kyle77 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 So I have been apart from my ex now for 9 months. But I still have those days where all I want to do is just see her and spend time with her.... is there anything I can do to maybe speed up the healing process? I didn't think I would still be hung up on her after this much time apart....does it get any easier? what do I do so that I can start to move on with my life apart from her?
Art_Critic Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 9 months.. dude you need to get another girl. At times the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new . If you were at like month 2, I wouldn't say to do that but at 9 months.. it is your only option...
Art_Critic Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 Oh.. are you still in contact with her ? if you are.. stop it...
skyisfalling Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 i think the more you think about her and dwell on the relationship the harder it is for you to move on, I suggest trying to just live your life and take on some new activities to keep your mind off it. I think its normal to feel all the emotions from a break up, its healthy, and although there is no way to really speed it up, it may help to keep yourself busy and having some fun.
Kamille Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 What are you currently doing to keep your mind off things? Working out? Meeting new people? Doing something you've always wanted to do but always put off before?
Buttercup84 Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I agree , if you are still in contact : Stop it . You can't speed these things up that isn't natural . It all depends on how long the relationship was and what happened . It will get a lot better . Don't date if you're not ready yet , you do not need a girlfriend to be happy . This is the time to be by yourself and be happy. 1
Author kyle77 Posted June 12, 2012 Author Posted June 12, 2012 im not in contact with her....i was for about 6 months after we broke up because of university but now I haven't been in contact for about 3 months I am working out 5 times a week, not meeting new people really (I guess the occasional new friend), everything had been gradually getting better but now at about 3 months no contact all I want to do is reach out to her and talk to her, be a part of her life again. I know that this is probably not the best idea but I just can't seem to get my mind off the thought of reaching out to her...
Kamille Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 This is probably the last thing you want to hear, but it sounds like you're at the point where you just have to accept that some weeks are harder than others. Meaning, be patient with yourself. You're doing your best, which doesn't mean it will be easy.
Rorschach64 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Bad news, There is no way to speed up the healing process except to distance yourself from the old relationship, other than that it is just a waiting game with an unknown time.
Jose11 Posted June 12, 2012 Posted June 12, 2012 Unfortunately, I am righ there with you. I've just been keeping myself busy too. Working out 4-5 days a week, hanging out with all sorts of friends, and trying new things. I do dwell on it every once in a while, but I try my best not to everyday. Although you should take some time only ONCE a week to dwell on it for a bit. get emotional, let it out. Because keeping busy will only let you forget about it, but it's still there. just don't let it take over your entire life and you should be fine. well I hope that works because I that's what I am doing. Also a good quote i heard, "Everyone is happy in the end, and if your not happy then it's not the end."
Author kyle77 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 really so there is nothing I can do to make this go any smoother or faster? just wait it out?
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