gearsofwar Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Hi Forum Just a quick one, me and my ex have been separated almost 5 months now and it's pretty much been a case of limited contact on my part (not contacting her unless she contacts me first). I've found out that my ex is going on a last minute holiday tomorrow (with one of her female friends) and I was wondering if I should wish her 'well and have a good time' or just stick to my limited contact, it seems it's no accident I found out the way I did, as it seemed to be a poor attempt to try rub it in my face, I feel they were put up to it but was it genuine (even though they know I’m trying to get over her) and just letting me know. Any pointers would be appreciated
Philosoraptor Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 What is the goal of your limited contact? Are you looking to heal and move on or get back with this person? On that note, why would you want to be with someone who plays childish games?
Author gearsofwar Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 (edited) Hello and thank you for your reply. I tried going no contact and it wasn't ideal as we have mutual friends who I socialise with and it's unavoidable in some instances (work etc.). I felt like I was coming across being bitter about the breakup by not talking to them like I normally did, so thought limited contact including our mutual friends would be best and I refrain from talking about my ex to them at all costs. Truth be told I do still care for her and I do want her back, we broke up because of my needy behaviour which I accept and I'm now exercising that I'm not that 'needy' guy anymore over the last few months, but I'm also not sure if this is just a case of GIGS as it seemed to come out of nowhere within a week of me taking a bad turn with work which got me stressed out and a little depressed, before this we were looking at moving in together & I was also looking at engagement rings. However, most of the heartache about the breakup is over, although I still have a bad day very occasionally, I've been dating other people, simply enjoying life and all the things I missed doing when I was single. But It feels like I'm still at the crossroad over what I truly want, I actually know I want her back, I just don't want to go in heavy handed and jeopardise the reconciliation we've established so far. I want to wish her well out of sincerity and that I do still care (but not providing her a shoulder to cry on), it's just very odd for this person to say my ex going on holiday when I'm doing my best to stay in moving on mode (due to the fact I never talk about my ex to them or even ask how she's doing). I feel it was meant to provoke a reaction out of me for any number of reasons and to an extent it has succeeded, but I decided to vent it here first. Edited June 11, 2012 by gearsofwar Spelling errors
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