EbbsNFlows Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I was in a relationship with this girl for about 9 months. We work at the same company, though in different departments. Toward the end of that time, she went away on business for a week. We spoke on the phone twice that week, and via text or e-mail every day. I told her I loved her and missed her, etc. She had someone leave a card she got on my desk saying how much she loved me and was missing me. That Friday, she said she was really looking forward to seeing me that weekend. She had her kids the next day, so we had no set plans. The next day, she called me, screaming, and said she never wanted to see me again. I wish I could tell you what happened and why. As best as I can figure out, she wanted me to call her in the morning, but I didn't, and that seemed to trigger something in her. (Similar incidents had happened before, but never as bad as that.) Now, I'm not saying I was the perfect boyfriend, but I treated her nice and was always there for her. I sure didn't deserve the treatment I got. We had a short e-mail conversation a couple of days later, and again a couple of days after that. Bottom line, she refused to meet me or even to talk to me. That hurt, a lot. But I accepted it was over. I focused on healing and went into full no contact mode. Deleted and blocked her from FB. Deleted and blocked her from my cell phone. I started going to work early to avoid her. It's been 3 weeks with absolutely no contact, in either direction. Saw her coming toward me down a long hallway at work this morning. She looked away, then turned and went down a staircase. Fine, whatever. Later today, I walked down the same hallway. She came out of an office and walked right past me, saying nothing, nor looking at me. I kept walking. From behind me, I heard a sarcastic, "Hellooooooo!" I said nothing and kept walking. That was followed by an equally sarcastic, "VERY mature." I guess it was mature when she was refusing to speak to me, though. She's obviously not upset that I'm not talking to her. She hasn't tried sending me an e-mail, or calling my office phone, etc. She can still contact me if she wants to. She doesn't want to see me. OK. She doesn't want to talk. OK. I don't know what the hell she wants from me at this point. Has anyone been through something like this before?
LovelyDaze Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Yes, I have. If confronted, you can be "very mature" and say that you are just trying to get some things done at work and not give in to playing those silly, little mind games that exes like to play sometimes. Don't go backward. Keep moving forward by doing your job and do your best to interact with her only for business purposes. Don't try to make her jealous with talk of a new date or anything facetious pertaining to your past relationship. Show her how very mature you are and can be. Life is too short for nonsense like that.
Author EbbsNFlows Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Thanks, Lovely. Good advice, I have to just keep moving forward. Ugh, the games people play.
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