atlantis87 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Went on a first date Thursday. Jumped on the boat and went to a resturant to grab a few drinks. Went great, she was cuddling on me on the ride back shared a kiss, let her keep my sweatshirt for her drive home. Got a text back that night that she made it home and thanking me for the good time. hit her back the next morning then following evening but never herd back? Is she playing hard to get? Thinking of a follow up call Tuesday if i don't hear back sooner?
bamp78 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Not interested nor will you get your sweatshirt back. Move on...
wakaflockafarnz Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 At least plan something first. Women want men to at least make an attempt at leading. Then you can gauge it from there. I don't know if you're calling or texting though, so I can't comment on your interaction or lack thereof.
Author atlantis87 Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 I texted her back that night saying i also had fun and that we should hang out again soon. The next day texted her in the afternoon "hows your tan coming" said she was going to the beach during the date. no reply to that so around 7pm i hit her with another text asking if she went to the beach. no reply to that either so i assumed she was busy with the weekend. Just weird because she initiated the physical contact on the date leading up to her cuddling me on the ride back.
Vintage79 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 That's a lot of texting with no follow-up in a very short period of time following a date. It can definitely be a turn off. A lot women need to let things settle in - create a bit of tension. At the same time plenty of women like a bit of attention - so figuring out who's who can be tough. As is, though, it doesn't look promising. Sure - call Tuesday - but stop after that and don't contact her again until you hear back from her...your behavior would be considered smothering to several - you may have killed the deal. I would not be optimistic...
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 atlantis, if you don't get a response after the first text its a done deal...anything else pretty much after that is a shot in the dark because you won't have to work very hard at all to get a response, especially after a date, if she's interested she's thinking about you and wants to see you again so she will get back to you. Women sometimes give you a chance or window to keep their interest if they are on the fence about you, that's the whole cuddling physical contact part, but you didn't give her anything to think about..you kept it gentelmanly and nice guy like and she didn't feel the spark she needed from it anyway, so in that case after the next day and she's not in the moment just having fun she decides to date someone else or what not, maybe just move on. You probably thought you were being a perfect gentlemen but treating a girl right is just apart of the date, not the entire determination of it, you've still got to peak her interest or have chemistry and show some spark and compatibility, otherwise you're being a nice guy and all but you're just not add anything to it. So just be yourself and really try and connect with girl, don't be shy or afraid because it might cost you when you're just making sure you're just doing everything "right"...and sometimes it just doesn't work out, happens to just about everyone.
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