jordkorn Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I met this girl online and we have been on 2 dates. Both times things went really well and we have been texting back and forth the whole time. Everytime we talk she brings up plans for the summer and asks me what I am doing and says we should go together. I was curious to see if she was still going online to look around and she has been. She tells me she has fun with me and that she enjoys my company. Am I over reacting when I see her online. I really like her and if she feels the same about me why would she still go online? I am just trying to make sense of what is going through her mind.
jrh1524 Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I think if you like her so much you should have the exclusivity talk. I would wait until 4th date or after you have sex. You could broach the subject by saying, "I deleted my online dating account."
Eddie Edirol Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 She might not like you as much as she lets on, but keeping you in a safe area just in case she cant find anyone better. You really dont have the right to ask her about her profile until she agrees to exclusivity, and that wouldnt happen for another couple of months or so. So dont worry about it, be patient, if she is looking online, you should be too. If this thing develops, great, if not, so what.
manup Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I met this girl online and we have been on 2 dates. Both times things went really well and we have been texting back and forth the whole time. Everytime we talk she brings up plans for the summer and asks me what I am doing and says we should go together. I was curious to see if she was still going online to look around and she has been. She tells me she has fun with me and that she enjoys my company. Am I over reacting when I see her online. I really like her and if she feels the same about me why would she still go online? I am just trying to make sense of what is going through her mind. You have to ask her to be exclusive broskie, I'd wait awhile though and maybe go on some other dates yourself.
Philosoraptor Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 If it bothers you that she may be dating others you need to do the only thing you can do about it, and that's have the talk. Either she's ready to commit or she's not. What if she's only online to see if you had been online, and you're doing the same? Seems silly but it could happen.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 You've only been on a few dates, so It's a little soon to be jumping the gun and checking out whether she's into you or not at this point...let things progress, she may like you and really enjoy your company but remember these are things said in the moment, you can't necessarily take that to the bank...look at that as a possibility not an absolute. She could also be just not putting her eggs in one basket, she could have experienced things going well before only to have a guy suddenly disappear on her or she just might not be that into you and sure about you yet...not enough to delete or shutdown her online activiity. My advice for you now is not to think so much into this, and stop the way you're thinking and reacting right now....It's only going to make you come off clingy, insecure and controlling which might be the way you are. So If that's your nature IMO it's a pretty bad trait and you should work on that...IF I were in your shoes I wouldn't even care, it wouldn't even matter or dawn on me what she does online...I could care less, I'd be going based on our dates, our interactions,what is there and our emotions to make a determination of how she feels..not her online activity, it doesn't give you anything concrete.
simplicitydating Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Girls are really hard to understand. It seems she is still trying to find someone else. Try to talk to her if you have the courage to speak up.
truth_seeker Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 That's great you feel this way about this girl but be careful as she might not feel the same way about you. Keep going out and see how you feel after 8-10 dates with her. If your feelings grow stronger for her, then tell her and find out how she really feels about you.
luvinthesun Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I met this girl online and we have been on 2 dates. Both times things went really well and we have been texting back and forth the whole time. Everytime we talk she brings up plans for the summer and asks me what I am doing and says we should go together. I was curious to see if she was still going online to look around and she has been. She tells me she has fun with me and that she enjoys my company. Am I over reacting when I see her online. I really like her and if she feels the same about me why would she still go online? I am just trying to make sense of what is going through her mind. Hmm - two dates and you wanna go ona trip or vaca with someone ...hmm...
Pierre Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I think if you like her so much you should have the exclusivity talk. I would wait until 4th date or after you have sex. You could broach the subject by saying, "I deleted my online dating account." Exclusivity after having sex???????? What if she f****ed some guy the night before? I rather talk about exclusivity immediately.
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