. We were together for a year and living together as well after being friends for multiple years prior to the relationship. Should I respond? I feel like the best thing to do is keep it short and sweet to send the message that I no longer care but am adult enough to acknowledge him. What do you guys think? i envy you that you're completely over him only a month or so out. i'm nearing 3 weeks and i'm a complete disaster, but staying strong with NC (even though ex hasn't reached out yet). as to the email, it def seems 100% friendly, like u said. and if you're 100% over him, i guess it wouldn't hurt to be short and respond back. but if there's a part of u still upset at what he did, wouldn't be the end of the world to just ignore it as well. i know if my ex sent me an email asking how i was doing etc, i would probs ignore. but then agian i'm still crushed and lost at how she could have done that.
Author daisy088 Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 Im so sorry youre still having a hard time. We actually have been broken up for 2.5 months but just haven't spoken in more than a month. It does get better with time, and if you saw me in the beginning- I was a colossal MESS (lost 10 pounds, couldnt sleep, couldnt do anything but cry). I responded very short and sweet. He is now asking me other questions about my life. Not sure why he is trying to continue the conversation. I still want him to feel guilty about the way he ended things and the things he said
bittersweet memories Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Im so sorry youre still having a hard time. We actually have been broken up for 2.5 months but just haven't spoken in more than a month. It does get better with time, and if you saw me in the beginning- I was a colossal MESS (lost 10 pounds, couldnt sleep, couldnt do anything but cry). I responded very short and sweet. He is now asking me other questions about my life. Not sure why he is trying to continue the conversation. I still want him to feel guilty about the way he ended things and the things he said hmmm...careful, 2.5 months is not a long time. You might think you are over it but you are now communicating with him. Careful you don't end up in square one.
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