username70 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Hello- Just officially broke it off with my bf. I would have liked to tell him over the phone- but he is always working and can't seem to spare just 15 minutes. within the next week- to talk either not working/eating or watching tv. So I emailed him this- which doesnt cover specifics... XXXX, (his name) It seems we have different ideas about what a relationship should be. I really need someone who can spend time with me, listens to me and is willing to compromise and has the same rules for each ... and most importantly is respectful of me and my children. I have put in a lot of effort the last few months to try to resolve issues and keep the relationship going. Again- I am not perfect- I can only try my best. It would seem that I can't do it alone. I am far from perfect ... but I guess being in a relationship isn't about being perfect - just being perfect in the eyes of the person that loves and cares for you.. I am sorry that I wasn't perfect for you. I hope that you find someone that is. I feel like my time and effort would better served focusing on other things - like me and my kids and our life together. Thank you for the time you gave us and the happy times we did have. XXXX (my name)
Philosoraptor Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 For as poorly as he has treated you I'd say you were too generous. I'm against not having a face to face talk but with his moods and controlling behaviors I wouldn't feel safe speaking to him in person. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 You're obviously in need of my assistance again, that was horrible! Dear Mr @sshat, It is a shame that I was unable to see through you sooner and break up with you ages ago, unfortunately my emotions have led me to love another idiotic fool. Your inability to treat me with respect has only revealed your glaring insecurity, the fact that you blame me for everything in this relationship is absurd...have you ever thought to yourself you were never good enough for me? You are not the man you think you are If you think the best you can do is treat a woman like crap to build your ego. You weren't smart, I was just stupid. And I can see that now. The way you speak to me and the way I have allowed you to treat me is appalling, I can only hope that I can forgive myself for allowing such a loser like you treat me this way..I let my insecurities and lack of selfesteem get the best of me...because honestly, you're not anything special. In fact you can't even take 15 minutes out of your day for me to break up with you...enjoy spending your next vacation with some other random girl that you'll make feel as unspecial as you did I in the same places you take every woman...you know nothing about women, you never listened, compromised or really cared, I only hope you are with someone just like yourself so you can see how ridiculous of a person you are. I am perfect for somebody out there, but obviously with the way I have let you treat and threaten me, I have a lot of self work today so that next time I know better than allowing myself to end up with someone as weak as you. Thanks for teaching me that I need to love myself and that I come first as well as my child(ren), It's a lesson I'll never forget. Tired of putting all the effort in to make this work...you can't change, you won't change and you'll always break your promises because you don't even know yourself....so do yourself a favor and don't beg for me back. Thanks for the good times! (your name) P.S. Your penis is small and I always faked orgasms ........................ Damn I'm good! 1
d'Arthez Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Agree with Philo. The letter is very generous. It sounds like your ex does not have the foggiest of clues, or is betting on multiple girls . I'd not be surprised if he actually tried to worm his way back in.
Author username70 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 BF called after I sent this. Was at work during break. I guess he was making a half hearted attempt?? Said he wants to compromise- give me whatever vacation spot I WANT to go to for one night- (Says he will have an iced tea and fart the whole time) ... but after that - will be going to this place he took ex and that restauraunt he took his exs 30 times- and I better not bring it up- how he wants to make new memories ... balala. That he is right and I am stupid ... You don't offer to compromise- after someone has left you ... it doesn't solve anything - until the next time- I don't like ___ and he thinks I should ... I let him go on- but again- when I tried to talk- wouldnt let me. He just kept saying he will give me what I want and break up and be at the bar with a new girl tomorrow. Just dumb. Said this is why all my relationships fail- because am crazy and like to make drama. Tried to talk to him about his attitude, controlling stuff, compromise, words, blame ... he just says I am the problem. How now he is willing to give me what I want ... Just letting him go ... didn't have him in the first place.
serial muse Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Just letting him go ... didn't have him in the first place. Yes...he sounds like a really awful human being. Blow him out the damn airlock!
veggirl Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I like Ninjas letter Yeah you shouldn't have answered when he called. What a jerk. Don't pick up his calls again!!! Please!
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