U472439 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Hi, I feel like this is always a confusing thing. I went on two dates w/a girl who I'd known a while, but who only recently got out of a long term relationship. Right off, I'm thinking that whatever might happen between us, it's probably going to be a while before she's really ready to get into another relationship. Still, our first date was nice, and we kissed at the end. The second was even better, as I showed up in her town as a surprise, and we spent all day together. She showed me everywhere, I met one of her aunts, we had a nice italian dinner, and again at the end, we kissed maybe a bit more passionately than the first time. Then, she came to one of my performances, which I loved given that she lives 30-45 mins away, and it was a weeknight. Yet again...we kissed, tho this time only briefly, as I could tell she wasn't totally comfortable w/PDA yet. No big deal, I thought, there will be other times. Except, now I don't know. I called her the next day and left a vm about when we might see each other again. She texted me back a few hours later (hmm) that she really enjoyed my show, but had plans already and was getting off work late anyway. Okay, I thought, not unusual, as we hadn't discussed beforehand. Then I called her again later the next week. Again left vm. She called me back, we talked about 15 mins, but I couldn't get her to make any concrete plans w/me, tho she would give me openings only to later give me reasons why it probably wouldn't work. I tried to shrug it off w/humor, but was kinda miffed inside. She left me a vm the next day because she was in my city (which she'd mentioned the night before), but didn't feel like hanging out due to a "headache". Didn't know how to take that, wasn't even really expecting her call. So, I dunno, could be nothing, but my gut tells me she's backing off, and I'm not really sure why. Is it just that she's not over her past relationship, and maybe thinks we're already going to fast? I guess I could understand that, but I just hate feeling like I'm being blown off. Any ideas??? 1
mtber75 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 It means that she needs more time. You should ease up on the gas pedal! I don't think its a blow off because she did go out with you and kissed you so she is definitely into you. She just needs more time to get over her last relationship. I say play it by ear and let her guide the relationship. Don't pressure her. 1
Babolat Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 I agree, give her some space. Wait a few days. Maybe try some fun no pressure texts as she seems to be a texter. 1
SJC2008 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 What was the gap between when she texted back to you vm and you calling her the next week??
Chinawhite Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 You should try giving her a copy of Gödel, Escher, Bach
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