SJC2008 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) Messaged a woman online and she makes multipule "anouncements" about no casual sex or back of your car and stuff like that. She also says start out as friends and see where it goes. Now if you are familiar with OKC it has questions about dating and sex and other things and here's how she contrdicts herself: For the how many dates before sex she picked 3-5, do you have to have sex with someone before you marry them: No, would you date someone just for the sex? yes. What kind of woman is this lol?? Now I was very honest with her, probably gave her a little TMI but hey I wanna weed em out. I told her I respect a woman who will wait and not jump into the sack right away and she asked me if I was a virgin lol. I told her no and that if you put me in a room with a bunch of 30 year olds I probaly have had fewer gf's and less sex than most of them. Anyway she didn't weird out and gave me her number but I'll see becasue I'm on a 0-3 streak with getting numbers online with them not turning into dates. I'm thinking she's a normal woman who doesn't mind or even likes sex but mabye has been burned a time or two. What do yall think about all of this?? Edited June 1, 2012 by SJC2008 spelling, editing
veggirl Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 She sounds super weird. She is either confused or she filled out her profile in bits and pieces and was giving what she thought was the "right" answer at different times. I don't know why you would make that comment about you in a room of 30 year olds. Unnecessary thing to say.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 She sounds super weird. She is either confused or she filled out her profile in bits and pieces and was giving what she thought was the "right" answer at different times. I don't know why you would make that comment about you in a room of 30 year olds. Unnecessary thing to say. Yeah tough read I say. About my comment, she asked me if I was a virgin lol. Big shocker right? Tell a woman you don't have to hop into the sack right away and she sees a giant neon sign that says virgin LOL. I told her the truth, not a virgin but not been with as many woman my age and if she nexted me it saved me money spent on a date. She seemed receptive to that, I was forward with her (she claims to be blunt in her profile) and told her I'd like to date someone and eventually wind up in a r but I'm not waiting for marriage. I'm just curious about all the contradictory stuff??? Mabye it's her way of saying once in an r she's a sexual person but likes to be in a r first who knows?
veggirl Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Ask her! She had no qualms about asking if you are a virgin! And report back!
Emilia Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 She sounds a bit rough and not very bright to me. I think she wants to come across as serious and fun at the same time but for that she would have to skip the sex questions on OKC, it's what I did. Her reaction of asking you whether you are a virgin that way was somewhat uncouth
Andy_K Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 For the how many dates before sex she picked 3-5, do you have to have sex with someone before you marry them: No, would you date someone just for the sex? yes. I don't really see those as particularly contradictory. Quite simply she would normally have sex after 3-5 dates, and she enjoys it enough that she'd date someone just for the sex, but if she met someone she was really into, the love & companionship trumps sex enough that she'd be willing to wait until marriage for it. She didn't say she actually wanted to wait till marriage. Just that she didn't necessarily have to have sex before marriage.
d'Arthez Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Hmmm, not too sure how one would read it. Might simply be a people-pleasing bias when she is filling out these questions; yes it does happen A LOT. Also, people may not be certain what they are looking for: a short term fling (to pass the time - hey it happens), or marriage are two completely different beasts.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 My answers are also somewhat contradictory because I am truly not sure what I am looking for at the moment.
oaks Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm sure my answers on there are contradictory, mostly because I didn't answer them all on the same day and because so many of the questions have strongly defined answers but none fit how I feel about the subject (eg where really I want to answer "a bit of both" or "it depends" or "that one or that one" or "none of the above, this is a stupid question you retards"). For example, there's a question something like "how long do your relationships usually last?" and I have no idea how to answer this... I've had some that have lasted over a year including 1 that lasted about 10 years, and some that lasted a few months, and some that lasted a few weeks. There isn't a 'usual' or 'typical' length of my relationships, and a mathematical average isn't indicative given the high standard deviation, and what I was looking for when I was in the longest relationships might not have been what I was looking for when I was in the shortest relationships, etc, so answering it is both impossible for me and unhelpful for the reader. Maybe I didn't answer that one - can't remember - but if I did then it'll probably contradict the "how long do you want your next relationship to last?" and "do you want someone to go out with or someone to come home to?" questions.
irc333 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I never even answered those stupid questions on OKC, don't believe in 'em.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I do. I scan them for any casual sex/open relationships/poly attitudes and run.
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 She's a reincarnated Lewis Carroll trying to get in touch with her inner Cheshire cat.
persevere Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Messaged a woman online and she makes multipule "anouncements" about no casual sex or back of your car and stuff like that. She also says start out as friends and see where it goes. My bet is she is pretty promiscuous, but doing a poor job of hiding it. Why put in several sexual references, then contradict? Reminds me of times I've brought women back to my place for a drink and they say, out of the blue, "I hope you don't think we're having sex just because I'm coming to your place?" It's a test. Though what they are really saying is "it's on" Just play along and see what happens.
Author SJC2008 Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 I'm leaning toward she's been burned. I messaged her and she replied and asked a question. I answered, told her a little about me and told her that I like women who like to get to know a man first, which I do, plus it tells her I'm on the same page with her with not looking for a fling. Then she asked if I was into romance and said she wasn't a v and asked if I was. I told her no and what I said in the op and that I was not waiting for marriage and she said ok but also said most men say they want r's but don't so that's why I'm leaning toward she's been burned. It's just wierd how she seems anti sex in her profile but the questions would say other wise.
utterer of lies Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 My answers are also somewhat contradictory because I am truly not sure what I am looking for at the moment. What about 'someone who can deal with your extreme insecurities and hang ups over past relationships'?
Oxy Moronovich Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm leaning toward she's been burned. I messaged her and she replied and asked a question. I answered, told her a little about me and told her that I like women who like to get to know a man first, which I do, plus it tells her I'm on the same page with her with not looking for a fling. Then she asked if I was into romance and said she wasn't a v and asked if I was. I told her no and what I said in the op and that I was not waiting for marriage and she said ok but also said most men say they want r's but don't so that's why I'm leaning toward she's been burned. It's just wierd how she seems anti sex in her profile but the questions would say other wise. Go for her, man. Lasso that broad already. Then bang her and let's celebrate.
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