spookie Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) How long does it take you to fall in love to the point of hopin to spend the rest of your life with someone? I'm not asking about actually getting engaged, but fantasizing about it? I wonder if there is something wrong with me if I balk at the thought of getting engaged. I have not been in a single relationship since my teens that I hoped would last forever, and some of them were pretty long. I can see myself moving in, even having kids with my current bf, as lOng as the exit door remains open. Is that normal? Edited June 10, 2012 by spookie
ThatDudeXO Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 When it feels right and it's financially viable.
FitChick Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I don't recommend having kids if you don't plan to let them live with their father. Become a nursery school teacher instead, if you like being around kids. Better yet, have your tubes tied and do whatever you damn well please.
johan Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 I don't know, spookie. But you've definitely been keeping me waiting for a long time.
Author spookie Posted June 10, 2012 Author Posted June 10, 2012 Fit chick, I'm not planning on having kids anytime soon, that wasn't the question. I'm just trying to figure out if my why buy the cow attitude is normal. I thought it was typically reserved for guys and I wish I knew where it was coming from.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 10, 2012 Posted June 10, 2012 Hey, spookie. How old are you again? Mid-20s or so, right? You're also very smart, pretty, driven, and successful, yes? You are basically the ideal woman at the ideal age. If you don't feel compelled to settle down right now, there's no reason for you to. Don't give in to any of the trendy nonsense that says you have to sleep around, cheat on your boyfriend, abuse your power as a woman, or whatever the hell else to be modern and cool - not that I think you would. But I say enjoy the freedom and opportunities you have at this time in your life. Aim high in romance and love just as you do in other areas of your life. You will be rewarded for that.
Author spookie Posted June 11, 2012 Author Posted June 11, 2012 Thanks ruby... Those are nice thoughts.
zengirl Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 To me, having kids is as big a commitment as marriage. Just different. Perhaps you really don't like marriage---some people don't, and it doesn't mean they don't love their partners or even commit to them. I don't know what it is, if you'd live with someone and have kids with them, you feel some level of commitment. I don't think putting arbitrary time-tables on it helps anything. But keep in mind, you may just not be the marrying kind.
Bristolius Posted June 11, 2012 Posted June 11, 2012 I'd say your attitude is refreshingly abnormal, and perfectly reasonable.
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