Gypsie Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I got the courage to give the guy I like my number a few days ago. I slipped it into conversation casually. We were talking about the weekend and I was then saying. "we should hang out sometime or whatever. I will give you my number and you can give you mine and let me know when you are free." He was really cool with this and gave me his number on the spot without even hesitating. Via email right in front of me. Then I replied back giving him my number. afterward he replied with thanks. . Including that emotion I had put in there. LoL. Would this to a guy. Would have let him known I was interested and was his response a good sign or was he just being nice? Before that we were being pretty flirty and saw some signs that he did like me but now not so sure... Have not gotten a call or text since and it has been three days but it has also been the long weekend as well. Just been keeping myself busy and my options open and whatever happens, happens.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I think you did very well, and he should take the hint that you at least want to hang out. Regardless of what he thinks right now is not a problem, it's good that you didn't make it clear because if he really likes you he's going to initiate and make a move and it won't even be obvious that you were interested, he'll still feel like he made the moves...so you did a good job because the man will still have his ego and has to build that confidence not knowing for sure. Now let him make the move, don't get impatient and try to initiate contact or show more interest, always let the man come after you If you really want one that is interested in you IMO. You got the ball rolling now let him make a gesture that he really likes you too. i like everything you did in this situation, It was with a level head don't lose that, there may be hope for women after all! I'm kidding 1
Author Gypsie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 It's hard not texting first. I really do want to text. LoL. It has been four days now. Would it be so bad if I did to get the ball rolling a bit more?
Feelin Frisky Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Give him a few more days. Then initiate if he doesn't. If he evades then write him off and don't take it personally. His loss.
USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 It's hard not texting first. I really do want to text. LoL. It has been four days now. Would it be so bad if I did to get the ball rolling a bit more? I'm personally not the biggest fan of "traditional" gender roles, but if a guy hasn't contacted you after all this time, especially if you were the one to offer your number first, then he's not interested. I've gotten a fair share of numbers which I did absolutely nothing with because I really wasn't that interested...but then again, I'm not a very good case example for this... 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Noooo....hope dwinlinding! Imo and what I know about men and women, I would say absolutely not. Think about it.. If he was as interested in you as you were with him? don't you think he would will contact you back on his own or for some reason ::insert excuse here:: is not contacting you back? What? - the dog ate - hurricane came by and swept it up - the yakuza hired a hit on him and as he was scurrying in a hail of gunfire and after killing all 3 hitmen he realized there was a hole in his pocket in the exact place where he wrote down your number or it destoryed his cell phone that he had protecting his heart? Bottom line, If you have to put yourself out there for a guy you're just asking to be an option, any man that wants to be with you I can assure you will do whatever it is in his power to contact you and fast...unfortunately the signs aren't good, but I don't think it's worth your pride to contact him again where he ignores you again or contacts you and acts like he was so busy then disappears and continues to show lack of interest. Maybe he needs more time, maybe hes an extreme dork or shy but It's not looking good Gypsie I think he's just kinda sorda interested at this point...at best. I think you're capable of getting a good guy, don't put all your eggs in one basket for this person. 1
Author Gypsie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 Oh no. I have not contacted him. He just has not contacted me since we exchanged numbers.
musemaj11 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 You already initiated. If you want, you can send him ONE text. But if still no positive response, STOP.
ATrainofAngels Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Noooo....hope dwinlinding! Imo and what I know about men and women, I would say absolutely not. Think about it.. If he was as interested in you as you were with him? don't you think he would will contact you back on his own or for some reason ::insert excuse here:: is not contacting you back? What? - the dog ate - hurricane came by and swept it up - the yakuza hired a hit on him and as he was scurrying in a hail of gunfire and after killing all 3 hitmen he realized there was a hole in his pocket in the exact place where he wrote down your number or it destoryed his cell phone that he had protecting his heart? Bottom line, If you have to put yourself out there for a guy you're just asking to be an option, any man that wants to be with you I can assure you will do whatever it is in his power to contact you and fast...unfortunately the signs aren't good, but I don't think it's worth your pride to contact him again where he ignores you again or contacts you and acts like he was so busy then disappears and continues to show lack of interest. Maybe he needs more time, maybe hes an extreme dork or shy but It's not looking good Gypsie I think he's just kinda sorda interested at this point...at best. I think you're capable of getting a good guy, don't put all your eggs in one basket for this person. Jesus fcking Christ. So guys like are you the reason why women don't ever approach me? Because they've been taught that traditional gender roles are the best way to go in the dating world. I'm facepalming so hard right now, my forehead is about to be lacerated OP, just go ahead and text him. No normal man has any problems at all with a girl initiating contact. Maybe he got busy or maybe he doesn't think you're that much into him. I got a number one time off a bartender at a bar a long time ago and never called her because I didn't think she was that much into me You have nothing to lose. Initiate contact with him once and see what reaction you get. If he's evasive or disinterested, then move on. It's downright idiotic to not see what this could possibly lead to because you're so worried about gender roles and it's sad to see a man reinforcing those gender roles in 2012. Guys like him are the reason why women don't approach men at all, even though every guy I know loves it when a woman approaches us
secondmulligan Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 i dont think most guys (especially under 30) will mind if the woman initiates or not. personally, i like a girl who takes the plunge. try sending him a text. if he doesnt reply, move along.
ATrainofAngels Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 i dont think most guys (especially under 30) will mind if the woman initiates or not. personally, i like a girl who takes the plunge. try sending him a text. if he doesnt reply, move along. It's probably better to call and leave a message if you don't get a response, don't text I've ignored texts from best friends before because I was busy at work
secondmulligan Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 It's probably better to call and leave a message if you don't get a response, don't text I've ignored texts from best friends before because I was busy at work true -- text for the shy or uncertain -- call for the bold
Snowman219 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I got the courage to give the guy I like my number a few days ago. I slipped it into conversation casually. We were talking about the weekend and I was then saying. "we should hang out sometime or whatever. I will give you my number and you can give you mine and let me know when you are free." He was really cool with this and gave me his number on the spot without even hesitating. Via email right in front of me. Then I replied back giving him my number. afterward he replied with thanks. . Including that emotion I had put in there. LoL. Would this to a guy. Would have let him known I was interested and was his response a good sign or was he just being nice? Before that we were being pretty flirty and saw some signs that he did like me but now not so sure... Have not gotten a call or text since and it has been three days but it has also been the long weekend as well. Just been keeping myself busy and my options open and whatever happens, happens. O.o ur one sneaky sneaky person. Sneakin' in that number : O.
Christine52 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I'm personally not the biggest fan of "traditional" gender roles, but if a guy hasn't contacted you after all this time, especially if you were the one to offer your number first, then he's not interested. I've gotten a fair share of numbers which I did absolutely nothing with because I really wasn't that interested...but then again, I'm not a very good case example for this... Normally I would agree with this - same goes for women as well. However, Some guys are VERY dunce about interest levels AND are very afraid of rejection (particularly if they are younger than 30). This is my go-to play for situations like this: 1. Show him you are interested. 2. Once you know he knows you're interested, see what he does. 3. If he doesn't call/text/ask you out, then you have your answer. Make sure you have #1 down pact - I find with younger guys, they really get stumped on this one because they are insecure/shy/afraid of rejection.
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