Jose11 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 So my gf, ex?, got a case of the GIGS, and we kid of talked about how we love each other and she said she just doesn't know what to do. We ended the conversation that day with me telling her how she should want to be with me because she wants to, not because she feels like she has to. And she said to give her, at what I remember, 2 weeks but then I think she might have said 2-3 weeks top. Today makes 3 weeks and I havent heard anything from her. She hasn't tried once to get in contact with me these 3 weeks. I actually broke n text her twice. The second time she seemed like she didn't want to respond to me. One or two word answers. I know now it's over, and I shouldn't take her back. Which now i wont. But my question is should I make contact and get some sort of closure? Or should I not and let it be. A part of me wants to call to tell her I know now what happened to you and us and I understand and i accept it. But a part of me that resents her feels like if I'm not worth at least a phone call and this is how you want to end 8.5 years of memories and love then have it. A little info, we were together for 8.5 years no major fighting just simple things.
mephisto Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 8,5 years ??? definitely no calling, texting...nothing!!! stay back and undetectable by her radar.thats your best bet. you need to settle your emotions,right now you are not attractive. GIGS fades away very quickly.be patient if you still want her back. So my gf, ex?, got a case of the GIGS, and we kid of talked about how we love each other and she said she just doesn't know what to do. We ended the conversation that day with me telling her how she should want to be with me because she wants to, not because she feels like she has to. And she said to give her, at what I remember, 2 weeks but then I think she might have said 2-3 weeks top. Today makes 3 weeks and I havent heard anything from her. She hasn't tried once to get in contact with me these 3 weeks. I actually broke n text her twice. The second time she seemed like she didn't want to respond to me. One or two word answers. I know now it's over, and I shouldn't take her back. Which now i wont. But my question is should I make contact and get some sort of closure? Or should I not and let it be. A part of me wants to call to tell her I know now what happened to you and us and I understand and i accept it. But a part of me that resents her feels like if I'm not worth at least a phone call and this is how you want to end 8.5 years of memories and love then have it. A little info, we were together for 8.5 years no major fighting just simple things.
Gulf-Delta Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 8,5 years ??? definitely no calling, texting...nothing!!! stay back and undetectable by her radar.thats your best bet. you need to settle your emotions,right now you are not attractive. GIGS fades away very quickly.be patient if you still want her back. GiGs CAN fade quickly. Usually doesn't. My best friend's girl went through a GiGs phase (it was like half gigs) for a month. And came running back. I've read some stories online of 2 years....4 years...even 10 in one I read. The most common one I've read is 6 months.
Exit Posted June 3, 2012 Posted June 3, 2012 Don't call. It's time like these where it's best to just stare reality in the face and accept it. If she had something to say, she'd say it, and she already hardly had anything to say to you the couple of times you texted her. It's not your job to call, you're not really the one who wanted the break in the first place. The ball is and has been in her court. Don't go chasing after that famous phantom "closure", there's nothing she can say that is gonna make it feel any better. Maintain your dignity and your silence. 1
Author Jose11 Posted June 3, 2012 Author Posted June 3, 2012 Thanks for all that replied. Yeah I kind of know any form of closure won't ever make me feel better, but I guess I just want to know what really happened. I just assumed its GIGS from the bit she did tell me, but I don't know for sure. And honestly idk if I really want to know what happened. A part of me does and a part of me doesn't. It's just the strange i thought she would have called me. Its a terrible feeling that you thought you knew someone as a sweet loving caring person who would never cause you heartache and they suddenly change to a cruel uncaring thoughtless individual. Pretty painful to go through.
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