SydneyGirl911 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) I have been in a relationship with my bisexual boyfriend for 5 months now. He is very open and I appreciate this, however, he has made it clear that he would like to have bondage and sex with some of his 'guy friends' in another state. His last girlfriend (they were together for 8 months) allowed this before changing her mind; at which point he told me that he did but that 'it was the right decision for the relationship but not him'. Now he wants me to approve but I feel I should be enough for him. As it is I said I am happy for him to keep in contact as I didn’t want to be completely controlling of him and I want him to choose to only have me. I have always been very clear I want to be exclusive and the other day he told me that 'I will be exclusive with you for sex, while we are still together'. So I know that he is aware I don’t want him to do it. Also to try to be enough for him, I agreed to try bondage with him, however, I am not completely comfortable with this yet, and I am willing if it means that sex with me is enough for him. He has also told me on several occasions that he loves me (first time after 4 months together) and I have told him I love him back. However I don’t know if I can if he wants to physically be with other people, even if he is 'emotionally unattached'. Also, as a joke, a friend of mine requested that my boyfriend be in an 'open relationship' on Facebook. I just took it as a joke but my boyfriend sent frantic texts and emails stating that an open relationship implies it is not a 'serious relationship'. Therefore, all things considered, I don’t know where I stand. Sorry for any spelling and grammar errors, we live in the same halls of residence at university and so I do not have time to check. Many thanks for your help! -Sydney Edited June 2, 2012 by SydneyGirl911 Clarification
amantis Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) Hi Yes you are good enough . He is not good for you , and i can tell you that you are just wasting your time , he can tell you that he loves you and all that crap , but in the end he wants a open relationship , and ITS GOING TO HAPPEN . If i were you , i would move on . You say you love him , but do you love yourself ? i dont think so , you are asking if you are good enough, thats not a good sign .. you were supposed to feel like you are special ... when you are with someone you shouldnt ever feel like you are not good enough . Move on and take time for yourself Btw , i live in sydney too Edited June 2, 2012 by amantis 1
yongyong Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 In U.S.A, is it controlling if you don't want your BF to have a butt sex with a guy?? hm, interesting..........
Sid6.7 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 In U.S.A, is it controlling if you don't want your BF to have a butt sex with a guy?? hm, interesting.......... Welp! This may be enough internet this evening for me.
Yookie Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I have been in a relationship with my bisexual boyfriend for 5 months now. He is very open and I appreciate this, however, he has made it clear that he would like to have bondage and sex with some of his 'guy friends' in another state. His last girlfriend (they were together for 8 months) allowed this before changing her mind; at which point he told me that he did but that 'it was the right decision for the relationship but not him'. Now he wants me to approve but I feel I should be enough for him. As it is I said I am happy for him to keep in contact as I didn’t want to be completely controlling of him and I want him to choose to only have me. I have always been very clear I want to be exclusive and the other day he told me that 'I will be exclusive with you for sex, while we are still together'. So I know that he is aware I don’t want him to do it. Also to try to be enough for him, I agreed to try bondage with him, however, I am not completely comfortable with this yet, and I am willing if it means that sex with me is enough for him. He has also told me on several occasions that he loves me (first time after 4 months together) and I have told him I love him back. However I don’t know if I can if he wants to physically be with other people, even if he is 'emotionally unattached'. Also, as a joke, a friend of mine requested that my boyfriend be in an 'open relationship' on Facebook. I just took it as a joke but my boyfriend sent frantic texts and emails stating that an open relationship implies it is not a 'serious relationship'. Therefore, all things considered, I don’t know where I stand. Sorry for any spelling and grammar errors, we live in the same halls of residence at university and so I do not have time to check. Many thanks for your help! -Sydney 1. Go get tested. 2. Get with someone who has the same goals as you (monogamy). 3. The End. 1
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