Author irc333 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 Bad examples. I don't know why you think Christie and Sela are trying to emulate teenagers other than they wear fashionable hairstyles, makeup and clothes that suit them. Both women look late 30s/early 40s and like the best version of themselves. Should they wear shapeless floral frocks with crocs and let their hair go grey so other women their age aren't threatened and younger women don't view them as competition? Would that be "age appropriate?" I've actually met Sela Ward and she is a very natural looking, lovely woman. Nah, I can beat that.....Jane Seymour.
Stellar Wench Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I am noticing, I decided to do a search on women approaching the 50 mark (48,49,50) to even early 50's...considering I'm getting into the 40's now. I've seen some women in their early 50's usually putting men from 40-55. Though, I have emailed some women (who didn't specify an age range), only to tell me I was way too young. I had one that did have a 40-55 age range, and she told me that I was too young, and she said that she'll probably have to change that age range specification. As we age....does our age range specification get wider? Also, is there an OLDER age that you stop at, where people start too look like an older Aunt or Uncle for you to be dating them? Yeah, with me, I think 55+ is where women start to seem too old for me. Anyone else?Salt-and-pepper hair I find very sexy. I draw the line at gray pubes.
FitChick Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Salt-and-pepper hair I find very sexy. I draw the line at gray pubes. If you're looking at his pubes, isn't that a little late to draw the line? There is a solution for gray hair down there.
FitChick Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Here's a new pic of Christie looking gorgeous. I love that dress. Not something a teenager would wear unless she had good taste and a big clothing allowance. Very feminine and great for summer. The matching cardigan is perfect for overly air conditioned offices and cooler evenings out. I hope someone does cheaper knockoffs cuz I can't afford Versace! 3
Breeze1964 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 my ex is 50, his new gf is like 30...saw a picture of them together...he looks like he can easily pass for her father...the age difference is defintely distinguishable in their case!
FrustratedStandards Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I'm 28. For me, men around 50+ get too old for me. Then again, I know this one guy who is 50 and he is incredibly good looking. I would even date him if I was attracted to him.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer Even though she is 58 and looks gorgeous, I think it might not feel great to aspire to still look 18 - 21 when one is almost 60. No matter how beautiful, she will NOT really look the same as women in the age group she is trying to emulate. I prefer the look of women who are beautiful but who still carry their actual age as a part of themselves, rather than those who strive to appear to be in their 20's. Like: http://www3.pictures.stylebistro.com...-kNhfzsHwl.jpg Bad examples. I don't know why you think Christie and Sela are trying to emulate teenagers other than they wear fashionable hairstyles, makeup and clothes that suit them. Both women look late 30s/early 40s and like the best version of themselves. Should they wear shapeless floral frocks with crocs and let their hair go grey so other women their age aren't threatened and younger women don't view them as competition? Would that be "age appropriate?" I've actually met Sela Ward and she is a very natural looking, lovely woman. Sela Ward was my example of what I prefer to see. No, I don't think "they" ("we," actually, since I am in that age group myself) should wear crocs, etc. I just don't go for the blonde beach bunny look on a 58 year old woman. But, honestly, I never did go for that look. I still agree that Christie Brinkley looks gorgeous. Generally, I have always found more sophisticated or unique looking women the most beautiful, and I think they carry their age most gracefully.
WonderKid Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I'm 22 and I'll date a 32 yr old. Mature women are the best!!
zengirl Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I think there's something truly sad about clinging too hard to youth as you age, and I agree with MC generally --- a woman who tries to look and dress several decades younger than she is seems sad to me. So does a man who does the same. Or anyone who actively seeks much younger dating company. Personally, my range was always close to my age - when I met Hubby, I was 26 and it was "post-college" (actual age cap at 22, but had to be a college graduate which raised it for many people) - 32ish. Ideally, I wanted to meet someone under 30, and Hubby was 29, about to turn 30, when we met, but I would've gone a couple of years up from 30, maybe, since I was over 25. Usually, I didn't like going more than +5 and I never got older to go all the way -5 because dating someone under 21 seemed like a bad idea, plus I didn't want to date anyone who was in college or anyone who didn't want to go to college. None of that was about "looking old" though -- it was about actual age and experience on this planet, being part of the same generation, etc. I just don't get this notion that it's how old you LOOK that matters. To me, how old you ARE matters more than how old you look. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I am finding myself struggling to be attracted to older men. I am 33 and anyone beyond 35 tends to look older. 40+? Forget it. When I get an OLD e-mail notification that I got a message from 40+ guy, I don't even bother to read it. I know it's superficial My preferred age range is 27-33. My next two dates are 28 and 27. I also reject below 25s.
Author irc333 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 I don't meet many women who date the max, of being their own age. Like 33 will only date a 33 year old man or less. I am used to seeing age range req. of a woman your age, actually right ON 40. lol I"m still open to dating early 30's women, since I just turned 40. Somehow, if they're within the 10 years, I'm okay with it, and they don't seem to young, but I don't date in the 20's anymore. And I think I will probably date no one later than 47/48. I am finding myself struggling to be attracted to older men. I am 33 and anyone beyond 35 tends to look older. 40+? Forget it. When I get an OLD e-mail notification that I got a message from 40+ guy, I don't even bother to read it. I know it's superficial My preferred age range is 27-33. My next two dates are 28 and 27. I also reject below 25s.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I don't meet many women who date the max, of being their own age. Like 33 will only date a 33 year old man or less. I am used to seeing age range req. of a woman your age, actually right ON 40. lol I"m still open to dating early 30's women, since I just turned 40. Somehow, if they're within the 10 years, I'm okay with it, and they don't seem to young, but I don't date in the 20's anymore. And I think I will probably date no one later than 47/48. I will possibly give them a shot but my instinctive attraction is to younger men. I think it's also because I don't like baggage of ex wife and kids or not keeping in shape.
EasyHeart Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 A related question is "At what age do people start to look too young?" (which most of you probably haven't reached yet). I live less than a mile from a Big Ten university. One of the rites of Spring is when the college girls break out their shorts and skirts after the long, long winter. It used to be one of my favorite times of year. But sometime in my forties, that started to change. Instead of enjoying the scenery, I started have thoughts like: "Zip that up!" "Does your father know you're wearing that?" "How can you get any support in those shoes?!?" "A PopTart is NOT breakfast!" "Psychology? What kind of job can you get with a psychology degree?!?!" That's when I knew I was old.
Author irc333 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 LOL....I have a late 40's friend that does the complete opposite, he's single, never married, no kids. On his lunch break, he goes out to a picnic area that has high traffic just outside of a major university and "people watches" if you know what I mean. LOL The gender being of the ladies. A related question is "At what age do people start to look too young?" (which most of you probably haven't reached yet). I live less than a mile from a Big Ten university. One of the rites of Spring is when the college girls break out their shorts and skirts after the long, long winter. It used to be one of my favorite times of year. But sometime in my forties, that started to change. Instead of enjoying the scenery, I started have thoughts like: "Zip that up!" "Does your father know you're wearing that?" "How can you get any support in those shoes?!?" "A PopTart is NOT breakfast!" "Psychology? What kind of job can you get with a psychology degree?!?!" That's when I knew I was old.
Negative Nancy Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 Here's a new pic of Christie looking gorgeous. I love that dress. Not something a teenager would wear unless she had good taste and a big clothing allowance. Very feminine and great for summer. The matching cardigan is perfect for overly air conditioned offices and cooler evenings out. I hope someone does cheaper knockoffs cuz I can't afford Versace! Yeah, she looks gorgeous, it's unbelievable she's almost 60. I think there's something truly sad about clinging too hard to youth as you age Just because Christie looks amazing and takes care of herself doesnt mean she's "clinging too hard to youth". I think you're just jealous. 1
iris219 Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I am finding myself struggling to be attracted to older men. I am 33 and anyone beyond 35 tends to look older. 40+? Forget it. When I get an OLD e-mail notification that I got a message from 40+ guy, I don't even bother to read it. I know it's superficial My preferred age range is 27-33. My next two dates are 28 and 27. I also reject below 25s. Interesting. We're the same age and I find that I'm not attracted to younger men at all. I'd date a 48 year old before a 28 year old. My age range is about 30-48, though honestly I'd have a hard time dating a 30 year old. I might even go above 48 if the man wanted a family. My ex was only 5 years older than me and I felt like he was too young! I see out of shape, unattractive men in their 20s all the time. As long as a guy takes care of himself, I'd have no problem dating a much older man.
Woggle Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I am at that age where high school kids are starting to look like children to me. 2
Author irc333 Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 I might even go above 48 if the man wanted a family. Unfortunately, majority of men that age or older, don't want kids.
FitChick Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 A perfect example of how too old or too young varies from person to person -- on another thread a woman who is 21 mentioned dating a much older man and that because of his age he was "set in his ways." I was picturing a guy in his sixties sitting in a rocking chair. Turns out he was 33 3
Negative Nancy Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 I am at that age where high school kids are starting to look like children to me. I think you're one of the only men.
zengirl Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 A related question is "At what age do people start to look too young?" (which most of you probably haven't reached yet). I live less than a mile from a Big Ten university. One of the rites of Spring is when the college girls break out their shorts and skirts after the long, long winter. It used to be one of my favorite times of year. But sometime in my forties, that started to change. Instead of enjoying the scenery, I started have thoughts like: "Zip that up!" "Does your father know you're wearing that?" "How can you get any support in those shoes?!?" "A PopTart is NOT breakfast!" "Psychology? What kind of job can you get with a psychology degree?!?!" That's when I knew I was old. Apparently I've always been old! I always thought stuff like that. Not so much the "cover it up" (what do I care really?) but other grumpy old stuff.
LittlePrince Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 I went to my 20 year high school reunion and felt like I was at my parents' party! This was not just delusional on my part. Many of the people had stopped growing (except girth-wise ) and they were pretty much boring old farts and fartresses. And a lot of us were "young". A depressing subset of the "young" types were those who were desperately trying to clutch onto their high school looks and personae, which had served them well 20 years ago but now needed to be upgraded to something different. I feel concerned for those of us who seem pre-occupied with holding onto physical youth and to be in denial about some absolute realities of aging. Hormones, eating right and exercise will NOT keep us forever young. I think it's best to take care of ourselves physically and mentally because our bodies and minds are precious gifts that we want to serve us well for as long as possible, and we want to enjoy them. But … we aren't going to be young forever. We will pale in comparison to those who actually ARE young, if we feel like we need to run in that race. So the secret to aging is to act dead but not too dead, Grandma Chaucer?
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