python23 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 hello all. im new to this site and have one of the most common questions a guy can have about dating. my story is a little more interesting than others so here goes. it is long so sorry it dragging on abit. ive been working with a girl i like now for a year( i know dating work mates isnt advised). she's 19 and im 22, weve always been quite friendly to each other and shes always laughed at my so called funny laugh and always plays with my hair but have very rarely spoken out of work hours until this last few weeks. 2 weekends ago another work mate invited a few of us over for bbq, all was well and good everyone was chatting, getting abit drunk as you do, me and this said girl were chatting and as the day went on were getting a little more close, one thing led to another and i did end up confessing my feelings for her which she joked about and kissed me, i then jokingly asked for a proper kiss the next minute im outside the house kissing her, we both wanted more but agreed it wasnt the time or place. the first thing she asked of me was not to tell anyone at work. she left the party without really saying goodbye, which made me think she regretted it. The week after at work was very awkward and she stayed well away only receiving the odd friendly hello every now and againwhen ever there was other people there. but this weekend i recieved a message off her on facebook at 3 in the morning wishing me a good weekend and that she will see me on monday. she was probably a little drunk so maybe it was the drink talking, i replied in the morning when i saw it and she replied a few hours later which led to a rather long chat about what happend, she told me she was embarrassed and just a little shy at work. i plucked up some courage and asked her when i was taking her out for a drink, she said aww cute x,she then changed the topic to her broken laptop which i made a joke about that being a no to my previous question then, which she replied with no its not a no at all. i asked her to let me know when shes free and replied with will do. today at work was the same, you can feel abit of tension between us and feel she is staying away abit. Is this girl just craving some attention and not interested in me at all or she she just shy. i understand working together doesnt really help the situation and maybe she is just scared people might think bad things of her, she is younger than me so this may be a reason for the mixed messages. I dont know what to do next? any suggestions? is she into me? seeing her everyday is killing me. any help is much appreciated.
Philosoraptor Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I'm not sure what her interest level is but honestly that really doesn't matter right now. If you're interested you either take a risk or you don't. If you want to take her out be direct and offer a time and place. Either she agrees, offers another date, or says no. You'll know your answer and be able to proceed with your life either way. If I was a gambler though I wouldn't rate her interest very high. But life's too short to not go after the things you want.
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