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I used to be everything to this girl - didn't meet - wanted more money - falling apar

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lover4721 Established Member

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Okay, so I was introduced to this girl on a dating site. No extreme paid site.

 

I don't like to call it dating site, because we still need face-to-face interactions, so I was introduced to her.

 

It was amazing. On her Twitter, she said "On top of the world." and would post on my FB wall and everything. Wrote me things. Sent me these notecards saying she's afraid to lose me, and that I treat her better than she deserves, and made her not afraid. It was crazy at first. It felt extremely better than my past relationship, when I thought I was NEVER going to find someone who made me happier than her.

 

She asked me to meet her one day and I said I didn't want to, but never said the reason... I didn't think I had enough money because I wanted to do everything with her. She's only 50 miles away from me. I didn't send the money to my card, so that I can take her out, see a movie, etc. I do Internet Marketing. I don't receive checks in the mail. Even if I go to Foreign Exchange, it's going to take 3 weeks to get a check!

 

So she was upset I didn't want to come and meet her. She said she was upset because a girl can only dream and ask herself why her that she met someone so spectacular, and to think what his hands feel like, or lips feel like. She literally kept going on for hours lol.

 

After that, she hasn't sent me pictures, posted on wall, etc. We've been getting into arguments. She started to text me Saturday morning, because her phone keeps showing my name in her iMessages. We went 6 days without text messaging. Before she asked to hangout, we text messaged and Facetime'd NON stop... She DID say "I don't know why, but I have everything in front of me a girl can ask for, and yet I still tell myself not to do it. I think because I'm afraid of getting hurt."

 

So, I guess there's this new guy too, she is sleeping in his sweatpants? haha. I am assuming he smokes weed, and was too high to say goodnight, and now her recent message was "...while you are probably out not giving a $hit about anything. why do I do this?"

 

So what do I do? Talk to her like we used to? I think me being the most special person to her, rejected to hangout with her, made her really upset and now she doesn't want to get heart broken.

 

Do I move on? Do I continue to talk to her like I used to when we first talked, before we knew we liked each other insanely a lot? I just think if I stick by her side, she will know I'm here and if it doesn't workout with guy a, she can have me! Someone gave me that advice with my ex lol. So, should I continue to talk to her IF she texts me?

 

I can't believe it. I am studying couples therapy, and am SO good at giving life advice, and everything. I'm also studying Neuroscience, but I still can't fix my own problems. :( I see it one way, and I need someone else to say, "She isn't worth it. If she truly loved you, and liked you as a person, she wouldn't want someone else." But I feel as if it's my fault, because I didn't want to go meet her. Now she wants someone else closer to her.

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You should of been honest with her, she probably thought you were flaking out on her when you just said 'no' to meeting up, with no reason given. No wonder shes moved on.

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Agreed you should have been up front about why you couldn't meet.

 

And also--try not getting so ridiculously attached to a girl you haven't even met in real life yet. Chatting and texting and all that is nice but you have no idea if you have face to face in real life chemistry or not, so keep the feelings out of it until then.

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musemaj11 Established Member

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If you told her you didnt have money, she would ditch anyway.

 

So you are screwed either way.

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lover4721 Established Member

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Nice advice lol - she is having issues with this kid, so I'll wait until she can make up her mind.

 

I had money, but I need to send it to this card, which is my way of 'paycheck.' It takes a day to send from the network to the card issuer, and then the card issuer takes 2 days to load it on the card. Dumb, I know.

 

But after I re-read my old threads, I realized that I got this under control. I don't need a childish relationship.

 

Thanks guys!

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I'm glad your obviously on the road to recovery!

 

all the best!

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