Glass Bead Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 So.... in less than a month I'll be in an event with this woman that I met about a year ago while working together. We were attracted to one another from the start but for several reasons (distance, boyfriend, work/stress/no time) we never got into a really intimate level (kissing and all it leads to...). We worked together again at the beginning of this year but it was the same, we gave a lot of non-verbal hints but never seem to be synchronized for something to actually happen, both by chance or by intention. On the next event we'll be working on different teams and over the past months our communication has increased - we don't talk regularly but when we need to, there's always this sublayer of emotion/feeling present, more or less acknowledged or open. And one reason (but not the only one) why I'll be at this event is that the last time we met she told me that she hoped to see me there. In no doubt related to my professional skills but the sublayer was also very present (I wasn't expecting her to say it so I just blushed and blurbed a not very convincing excuse for not to go). Now, at this point I'm pretty much: let go and let whatever to happen. I got no idea of what I want when I get there. So far both of us have avoided getting too emotionally involved but at the same time we haven't let go of one another. On a few occasions it could have gotten into the 'friends' area but we both separately didn't choose to put it on that box yet, although we care about one another. Right now we're kinda having a break from one another after another 'intense moment' where I felt a lot of attention from her and it ended with her reading on my blog a text I wrote inspired by her. Any thoughts, ideas, guesses about what may happen?
FitChick Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 This may be just your interpretation based on wishful thinking. She may only like you as a colleague and acquaintance. There is only one way to find out and that is to ask her out. 1
Author Glass Bead Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 This may be just your interpretation based on wishful thinking. She may only like you as a colleague and acquaintance. There is only one way to find out and that is to ask her out. I already did it almost a year ago, when the event was over I sent her a message saying that I had gotten lost in her eyes and I'd like to see them again one day. She replied about a week afterwards thanking me for the message and giving suggestions. When we met again months afterwards it took me just a look to realize that she wasn't interested at that time, so I didn't try or say anything. Meanwhile I found out that I had a lot in common with another girl on the team and we become friends. That kinda changed the attitude of my interest, one night she just grabs my arm and doesn't let go of it while walking and talking back to the hotel. And sometimes she would just completely stare at me together with my friend but by that time I had stopped trying to figure her out, since one moment she would be warm, the next cold. But this is all past, you're right I should ask again.
Author Glass Bead Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 A little update. Some weeks ago I noticed through the stats that my new blog has a visitor from another country and I'm convinced that it is her, for several reasons, even though she never left any sign of her presence. So I posted a question last week about if I could say something pretty obvious to her next time we met. She saw the post this weekend late in the night but haven't said anything back, even though I see her online. How long should I wait?
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