mblaakman Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I apologize in advance for this lengthy message! I have been "with" my guy for a year this month. We aren't together right now, just in a limbo stage of figuring things out... for the past three months. An overview of the past 3 months: Kyle broke up with me 3 months ago on our anniversary and for a ridiculous reason he son regretted, he admitted it because he was just mad and had ruined everything at that point. It had then changed my view on us and made me second guess everything. A couple weeks later, I broke up with him. During when he broke up with me, I was a wreck, I wrote a 6,000 word essay on what has been going on and what needs to improve etc. It helped me so much but he never took the time to think about things. And it was his turn to reflect. I can't be the only one to change through this relationship, he had to put in effort also or we would always end up in the same place. I guess you could say I had a rebound during this time (2 months ago). I didn't want a rebound, it just happened to occupy myself and be around people. During my thoughts of the break up, I wanted my cake and to eat it too. I wanted to see other people, and see him, and be crazy for a while. It became messy between us wanting to see each other and not and he soon found out about the other guy. He was so furious and hurt and I understand that. Also through our entire year of seeing each other, we spent every single day together and never not talked. We had only had a couple days apart until the break ups. He soon learned how to cope with me seeing someone else. Me and this other guy ended because he wanted something serious and I did not after what had been going on. I love Kyle so much and we have been through so much, its hard to see him with anyone, or just without me. Which is why I dont want to give up quite yet. So about two weeks ago, we started spending every waking minute together for about 12 days straight, no space. So on Friday the 12th day, we were both pretty sick of each other and were starting to get on each others nerves. He said in a rude tone, "I'm dropping you off and I'm going to a party, see you later!" He has never been this type and i was pissed. For the past couple days before then he had been cold shoulder and showing no affection. Made me think of bad things. I happen to be going to Vegas the next day and was happy to get a break and be "single" like he is being. He never said goodbye and through the days i was in Vegas, barely talked to him and when we would he would say he was too busy. So last Sunday in Vegas, a few of my friends invited me to EDC so I said why not? Kyle had been partying and not caring about me so I deserved some fun. When i got back (I hadnt told him I was going) he was furious! He said this (which didn't make sense to me): "I really appreciate all that u've said to me.. It's a lot to process but u have to realize the consequences for ur own actions. I need you to understand that I won't always be around to hold ur hand and guide you through life. Mistakes you make immensely destroy me as a person and it really hurts that u don't understand the pain in which u put me through." He's right, I don't understand the pain, and I was mad he put the "holding your hand through life" because I wasn't acting like that, I just wanted to talk to him because he is important to me and i did't understand his mind through this. Since then he hasn't been talking to me or has seen me, hasn't given me the time of day and says he needs several days when all he has been doing is partying. His best friend has hickeys all over him. And he has been treating me like a child, like he is trying to show off in front of his friends. He doesn't reply to me anymore. And I'm DONE in this limbo stage, I need to figure out if out "relationship" is going anywhere and if not, I need to move on. It isn't fair for him to string me along and hurt me more and more. I dont know how to deal with this situation, what to say to him and how to be the better more positive person. I'll always love him, but this hurts me so much what has been going on. And obviously there is so much more to the story, I just cant write it all down. Any feed back would be much appreciated!!
Philosoraptor Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Sounds like he was looking for a convenient excuse to end things. Some will say and twist just about anything in order to relieve the guilt of ending things.
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