Ex comes to my place to reconcile. 1 week later she dumps me...

[proteinshake25]

This is so immature. I dont entirely miss her yet. We had one big fight 2 weeks ago. She didnt speak to me for two days. I initiate contact we talk and she randomly shows up at my place. We reconcile and she says she loves me. 1 week later.(last nite) she was acting kinda distant but was still being somewhat caring and we were joking around. She says she needs to leave early. Gives some excuse. She gives me a simple dump text, no deep explanation. Then blocks my # and fb.

[Philosoraptor]

Well it seems like she missed being in a relationship but not being in a relationship with you. It's probably the number one cause of the back and forth and why it often takes so long for a relationship to finally end... no one wants to feel lonely.

[proteinshake25]

Not sure about that, the two days we were apart she was very busy with a babyshower and a party. I know a woman's words are practically meaningless only her actions are meaningfull. But She would constantly talk about how great I was, compliments,etc. Her excuse: "things just didnt feel the same the second time." With her being so young and immature is this possibly GIGS?

[Philosoraptor]

It doesn't matter what her reasons are. What she is saying is that I don't want to be with you just being who you are. That's a good enough reason to let this go, work on healing, and eventually find someone who is happy with you just being you.

[proteinshake25]

Yup. That's all I can do.

[Tree_Salmon]

I'm betting its another guy.

Someone who's been building up in the background for a while.

 

Maybe it wasn't a surefire bet when she came to see you and then you acted in such a way that she instantly got turned off. She probably tested you in a few ways subtly. You "failed" in her eyes. Wanted to see if you had your balls or not.

 

It's not your fault, you were just being honest and yourself. You should have made her wait a month at least before meeting with her. Have her think your worth over.

[proteinshake25]

I was good about not bending over backwards to welcome her back in. But you may be right. I should've waited a while to get back with her after the first fight. Her mother was trying to convince her to move on. I was concerned waiting wasnt the best thing. Either way. I gave it my best. Applied as much knowledge and wisdom I could. I prayed. We prayed together for each other. She just plain didnt like me as phil. Said. No poont in playing games to increase her attraction to me.

[Tree_Salmon]

I was good about not bending over backwards to welcome her back in. But you may be right. I should've waited a while to get back with her after the first fight. Her mother was trying to convince her to move on. I was concerned waiting wasnt the best thing. Either way. I gave it my best. Applied as much knowledge and wisdom I could. I prayed. We prayed together for each other. She just plain didnt like me as phil. Said. No poont in playing games to increase her attraction to me.

 

Forget about games and praying and all these other things to change the situation. YOU need to change yourself and the way you think/act.

 

You should be ok with being alone or having her in your life. Once you stop caring so much about making this thing happen everything will change.

 

Just take yourself out of the situation emotionally. You wont die if she leaves and you wont die if she stays. I know because I've been there too, plenty of times. Just remember that you were really attractive to her once and that was probably when you weren't even trying. Be that person again, just let all these games go.

 

Just take time to yourself and things will follow.