USMCHokie Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Speaking in terms of relative attractiveness, where do you usually see yourself amongst your friends when you go out? And how does your place in this "spectrum" affect your social experience, if at all? Do you tend to have better looking friends in your group, or do you prefer being the prized showhorse that generally commands more attention?
WonderKid Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Ugly is a feeling really. I wouldn't care if I stood next to Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and any other attractive guy. I'm worried about me. And I'm the sexiest out of all of them. I'm damn sure not gonna say I look 2nd best. If another guy is saying he look 2nd best then that's his problem. So I rank 1st and always 1st. Some women will go for my friends, and others will come to me.
threebyfate Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 When the girls go out, we are so in charge! We're all similar, although there are a couple of better looking ones. Didn't matter. Never slowed anyone down when we were all single.
somedude81 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I always feel like the short ugly one. Which is one reason why I have no interest in making and going out with male friends. There is always the feeling that women are comparing me to the men I'm with and I always come up short. If all being with other guys is going to do is make me look worse, why even bother? Of course I could make friends with guys who look worse then I do, but then we will be nothing more than a roaming pack of goblins. That's not much better.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 There is always the feeling that women are comparing me to the men I'm with and I always come up short. If all being with other guys is going to do is make me look worse, why even bother? Well of course the comparison is made, just as men would do when they see a group of women. I'm just wondering how individuals of both genders feel when they are on either end of the spectrum amongst their friends. Of course I could make friends with guys who look worse then I do, but then we will be nothing more than a roaming pack of goblins. That's not much better. This actually made me giggle out loud to myself...
carhill Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I'm the youngest and poorest, but we all look roughly similar for our respective ages (45-75), though the wives of my friends probably are partial to their husband's appearances. A lot of folks have said my best friend and I look like brothers, except he's older and has hair Probably my baby face and blue eyes set me apart but I doubt it's anything significant, just different. I've got one friend who reminds me of George Clooney, so I'd say I'm far less handsome than him, but that's about it. Ironically, he's 51 last month, about a week after George turned 51, and never married. At our ages, relative 'handsomeness' is pretty much a non-issue. YMMV.
SarahRose Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 my friend circle was most 3 or 4 girls including myself. i think i was the 2nd most attractive. my one friend was really gorgeous and always got the guys. we did have the one fat dumpy girl but alas looks didn't mean anything for how successful we turned out later in life. the gorgeous friend is overweight and dumpy and lives in a tiny apartment. i think she and her husband work in the kitchen in fast food. the fat dumpy girl is a VP of a bank hahaha
tigressA Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I'm definitely as good-looking as my female friends, if not better than. I don't get a lot of attention compared to them when we go out, though. I know it's because I tend to be more reserved and closed off at first glance, while the other ladies are really vivacious and know how to party. I don't do very well in large crowds of strangers, and I know hardly any people after living in my city for over a year. Compare that to my girlfriends who have lived here all their lives and seem to know everyone and their mother, and it's no wonder I'm trumped in the attention-getting arena. I guess I'm 'the ugly friend' in terms of the vibes I give off while out. I'm not a fan of bars, much less meeting people in them, so I'm never at my best while at one anyway.
DuchessKaye Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 (edited) I used to have 4 girlfriends when I was in college. Our classmates and other people used to call us, "D' Amazing Six" "Monique the Brilliant Head" (She was the top on class, graduated with honors, now working as a CPA Lawyer) "Katie the Future Model" (She's got nice hair and fantastic long legs. She models in an agency now) "Sophia the Gifted Hand" (She's good in painting. Won prizes from different local painting contest. But she took Accountancy in college and now working as a Financial Manager in some HealthCare Company) "Yvonne the Richest" (Oh well, she came from a very rich family, I heard she is now a Registered Nurse, I don't know why) "Cherry the Golden Voice" ( She sings very well and now a Vocal Tutor and married to a very nice guy and now have 2 kids) and me... "Kaye the Stunner" (She got pregnant on her teens, disowned by her parents, dated a few jerks, no title yet (still studying)... the list goes on...) Now, can someone tell me where do I stand amongst them? Edited June 11, 2012 by DuchessKaye
zengirl Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I always got approached a lot more than most of my female friends when we went out, but a lot of that is being approachable. I don't have just ONE core circle of friends. Some of my friends are sincerely models -- obviously they turn some heads. Some of my friends are a bit overweight and consider dressing up wearing their nice flip flops. The friends who tend towards the latter mostly tend to be in happy, healthy Rs, whereas most of my really beautiful friends are kind of F-ed up. Varies, of course. Most of the girls I know who do poorly when we go out aren't 'ugly' or even the least attractive among us --- quite often pretty girls do worse, depending on attitude and so forth. As for men & comparisons: Honestly, I think it goes all which ways. Sometimes a really pretty gal or handsome bloke can be good 'bait.' Not everyone wants the hottest in the room, but people are more likely to approach them when knowing NOTHING else about anyone --- somehow getting rejected by someone 'hot' seems more worth it than someone 'cute' to people I guess. Many a hot gal/guy has lured someone over, unknowingly, who was a terrible match for them but a good match for someone else in the group and a date has happened. I've certainly seen this phenomenon. Attraction changes and evolves once people start talking.
gaius Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I have a small circle of close friends that I have known for years. They all started out better looking than me but over time the roles have been reversed. I get more glances than they do now, and once in a while I notice women treating me better than them but overall it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. It's mostly about the energy you put out. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 It's mostly about the energy you put out. I agree with this, but oftentimes one's energy is linked to how they are seen or how they see themselves within the group. I've seen countless times the difference in energy levels from the best looking and worst looking individuals in a group...
Author USMCHokie Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 my friend circle was most 3 or 4 girls including myself. i think i was the 2nd most attractive. my one friend was really gorgeous and always got the guys. we did have the one fat dumpy girl but alas looks didn't mean anything for how successful we turned out later in life. the gorgeous friend is overweight and dumpy and lives in a tiny apartment. i think she and her husband work in the kitchen in fast food. the fat dumpy girl is a VP of a bank hahaha I'm not really referring to long term effects, but single instances where you're out with your group in a social environment...
Pacman Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I was the short 5'8 cute guy. My friends we're 5'10 and 6'2 and 6'2. We were all good looking guys, but as you all know that my taller friends got all the attention. I was always overlooked when it came to my "Short" comings But my personality definitely stands out once girls get to know me. Not one of my guy friends can make a girl laugh as much as I can
Author USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 I was the short 5'8 cute guy. My friends we're 5'10 and 6'2 and 6'2. We were all good looking guys, but as you all know that my taller friends got all the attention. I was always overlooked when it came to my "Short" comings But my personality definitely stands out once girls get to know me. Not one of my guy friends can make a girl laugh as much as I can So how did you deal with being overlooked? Perseverance? Patience? Apathy?
FitChick Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 There is always the feeling that women are comparing me to the men I'm with and I always come up short.. Go to the next Little People's convention and you'll be a giant among men. 1
Tybalt Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Fortunately for you Hokie, you will never have to worry about being the ugly friend...
Author USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 Fortunately for you Hokie, you will never have to worry about being the ugly friend... You're being silly...
threebyfate Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 You're being silly... Honest opinion Hokie, of the pics seen of the male members on LS, you're in the top ten percentile.
Author USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 Honest opinion Hokie, of the pics seen of the male members on LS, you're in the top ten percentile. Thanks, I appreciate the kind words...that should be sufficient external validation for one night.
Tybalt Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Really? Hehehe... Trust me Hokie, as you know I can say such things with authority.
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I was close with a girl for many years that was gorgeous- she was also the most insecure person I've ever met. I was constantly having to stroke her ego to keep her happy it it just became tiresome. We'd go out and if a man paid me attention over her, she'd blow a gasket and want to go home.
threebyfate Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 I was close with a girl for many years that was gorgeous- she was also the most insecure person I've ever met. I was constantly having to stroke her ego to keep her happy it it just became tiresome. We'd go out and if a man paid me attention over her, she'd blow a gasket and want to go home.Another honest opinion, D. You're gorgeous. She's a bitch. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 I was close with a girl for many years that was gorgeous- she was also the most insecure person I've ever met. I was constantly having to stroke her ego to keep her happy it it just became tiresome. We'd go out and if a man paid me attention over her, she'd blow a gasket and want to go home. I've noticed this with some of the guys I've gone out with who are accustomed to being the prized showhorse...though they wouldn't necessarily blow a gasket, they'd certainly try to reassert dominance and reclaim the attention...especially where alcohol was involved...
D-Lish Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Another honest opinion, D. You're gorgeous. She's a bitch. Back at you! She was soooo high maintenance! I pity the guy she married because he's in for a long life of misery!
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