LittleMissSatin Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Im a lurker, so but thought Id finally get some advise on my dating life. Im 23, and me and my boyfriend broke up a little while ago. Then later, I hooked up with a guy at a party. He knows my ex casually, and he knew Im recently single. Anyway, for like a month now, he'll text me and we'll get dinner or something and then hook up. It happens about once a week. Otherwise, I don't hear from him, except to arrange the next time to hang out. He messaged me last week wanting to go work out together. We agreed to go today, but he called just now to say he had to reschedule because he was too tired from a wedding he went to. I said Id let him know when I was free. Im pretty sure he doesnt like me as a girlfriend, and is just using me for sex. It was fun and all but I don't really want that right now. Im thinking Ill just never get back to him about when Im free. Or would it be better for me to text him and tell him that Im not into hooking up anymore cause Im starting to feel like a slut. What do you think?
SmileFace Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 First things first: he is not using you for sex any more than you are using him. If you don't care for anything more with him, wait to he contacts you and let him know that you are no longer interested and rather focus on finding a relationship
Author LittleMissSatin Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Id date him, but he doesn't seem interested so Ive just given up, thats all.
LittlePrince Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Little too late now to worry about the slut thing.
SmileFace Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Yeah don't worry about it , you live and you learn. He isn't showing interest - so move on.
curlygirl40 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 If he contacts you to hang out with him again, you could say something like 'thank you, I have a great time when I'm with you, but right now I'm looking for a relationship'. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, he'll step it up. If he doesn't, then he'll run. You'll have your answer. And your dignity. And don't worry about the times you spent together already, you were both having fun out of it. But if now you want more, and he doesn't, that fun is over really. The way I look at it anyway. Good luck.
pettie Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Depends in what you want. If you are not interested in a relationship with him, I'd just let it fade and don't get back to him. However, if you are, you can still go out with him but make it clear that you don't want it to be "casual", as in, (as curlygirl said) you are looking to start a relationship now and, while you had a great time together, that's not really what you want right now. See his reaction. Looks like you are not too emotionally involved yet so it shouldn't be difficult to let it go if he doesn't want one.
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