macdaturkey72391 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Okay. Let me start off, I don't have much experience dating. I've dated one girl in my life and I am 20. Even though I don't get a lot of girls, I act confident, I participate in extracurricular activities (and club sports) and I am starting to get more comfortable around girls. I need help with this one girl I am trying to date. I met her through classes and I always talked to her in class and we became friends. I thought she was interested, but I don't really read girls well. Last day of the class, I finally grew the balls to ask her out to dinner. She replied with an enthusiastic "Sure!". I got her number and said bye. A few days after, I called her to set up a time, but it turned out she was going on vacation for a week. I told her to text me when she gets back. She never texted me and a week after she was suppose to get back I ended up texting her asking her if she was back - she said the next day. I eventually ended up inviting her to a party the next day I didn't even set up yet. So I threw the party and it turned out most of my friends showed up and it was a good party. She showed up and we talked a little. I tried to talk to her as much that night as I could (probably like 5-7 times), but I had to keep the party under control, as I was the host. I also wanted to talk to my friends that I hadn't seen in a while. After the last conversation I had with her (about a 10 minute long one), I had to go outside because somebody was causing a scene. When I walked back in, I saw her leaving the house, with her friends without an effort to say goodbye. It's after this part that I'm confused. I thought we were doing well, but the next day I texted her thanking her for showing up and that I enjoyed seeing her. She replied reciprocating the thanks. I think this is where I messed up, I asked her to do something that week. She never texted back and its been two days. Also in two more days is when I asked her to "hang out". I am really confused! Did I do something wrong? I know sometimes girls like to play hard to get, but she almost always texts me back (sometimes with an ok when it isn't needed). I also met her friend the night of the party, is she the reason why the girl hasn't texted me back? If she wasn't interested, or wanted to stay friends, I would want her to be direct with me and say it. I am not afraid of rejection. I don't want to text her again and seem like a creep. My plan of action is to call her a week after the day I wanted to hang out. What do you think I should do? For people too lazy to read: I asked a girl out(over text) that I thought was interested in me and always texts me back, but she didn't text me back. What should I do?
sid3 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Meet more girls, she doesn't sound all that interested.
SmileFace Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 "If your having girl problems I feel bad for you son I got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one"Lol The ball is her court. Let her contact you from now on. You have already showed your interest. 1
Christine52 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Assuming she's in or around your age, I'm going to go back 5 years, and see what I would think if I were a 20 year old girl. You asked her for dinner. But then invited her to a (casual) party, which frankly, a lot of people were invited. I would be a little disappointed. In my mind, you opted for inviting her to a relatively large house party, rather than spending an intimate 1 on 1 dinner date with her. This has happened to me before, where the guys I thought liked me kept inviting me to large social events instead of private, more romantic dates. This is what I think you should do: CALL her (not text - I know I know, this is hard for your generation, but seriously, texting is overrated....so badly). Once you call her, let the conversation flow a bit. See if something pops up like a movie you want to see, and then go with that. Then, when you guys go on your date, be a gentleman, and take her to a nice restaurant (by nice, just not McDonalds), pay for her, open doors for her, give her your jacket if it's cold out. After the date, wait a day, then call her again to set up the next one. At that point, you'll have a better idea if you two are even compatible as romantic partners, and she will know a bit better if she even likes you yet.
dizy Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Same thing happened to me. only difference is that he invited me for dinner and we did have dinner together but with his friends. I thought it was going to be a date. and my def of date is between 2 people, so I thought that he wasnt interested and maybe he did that just to make friends or be nice. I am over him now. If you are really interested, why can't you ask her out in a REAL date? Dont let people tell you what to do, its your life and you live with the consequences. just go for it
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