Not connecting. Is there something wrong with me?

[Maggie9481]

For the past year and a half, I've been on a slew of first dates. Unfortunately, while many of the guys are wonderful people and perhaps in the past I would have wanted more, I have felt nothing for them in return and I don't care whether or not they contact me again, and sometimes get annoyed if they do. I hate being on the rejecting end, but I have found no spark, or hint of excitement with anyone.

 

I recently went on another date, and was actually excited at the prospect. But again, in the end it felt like another chore. He was nice and we got along, but I'm not excited about it and I don't feel all that attracted to him. I feel terrible, since he already confessed to liking me. I've gone over and over in my head if I'm doing this out of fear of rejection (I've been through some bad relationship trauma in the past, but then I dated and was physically intimate with others after that...), or if I'm just in a picky stage and am holding out to feel excitement again. I hate that I can't get excited about anyone, and feel like I have to force myself to like a person in return.

 

Has anyone else gone through this kind of "dry" period that I'm describing? How long did it last? How did you break free from it? Thanks!

[Philosoraptor]

It just comes down to coming across the right person at the right time. There's really no secret about it though. Just continue to put yourself out there and be patient.

[FitChick]

I think if there is general physical attraction and "on paper" everything is there, it might be worth going on a second date with some of them. I recall reading about The Today Show's Matt Lauer, who declared he would never remarry, going on a blind date and feeling a bit so-so about her. He decided to go on a second date and bingo! They wound up getting married.

[Maggie9481]

I think both of you are right. Sometimes it takes a while to find someone you respond to, but it's also fair to give things a good shot.