too young...

[jamrah]

Well, its goes a little something like this...Just over a year ago I started a new job. I was still getting over my ex of 6 years and was generally just dating around. This one girl at my work was always very interested in what I was doing and I would tell her what I was upto. We became pretty close because of this but I never thought much of it. Slowly however all these women I was seeing never panned out and I was just going through the motions. Me and this girl from work would laugh and joke about it. We started going out for a couple of drinks now and again but just as friends. She I should tell you is 18, I'm 29. Well she started to flourish from a quiet wee thing with a b/f into a single girl who attracted a lot of attention from all sorts of guys...some good, some bad...she told me everything, including some pretty unpleasant episodes, but thats what young people do. The weird thing is though that we have quite an unnatural connection, but I always knew she was far too young. Recently we were having a couple of drinks and she was harking on about wanting a b/f...I took this to be an interest in me. I allowed this idea to settle for a while...and then I asked her out to dinner to which she agreed. We never went because we both had work but we rescheduled for this week. I asked her if we were going to go out this week to which she replied 'if u want'. I replied 'do u'. she said 'ye'. It was then that I said 'I am starting to really like. But i get the feeling u r not interested. If u want to just be pals just say so' she replied that 'she liked me too but the age gap was a bit too much' and she didnt want to hurt me. I agreed...Its amazing how u can have a real connection with someone who you shouldn't have...It felt weird the past week or two but now hopefully we can both move in two different directions...dont know why I wrote all this but any feedback would be kool...

[dasein]

Have been there also, some young women don't care about the age gap, and make that very obvious. Some do, and it's good you two were able to avoid wasting each other's time. In general, the ones who are into older men will make that very obvious in their approach, aggressively flirty, so maybe use that to navigate if a situation like this comes up again.