JuneJulySeptember Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 What chance would you say you have with white women? By that, I mean this. If you're a black dude, you pretty much have a chance at every Black women. I know there's rare ones that don't like Black men, but still, you assume you are in the running every time you are talking to a black gal. So, it's the rest of your goods that are going to decide. But for white women, you're out from the start a portion of the time. So Asian guys, black guys, Indian guys, Hispanic guys I guess too kinda count but barely, when you meet a white woman what would you say the chances are that she would give your race a chance? Just curious for odds sake.
JohnP82 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I would say just as good of a chance with any other race.
boytoy Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Brown guy here. You have a shot at most white women, but the bar is higher. In other words, typically you have to be better looking, more fun, and more successful than a white guy to date the same girl. Also, there is a "ceiling," of sorts: there is no amount of success and good looks that will ever enable you to get with any girl you want. No matter how incredible you are, there will always be many hot girls who want nothing to do with you. In contrast, there are white guys who can get with almost any girl they want... Them's the breaks... OKCupid did a study that confirmed this kind of thing a few years back. The conclusion was that white women are the most racially biased dating demographic. 1
WhyWontYouBe Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I ain't white, however, all my RS so far have been with white girls! Not that I choose specifically for them, but it just happened.
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) What chance would you say you have with white women? By that, I mean this. If you're a black dude, you pretty much have a chance at every Black women. I know there's rare ones that don't like Black men, but still, you assume you are in the running every time you are talking to a black gal. So, it's the rest of your goods that are going to decide. But for white women, you're out from the start a portion of the time. So Asian guys, black guys, Indian guys, Hispanic guys I guess too kinda count but barely, when you meet a white woman what would you say the chances are that she would give your race a chance? Just curious for odds sake. Are we assuming all white women think alike or something? Depending on culture, upbringing, preferences, etc...each white chick will be different in terms of what she likes. This is not unlike any woman or man though. Seeing as most women Ive hooked up with or dated have been white, I dont know how to answer your question OP. I think my dating record has more to do with what my hobbies and interests are, as well as how large the white population is, more than anything else I can think of. At the end of the day it depends on the womans personality, no matter what her race is. Since my teen years Ive had the whole rainbow be interested in me. Edited May 31, 2012 by kaylan 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I would go out with a black guy. He has to be a guy that I like a lot, and want to be around; just like the white guys. I naturally inclined towards white men, sexually; but I totally put this down to experience, and while I would not rule a black dude out, he would have to have extra appeal for me to notice him and be interested over what I am comfortable and familiar with ( aka white dudes) For instance: a white guy with really crooked teeth, but who is one great guy who I adore being around - he could get away with being unnattractive. My desire for his personality, would have be overlook his appearance, and I would allow myself time to become sexually into him. On the other hand, with a black guy: he would also have to be an awesome person for me to consider a relationship or dating him...... but I would prefer one of those black men who has a really friendly, cheeky, great smile! haha. I am not shallow for the most part, compared to most women around me; but I admit, I prefer black guys with a nice smile. Actually, they are really quiet nice to look at! I am just stating what I am naturally attracted to, sexually speaking. I cannot change my preference; however, I am open minded enough to give people a go, even if I am not familar with them sexually speaking. I would just as easily give a black guy a go as a white guy... but I would PREFER the b;ack guy to at least have a nice smile, to make me go beyond the barriar I normally, naturally have for an unfamilar race, sexually. Heidy Klum had a black husband. Enough said:P
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 ^Not sure how I feel about your reply. Its almost like youre saying black men have to do more to appease you because white men are superior. The fact that an unattractive crooked tooth white dude is on the same level as an even awesomer, great smile, funny black guy, says a lot. 2
WhyWontYouBe Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Heidy Klum had a black husband. Enough said:P And they are very in love. :rolleyes::rolleyes: Just like Madonna and her new toy.
WhyWontYouBe Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 ^Not sure how I feel about your reply. Its almost like youre saying black men have to do more to appease you because white men are superior. The fact that an unattractive crooked tooth white dude is on the same level as an even awesomer, great smile, funny black guy, says a lot. That's exactly what she said son. 1
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) P.S. - I had braces for 5 years and women love my smile xD That's exactly what she said son. It may not be exactly what she said, but it doesnt take a Journalist to be able to read between the lines and figure out where those feelings come from.And they are very in love. :rolleyes::rolleyes: Just like Madonna and her new toy. They were. Just because they divorced now, doesnt mean they werent in love. Their marriage was super passionate if you ever heard them talk about one another. Its stupid for you to compare a couple who were married with children, to the weird dating life of Madonna. Haters gon' hate. Edited May 31, 2012 by kaylan
Emilia Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 It may not be exactly what she said, but it doesnt take a Journalist to be able to read between the lines and figure out where those feelings come from. It's more about comfort zones, the OP needs to understand that as well. Many women don't have the desire to 'experiment' the same way as men do. They are often more passive and some are a little scared of guys even. No, I'm not implying that black men or non white men are scary, I'm saying that many women are more comfortable with what they find familiar. Race, age group, ethinicity, socio-economic background, etc
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Im sorry, but equating attractive black men to unattractive crooked teeth white men should be ok with me? Im taking it too seriously that Im being deemed as inferior to someone not even on my level? Gimme a break
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) It's more about comfort zones, the OP needs to understand that as well. Many women don't have the desire to 'experiment' the same way as men do. They are often more passive and some are a little scared of guys even. No, I'm not implying that black men or non white men are scary, I'm saying that many women are more comfortable with what they find familiar. Race, age group, ethinicity, socio-economic background, etc I dont mind the comfortable argument. Thats fine and dandy. What I mind is basically putting down brothers and saying even the best of us are only as good as the worst white men. I mean really? Edited May 31, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) Im not making anything a race issue. Im simply pointing out that one can have preferences but should have tact. Again, you need to work on your reading comprehension. Her preference is fine. What I take issue with, is that she deems the best of black men as on par with the worst of white men. Theres a way to make your preferences clear without making someone sound inferior. Again, if I went around saying that thick white women are only as attractive to me ugly skinny black women. Id have women on this site being upset in a nanosecond. Also, you have an annoying posting style. Learn to use paragraphs and stop abusing the Enter key. Im done responding to you by the way...I cant take your inability to write properly. Edited May 31, 2012 by kaylan 1
irin Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 ive had white guys coming up to me saying they only like women of my complexion, and ive also had some that where very racist. so they either have racial fetishes or they are racist. which to me is really bazaar because technically i could pass for white, i basically come from a similar background to kim kardashian and have the same colouring as her, (i im not really fan of hers, but shes the only famous person, that i could think of). but in the uk i stand out because most English people don't have really dark hair. the one thing that bothers me most is people of any ethnicity refusing to look at anyone of their on kind. why the self hatred? 1
Caius Ballad Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Smart average height black men who aren't the stereotype have it much harder than whites. It's sad every time people bring up the word "black" people think tall, mucles and every other sad stereotype.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Are we assuming all white women think alike or something? Depending on culture, upbringing, preferences, etc...each white chick will be different in terms of what she likes. This is not unlike any woman or man though. Seeing as most women Ive hooked up with or dated have been white, I dont know how to answer your question OP. I think my dating record has more to do with what my hobbies and interests are, as well as how large the white population is, more than anything else I can think of. At the end of the day it depends on the womans personality, no matter what her race is. Since my teen years Ive had the whole rainbow be interested in me. Hey Kaylan! I appreciate your optimism, and I do agree a lot has to do with personality. But I think that there are definitely some white women who will not date black guys no matter if you fit their personality or not. I'm assuming you are black. I am Asian and personally, I'd say it's about 50/50. Like for white women 1 out of every two would be open to dating a non white guy and then the other would not except under unusual circumstances. It's more about comfort zones, the OP needs to understand that as well. Many women don't have the desire to 'experiment' the same way as men do. They are often more passive and some are a little scared of guys even. No, I'm not implying that black men or non white men are scary, I'm saying that many women are more comfortable with what they find familiar. Race, age group, ethinicity, socio-economic background, etc Yes. See it doesn't bother me. I was trying to get a feel of what other guys think. I look on Match.com and only a portion of the white women have non-white guys as an option. I know some of those would probably do it if they knew the guy first, but still, some definitely wouldn't. I don't have a fetish for white women, I'm just curious.
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Smart average height black men who aren't the stereotype have it much harder than whites. It's sad every time people bring up the word "black" people think tall, mucles and every other sad stereotype. Meh, I dont see my dating life as hard. I dont put any particular race of woman on a pedestal. I just work with what I have and roll with life. Im average height, smart, and am lean with some muscle. So I have some things going for me. Im not gonna be bothered too much by people who stereotype, because I just dont associate with that kinda nonsense. Hey Kaylan! I appreciate your optimism, and I do agree a lot has to do with personality. But I think that there are definitely some white women who will not date black guys no matter if you fit their personality or not. I'm assuming you are black. I am Asian and personally, I'd say it's about 50/50. Like for white women 1 out of every two would be open to dating a non white guy and then the other would not except under unusual circumstances. Hmm...I think you misunderstood what I was getting at. Yes I know that either a girl will be open to it, or not be open to it. My point however, was that my dating life has been about whom I click with. Im not gonna sit and worry if a chick is open to me or not. In my experience, if her and I click, then we click...and the race thing isnt an issue.
Pillow Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) As a dark-skinned black woman, I would say I find it easier to date outside of my race than inside. Most black men prefer lighter skinned women, not pale skin like flat out white, but olive skinned tone, mixed, caramel skin, brown skin (not Indians though) and Beyonce, Halle Berry, Rihanna, Vanessa Williams looking women. It works because light-skinned black women or olive, Italian women like black guys, like the Kardashians almost exclusively date black men. White men seem to like darkskin, but I stick to dating black men. If you see interracial couple for blk women, it's probably a real dark black woman and a white guy. If Jay-Z broke up with Beyonce, she'll find her another dark black guy before she dates a white man. Rihanna and Tyra Banks are the same way. Halle Berry only recently began dating white men, she was exclusively dating black before her 40s. Edited May 31, 2012 by Pillow
Necris Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 What chance would you say you have with white women? By that, I mean this. If you're a black dude, you pretty much have a chance at every Black women. I know there's rare ones that don't like Black men, but still, you assume you are in the running every time you are talking to a black gal. So, it's the rest of your goods that are going to decide. But for white women, you're out from the start a portion of the time. So Asian guys, black guys, Indian guys, Hispanic guys I guess too kinda count but barely, when you meet a white woman what would you say the chances are that she would give your race a chance? Just curious for odds sake. Strange question, but I'll answer it anyway, I'm black myself but I think my chances would be close to a nice 0% same with any other woman, except with women outside my race there is a chance of talking to someone who not only feels zero attraction but also feels hate as well due to racism.
Leigh 87 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 ^Not sure how I feel about your reply. Its almost like youre saying black men have to do more to appease you because white men are superior. The fact that an unattractive crooked tooth white dude is on the same level as an even awesomer, great smile, funny black guy, says a lot. NO. I never said a crooked tooth white dude was up there with a great looking black dude. I said that, because of my sexual inexperience with black men, the black men would have to be at least average, in order for me to be sexually attracted to them. That is just the way I am. I am not shallow, I do not go for hot guys ( I am not that great myself). I cannot help that I am not attracted to white guys. SO. Black men have to be at last average for m e to date them; where as a white guy could be ugly, and I would date them (as long as they were nto too hideous for me to have sex with). The only difference, is that the black dude has to be at least average for me to date him, where as I would date an unnattractive white guy. I tend to go for personality, and that makes most guys sexy to me. Do you better understand?
Leigh 87 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Im not making anything a race issue. Im simply pointing out that one can have preferences but should have tact. Again, you need to work on your reading comprehension. Her preference is fine. What I take issue with, is that she deems the best of black men as on par with the worst of white men. Theres a way to make your preferences clear without making someone sound inferior. Again, if I went around saying that thick white women are only as attractive to me ugly skinny black women. Id have women on this site being upset in a nanosecond. Also, you have an annoying posting style. Learn to use paragraphs and stop abusing the Enter key. Im done responding to you by the way...I cant take your inability to write properly. Look, man, I am not the least bit racist. I view every race as equal, and I would date anyone of any race - however, the key factor for me, is PERSONALITY: now, if a white guy has a great pesonality, but is not quiet unnatractive - I would date him. On the other hand, because I am not sexually familar with any race besides white folk, an " unnattractive" black guy would be too much for me to handle, sexually. All they have to be is average looking. So. Your a muso, plau instruments, are a degree holder, and are a cool guy. Have friends, like to have fun, can talk about interesting topics. Of COURSE your MUCH better quality than some white dude wioth crooked teeth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANd I would not go for the VERY WORST of white men... if they have a personality that really attracted me, I would not care if they had crooked teeth. I am not stunner myself, so I would seeif I could become sexually attracted to a man, who I am not physically attracted to in the slightest. I have lived overseas and am far from racist, shallow, or some biggot. OKay? I am one of the nicest people I know.
Pillow Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Look, man, I am not the least bit racist. I view every race as equal, and I would date anyone of any race - however, the key factor for me, is PERSONALITY: now, if a white guy has a great pesonality, but is not quiet unnatractive - I would date him. On the other hand, because I am not sexually familar with any race besides white folk, an " unnattractive" black guy would be too much for me to handle, sexually. All they have to be is average looking. So. Your a muso, plau instruments, are a degree holder, and are a cool guy. Have friends, like to have fun, can talk about interesting topics. Of COURSE your MUCH better quality than some white dude wioth crooked teeth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANd I would not go for the VERY WORST of white men... if they have a personality that really attracted me, I would not care if they had crooked teeth. I am not stunner myself, so I would seeif I could become sexually attracted to a man, who I am not physically attracted to in the slightest. I have lived overseas and am far from racist, shallow, or some biggot. OKay? I am one of the nicest people I know. Leigh, if you were a black girl, you would not have to explain this. Most black women feel that if they had to choose between a jobless, black felon and an average white guy, they would still choose a black guy, and everyone knows this is true of black women because they see it everyday. This may have to do with ignorance, low self-esteem, and fear of the unknown, but even famous and rich black women stick with black men. Oprah even said she begged some black guy to stick with her. It is changing though, but I believe that black women are racist sometimes or think that noone likes them.
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