Sanman Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) Yes, yes we are all snowflakes and it comes down to personality and all that. Alright, now that the children are appeased let's talk reality. I have dated both inter-racially and within my own race. As I got older I realized, that I had a better quality of woman attracted to me if I stuck to my own race. This is not to say that people are not individuals and what not, but I had about 5-7 women of my own race attracted and interesting in dating me for every 1 woman of another race. Now, the women within my race were generally more attractive, better educated, or both compared to the woman of another ethnicity. For example, I have dated several women of my own ethnicity who were 5'5"-5'7", size 4-6, and professionals (bankers, doctors, lawyers, etc). Whereas fewer women of other races tended to be shorter, fatter, or less educated. Even then, those women had to know me to be attracted. I could pick women of my own race much more easily without knowing them. In the end, people are attracted to what they know. Many inter-racial women attracted to me had a common background of being exposed to people of my race or attracted to someone of similar skin color earlier in their life. Edited May 31, 2012 by Sanman
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Btw, if anyone had trouble following my previous posts...I had been arguing with a troll but a moderator already removed that persons posts.
irin Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Btw, if anyone had trouble following my previous posts...I had been arguing with a troll but a moderator already removed that persons posts. was it a name that started with f. or something, i replied to his post about arabs, and im pretty sure he had my post removed because i said something nice about them that he couldn't argue with lols.
Stupid Girl Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I come from a city that is just barely predominantly white (51%). In my experience, it's just more likely a white woman will end up dating a white man, not only because there are more white men than other races (which is also the case in most places in the rest of North America), but that, where there is so much multiculturalism - especially first and even second generation multiculturalism - other cultures often tend to stick together. Whether it's for commonality of language, familiarity of home country/culture or what, a lot of races just...don't hang around white people. They prefer to stick to their own race. I went to a gifted high school school with a lot of asians (asian population being at least 75%), and my experience was that Chinese people who spoke Chinese hung out in groups; Koreans who spoke Korean hung out in groups; etc. My "group" did include other races of people, but they were what some might consider "white-washed" in that they adopted what would be considered traditional western values, spoke English fluently, dressed like westerners, etc. So yeah, white girls were more likely to date white boys, for that reason. Just like Chinese guys were more likely to date Chinese boys, and Korean girls Korean boys, and so on.
Leigh 87 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Btw, if anyone had trouble following my previous posts...I had been arguing with a troll but a moderator already removed that persons posts. Dude you accused me of saying that I would rather a sh*tty dead beat white guy, than a nromal black guy............................... You should address my clarifications. I never said what you think I said.
Leigh 87 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Leigh, if you were a black girl, you would not have to explain this. Most black women feel that if they had to choose between a jobless, black felon and an average white guy, they would still choose a black guy, and everyone knows this is true of black women because they see it everyday. This may have to do with ignorance, low self-esteem, and fear of the unknown, but even famous and rich black women stick with black men. Oprah even said she begged some black guy to stick with her. It is changing though, but I believe that black women are racist sometimes or think that noone likes them. Really? I would have thought that modern day black women, with good self confidence, would date outside their race? Or, are people inherently drawn to the own races, sexually? Is this a flaw, or ain inbuilt drive in us, to select a mate? I honestly do not like to shut myself off to a person, based on their physical features, body type, or race! I do not PURPOSELY feel les sexually inclined towards a black or asian! In my mind, they are 100% equal people in every single way. Yet, naturally feel more sexually drawn to my own race! Therefore, the other race, aka, black, would have to be at least average looking to compell me to be sexually attracted! BECAUSE, i already feel out of my element sexually with them, due to my life experience and up bringing ( with not many black men around me). I certainly do not stick to white dudes on purpose!!! It just has happened that way. No black dudes have hit on me or been around me much, I have been in mostly white dominated areas in Australia!
Leigh 87 Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 OH - I lived in Hong Kong and loved the Asian and Indian friends I had. I have absolutely no aversion to friends of differnt races. It is just the slight sexual tendency to favour people of my own race that sticks. I was not brought up hidden away from black people - there was just not many around me. My parents brought me up to accept all people to be equal, regardless of their sexuality or race.
kaylan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Dude you accused me of saying that I would rather a sh*tty dead beat white guy, than a nromal black guy............................... You should address my clarifications. I never said what you think I said. My last post was basically so people wouldnt think I was talking to myself. And I dont need to adress your last posts. I saw them and acknowledged them mentally. My point still stands that you need to learn a more clear way to express your opinions next time so you dont come off the way you did. I got what you meant though. I just dont feel like rambling back and forth.
TaurusTerp Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Unless you eschew unfamiliar things in all areas of your life - you don't try new foods, travel to new places, try new activities, etc., I see the "I don't date x race because I am unfamiliar with them and am comfortable with my own race" argument as a thin, bull**** excuse for inherent racism that you do not want to admit it. I mean come on. I think all people of that race are uglier than my own race, but its just a preference not racism? Give me a break.
ATrainofAngels Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Really? I would have thought that modern day black women, with good self confidence, would date outside their race? Or, are people inherently drawn to the own races, sexually? Is this a flaw, or ain inbuilt drive in us, to select a mate? I honestly do not like to shut myself off to a person, based on their physical features, body type, or race! I do not PURPOSELY feel les sexually inclined towards a black or asian! In my mind, they are 100% equal people in every single way. Yet, naturally feel more sexually drawn to my own race! Therefore, the other race, aka, black, would have to be at least average looking to compell me to be sexually attracted! BECAUSE, i already feel out of my element sexually with them, due to my life experience and up bringing ( with not many black men around me). I certainly do not stick to white dudes on purpose!!! It just has happened that way. No black dudes have hit on me or been around me much, I have been in mostly white dominated areas in Australia! You don't have to justify why you feel that way because it's perfectly natural We feel more attracted to people who look like us and act like us because there's an assumption that they will be more similar and compatible to us in lifestyle It's perfectly normal. As long as you're not rejecting any black guy who approaches you just because he's black, you're fine
ATrainofAngels Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I mean come on. I think all people of that race are uglier than my own race, but its just a preference not racism? Give me a break. It's not about "uglyness", it's about people wanting a partner that will be similar and compatible to them Most white women would take a white guy over an equally attractive black guy because they feel like they will be more similar in terms of culture, personality, etc... If you're a black guy who wants a white woman, you need to dress, speak and act like white guys do and also understand that you're probably going to have to overachieve to get the same white girl that others would get. It's just nature
TaurusTerp Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 It's not about "uglyness", it's about people wanting a partner that will be similar and compatible to them Most white women would take a white guy over an equally attractive black guy because they feel like they will be more similar in terms of culture, personality, etc... If you're a black guy who wants a white woman, you need to dress, speak and act like white guys do and also understand that you're probably going to have to overachieve to get the same white girl that others would get. It's just nature Yeah all white people in all areas of the world have the same culture and personality. I dont know where you come up with this stuff, but if you think about it for more than 10 seconds you'd realize its utter BS. Just call a spade a spade; you think black people are inferior. It's the internet, no consequences. Just ****ing admit it to yourself instead of trying to justify it. 1
Pillow Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 If you're a black guy who wants a white woman, you need to dress, speak and act like white guys do and also understand that you're probably going to have to overachieve to get the same white girl that others would get. It's just nature I have noticed in my humble experience whites tend to sublimely put in their racism in the conversation and it really never ceases to take me by surprise. I would say every other ethnicity besides black and latinos are passive aggressive. I'm not passive aggressive at all, but Asian and whites top the list for it. I don't know why white people are so smart with physics and astronomy and then be really dumb about race and racism. All of the following men are white: Eminem Ashton Kutcher Mark Zuckenburg Hunter Hearse Hemsely Newt Gingrinch Rick Santorum Arnold Schwarsaguy They all express themselves differently. Which one should the black guy try to express himself like again? Ashton Kutcher or Justin Bieber? Justin Timberlake and his music is very similar to R&B by blacks. When it comes to cultural homogeneity, whites are the least I would say. Anyway, in my experience, black men have no problem dating white women (to my dismay). Will Smith will have no problem finding a blonde 22 year old if he wished. If white women are in an interracial relationship, 9 out 10 times it is with a black guy, and the black guy could be a rapper (Kanye West) or athlete or lawyer. He does not have to be Ashton Kutcher and in fact, he should be as different as possible I would say. 1
kaylan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) I said it earlier...people need to stop boxing races all together like they do. All white women do not think a like. Ill have more in common with a NYC white chick(or any race) than I will with a suburban chick of any race. So its really a silly argument when people try to say that others date choose dates mostly on culture. Lets be real...a lot of it has to do with the physical and also with how they perceive people of different races. If a chicks not into it for whatever reasons, then she isnt. But its silly to lean on culture all the time when we know thats not really it a lot of the time. At the end of the day, if a chick thinks your sexy, she will get with ya. Though race is still an important issue in modern times, it hasnt prevented me from enjoying a decent dating life. Theres more than enough chicks open to me that I do just fine. PS - Lmao @ Pillow banging on Ashton Kutcher....haha. He is annoying at times. Edited June 1, 2012 by kaylan
Emilia Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I have noticed in my humble experience whites tend to sublimely put in their racism in the conversation and it really never ceases to take me by surprise. I would say every other ethnicity besides black and latinos are passive aggressive. I'm not passive aggressive at all, but Asian and whites top the list for it. Very good observation now that you mention it I noticed this too. I think it's about Asian men and white men being more competitive and less secure than Black or Latino men. 2
Emilia Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 So its really a silly argument when people try to say that others date choose dates mostly on culture. Lets be real...a lot of it has to do with the physical and also with how they perceive people of different races. I do pick men based on culture, it's what I relate to as a European. This means that race isn't important to me but ethnicity is. If a black guy was born and raised in the UK I will have a lot in common with him potentially. If he was born an raised in Zambia, I won't. I know this because I've lived in both countries.
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 This is the most important topic to have been addressed in the entire history of LoveShack with "Earthican men, what chance would you say you have with intergalactic planetary planetary intergalactic babes? By that, I mean hotties like Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, or Steven Tyler." coming in at a distant second.
wwwjd Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm a white male. Am I the minority yet? Sorry, I'm not keeping up.
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I'm a white male. Am I the minority yet? Sorry, I'm not keeping up. No hablo Ingles
ATrainofAngels Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Yeah all white people in all areas of the world have the same culture and personality. I dont know where you come up with this stuff, but if you think about it for more than 10 seconds you'd realize its utter BS. Just call a spade a spade; you think black people are inferior. It's the internet, no consequences. Just ****ing admit it to yourself instead of trying to justify it. I have always had black friends, I don't think they're inferior at all You guys are missing the boat here. It doesn't matter whether you're talking about skin color, personality type, etc... People look for people that are very similar to them. If they meet somebody that is very different from there in a major area (like say skin color), there is an inherent and subconscious assumption that the person will be different from them As a black man, you just gotta dress and look the part and then make the girls feel comfortable and that you're on the same page with them. When you do that, you can overcome the inherent discomfort that a white woman would have with dating a black man because she feels like there is too much of a difference in culture
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted June 1, 2012 Author Posted June 1, 2012 As a black man, you just gotta dress and look the part and then make the girls feel comfortable and that you're on the same page with them. When you do that, you can overcome the inherent discomfort that a white woman would have with dating a black man because she feels like there is too much of a difference in culture Yea, because there is automatically a big difference in culture, them both being American and all...
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Yea, because there is automatically a big difference in culture, them both being American and all... Not many non-black guys speak ebonics fluently.
ATrainofAngels Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 Yea, because there is automatically a big difference in culture, them both being American and all... there is an inherent assumption that there is perception is reality. Overcome the perception and you can win
kaylan Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) ^What he means is "I have no logical rebuttal, so I avoid addressing your point directly."I do pick men based on culture, it's what I relate to as a European. This means that race isn't important to me but ethnicity is. If a black guy was born and raised in the UK I will have a lot in common with him potentially. If he was born an raised in Zambia, I won't. I know this because I've lived in both countries. My point was that people will sometimes hide behind the culture excuse instead of being honest and just saying that race was a deciding factor. Because its not like there arent plenty of cultures with a wide variety of races within them. Edited June 1, 2012 by kaylan
ATrainofAngels Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 ^What he means is "I have no logical rebuttal, so I avoid addressing your point directly." My point was that people will sometimes hide behind the culture excuse instead of being honest and just saying that race was a deciding factor. Because its not like there arent plenty of cultures with a wide variety of races within them. I don't think that's a bad excuse. Black people and black families do have a different culture though I would be hesitant to date a black girl myself cause I'm not sure how their family would accept me
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