Bucky Badger Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Some advice as to what to do would be greatly appreciated! Here is the story: I am home for the summer, and there is this girl that I like (we went to high school together). I liked her back in high school, but never said anything since we weren't that close of friends or anything. However, we are together a lot more now, as part of a large group of friends, and talk a lot more. A few weeks ago, I told her that I had feelings for her. She said that she wasn't wanting/looking for a relationship at the current time. She also said that if she were to be looking, I would be someone she would "look toward" or whatever. She said that I am a "great guy and wonderful person" as well. A few days ago, I found out that she has feelings for another guy. I also found out that she was having a bonfire out at her house, and he was invited (along with like 15 others). When he was going out there, he told a mutual friend that he was going to "get some" and that he wanted some ass. The girl I like found out about that, and she hasn't spoke to the guy in a few days, according to a mutual friend of ours. Her best friend, the mutual friend, doesn't want her friend to be hurt by this other guy. We are good friends and the mutual friend says the girl I like is very confused and she doesn't know what she feels right now. Also, another friend of ours (a guy) had asked her out a few days after I had, and she had rejected him and said she didn't really like him. My question is, what do I do? I really like this girl, but I am not sure that I stand a chance. Any comments/help is greatly appreciated. THANKS!
Feelsgoodman Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 She said that she wasn't wanting/looking for a relationship at the current time. She also said that if she were to be looking, I would be someone she would "look toward" or whatever. She said that I am a "great guy and wonderful person" as well. Classic example of a soft landing. She's not interest in a relationship...with you. Don't waste your time on this girl.
curlygirl40 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Classic example of a soft landing. She's not interest in a relationship...with you. Don't waste your time on this girl. I agree. She probably likes you as a person, as a friend, but yet she is not interested in a relationship with you and wanted to let you down easy. It's possible she could change her mind down the line, you could 'grow' on her, maybe she didn't see you that way before because she was interested in that other guy, but probably not. I wouldn't pursue, just stay friends for now and see what happens over the summer. Good luck
Author Bucky Badger Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Were you invited to the bonfire? Yes, I was. I was out of state for a wedding though, so I wasn't there.
tigressA Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Your chances are pretty much nil at this point, and they will be even less than nil if you continue on in your friendship with her. If she's ever going to have feelings for you, she needs to miss you. Cut back your availability to her by a huge margin. Don't contact her. Let her come to you, and be busy most of the time when she does. Keep busy with your interests, go after other girls.
olivec Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I agree. She probably likes you as a person, as a friend, but yet she is not interested in a relationship with you and wanted to let you down easy. It's possible she could change her mind down the line, you could 'grow' on her, maybe she didn't see you that way before because she was interested in that other guy, but probably not. I wouldn't pursue, just stay friends for now and see what happens over the summer. Good luck she will never change her mind trust me. the moment a girl says your a great guy your finished. its their way of being nice without being out right rude. the op has to move on now and find someone else. if not its gunna get worse and eventually she will be blunt with how she feels. trust me it happen to me with my last gf instead of letting it go and moving on it got worse until i came to my senses. its always best to leave with dignity instead of acting like a desperate person. its just not worth it.
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