irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I am noticing, I decided to do a search on women approaching the 50 mark (48,49,50) to even early 50's...considering I'm getting into the 40's now. I've seen some women in their early 50's usually putting men from 40-55. Though, I have emailed some women (who didn't specify an age range), only to tell me I was way too young. I had one that did have a 40-55 age range, and she told me that I was too young, and she said that she'll probably have to change that age range specification. As we age....does our age range specification get wider? Also, is there an OLDER age that you stop at, where people start too look like an older Aunt or Uncle for you to be dating them? Yeah, with me, I think 55+ is where women start to seem too old for me. Anyone else?
irin Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 yes i think as you age it will be more flexible, but now at 21, anyone above 30 is too old for me, and i dont feel comfortable with someone more than a year younger, but i think when im older my limit with someone younger would stop at 21, i want them to be legal everywhere and in every aspect.
oaks Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 As we age....does our age range specification get wider? Yes. I expect I'll always be happy to date a 29 year old.
january2011 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I've found that my preferences have changed as I've gotten older. I remember that as a teen, anyone past high school was considered 'old' and so on. However, as I've hit these milestones, I don't feel that they are 'old' anymore. I've heard about similar experiences from other people in my peer group. Currently, I have a 'psychological' block regarding 40+. In a previous post, I mentioned that when I did OLD, I set a very narrow age range. My SO falls within it and I met him via OLD. When I hit 40+, I'd imagine that I won't see it as 'old' anymore. However, I'll probably still maintain a 'psychological' block about dating someone who is younger than me. Therefore, my age range specification is quite narrow and will remain narrow, the minimum and maximum points just move as I get older. I know that would limit my dating pool if I ever returned to the market and I'm okay with that.
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 I think the majority of people that I've met, when reaching mid 30's, and beyond Usually have some kind of "If they're 5 years younger or 5 years older of their own age. Some, that's say have a 10 year range in EITHER direction. Like if you're 40, they'll date up to 50 and as young as 30. I've been seeing age range preferences from women in their early 50's as: 40-55 as of late...which kind of surprises me that they don't find 40 TOO young for a, say a 52 year old. I've found that my preferences have changed as I've gotten older. I remember that as a teen, anyone past high school was considered 'old' and so on. However, as I've hit these milestones, I don't feel that they are 'old' anymore. I've heard about similar experiences from other people in my peer group. Currently, I have a 'psychological' block regarding 40+. In a previous post, I mentioned that when I did OLD, I set a very narrow age range. My SO falls within it and I met him via OLD. When I hit 40+, I'd imagine that I won't see it as 'old' anymore. However, I'll probably still maintain a 'psychological' block about dating someone who is younger than me. Therefore, my age range specification is quite narrow and will remain narrow, the minimum and maximum points just move as I get older. I know that would limit my dating pool if I ever returned to the market and I'm okay with that.
darkmoon Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 i'm a 59 women with good genes, so i pass for 40, i only fancy young men, who in turn fancy girls younger than them, but i find many older men cynically looking for sex, and expecting to be fancied like mad, adored, more than normal, as if they must be looked up to, they might but then they might not merit all that applause
january2011 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I think the majority of people that I've met, when reaching mid 30's, and beyond Usually have some kind of "If they're 5 years younger or 5 years older of their own age. Some, that's say have a 10 year range in EITHER direction. Like if you're 40, they'll date up to 50 and as young as 30. I've been seeing age range preferences from women in their early 50's as: 40-55 as of late...which kind of surprises me that they don't find 40 TOO young for a, say a 52 year old. That's also been my experience in my peer group. It really depends on what the individual is comfortable with and how flexible their parameters are. For example, I've seen that some women will go much younger because they figure that statistically, that will improve their chances of finding someone and they perhaps don't have the 'psychological' block that I do. I haven't hit the need to change my preferences so I'll probably keep them as they are if I get back on OLD. Who knows what OLD will look like if that ever happens?
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 i'm a 59 women with good genes, so i pass for 40, i only fancy young men, who in turn fancy girls younger than them, but i find many older men cynically looking for sex, and expecting to be fancied like mad, adored, more than normal, as if they must be looked up to, they might but then they might not merit all that applause That's awesome that you look young for your age, must be your location or not really exposed to much sun or something. Anyhow, there's this one woman , age 55, Pharmacist, I think took a liking to me, but she was the one I mentioned in another post that declared our "friendship" as us not not dating when at Trivia night with a bunch of people, when asked, "Are you two dating?" But, she tends to flirt here and there I think, like when she reaches over or past me to get something or does something that involves her having to get into my personal space, she's always apologizing for it...like, "Sorry, just getting that spare fork over there, wouldn't want you to think I was trying to molest you or something, lol" She'd always do this...but she does tout being a "proud member of AARP" which is reminder that she could be TOO old for me. lol I dunno. She's got a cute butt for a 55 year old though. I mean, she DOES look her age, but looks good for her age at the same time. But I am noticing that, more women who look good for their ages, like yourself....chasin' younger men. lol Some even 2 decades younger perhaps.
mesmerized Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Around 34 35, it seems to me like men start to look a bit old to me. I've known guys who still look like they're in their twenties at that age though, but it's not too common. 40+ they certainly look old...
tigressA Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I can't bring myself to date anyone more than 6 years older. My most recent ex was right at the limit at 6 years older, and that experience is making me go back to guys right at my own age, give or take a couple of years. I think some men who have 5+ years on a woman are much more likely to be condescending toward them and treat them like a know-nothing child, which is a huge turn-off. Also, I don't like bald heads, receding hairlines or bodies with a lot of 'cushioning'. Quite a few men I see who are barely into their 30s are balding, with too-soft bodies to boot. Give me a man with a head full of thick, lush hair and no love handles, please.
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 (edited) Quite a few men I see who are barely into their 30s are balding Well, that's something they can't control, baldness is hereditary. Edited May 30, 2012 by irc333
tigressA Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Well, that's something they can't control, baldness is hereditary. Perhaps, but I'm not going to force myself to swoon at the sight of baldness. I'm at my peak in attractiveness; I prefer to find someone who is there with me, at around my own age, and then we can decline together.
ThaWholigan Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I find that it varies. Some people take really poor care of themselves, and look real old by the time they're like 35-36. In contrast, I've met some real hot 45-50 year olds over the last 5 years . I think 35 is my limit personally though.
Carol D Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Yeah, there is definitely a age gap when it start to get awkward to date them. I would go with the 5 years range only.
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Sometimes, there's just good genes. I find that it varies. Some people take really poor care of themselves, and look real old by the time they're like 35-36. In contrast, I've met some real hot 45-50 year olds over the last 5 years . I think 35 is my limit personally though.
Imported Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Sometimes, there's just good genes. Nice attractive face, great natural skin tone, small pores, hair that not only doesn't fall off, but doesn't turn grey and a mesomorph body. Some people will look young for a very long time and attractive for even longer. Some guys go bald and/or grey by 25. With todays fastfood, video game playing youths....lots of obese people before they're even out of their teens. Lots of under 30 year olds waddling around that already looks old and beaten.
mesmerized Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Nice attractive face, great natural skin tone, small pores, hair that not only doesn't fall off, but doesn't turn grey and a mesomorph body. Some people will look young for a very long time and attractive for even longer. Some guys go bald and/or grey by 25. With todays fastfood, video game playing youths....lots of obese people before they're even out of their teens. Lots of under 30 year olds waddling around that already looks old and beaten. An ex of mine was like that. He was balding at 25. I'd be lying if i said it didn't bother me at all.
LittlePrince Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Sometimes, there's just good genes. Vampirism isn't genetic.
ThaWholigan Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Sometimes, there's just good genes. That genes thing is a cop-out to me. There's good genes, and then there's manipulating the genes you have now. Then you can pass on better genes. By now you can tell I'm no scientist .
FitChick Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I go by appearance and health and fitness habits. Older men can look and act younger than much younger men. It depends on the individual. If you are hung up on numbers, good luck to you.
Pierre Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I am noticing, I decided to do a search on women approaching the 50 mark (48,49,50) to even early 50's...considering I'm getting into the 40's now. I've seen some women in their early 50's usually putting men from 40-55. Though, I have emailed some women (who didn't specify an age range), only to tell me I was way too young. I had one that did have a 40-55 age range, and she told me that I was too young, and she said that she'll probably have to change that age range specification. As we age....does our age range specification get wider? Also, is there an OLDER age that you stop at, where people start too look like an older Aunt or Uncle for you to be dating them? Yeah, with me, I think 55+ is where women start to seem too old for me. Anyone else? With women you have to consider the menopause. This can come in the early 50s, but can develop much sooner. I suspect Demi Moore lost some ground when she hit the menopause despite her nice external appearance.
dasein Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Highly subjective, depends on how much exercise she gets. I don't mind some body fat, not a body fanatic by any stretch (mark ), but that flappity arm jellyfish with no muscle tone feeling, no thanks, and it isn't a function of age IME. As far as facial and skin, it depends mostly on skin genetics and how much they have abused the skin over time via sun and makeup. As far as hair goes, I'd rather date a fully gray woman with nice hair texture than a $500 dye job with product and color damaged hair, but good luck getting them to forego their hair dye.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 As we all know, I'm an old lady past 50. In my 40's, I had some kind of "age dysmorphia" or something. I would look at people and categorize them (subconsciously) as "old" people without even considering that I was seeing someone exactly in my own age range! I would think of "older people" as being peers of my parents. I was still self-identifying as "young." I had the unsettling experience of being at a doctor appointment and suddenly realizing that I was older than my doctor, which seemed to be impossible! I automatically responded to people in their 30's as if they were age peers. I didn't date vastly younger men (not that I wouldn't have, it just didn't happen), but I found it difficult to be attracted to older ones. Contributing to that was the fact that my ex husband and I had met when we were young and had aged together (well, IMO), and then I found myself single, and middle aged. I was not used to it! Ultimately, it leveled out. I am, in fact, a "young" type of person. I won't go so far as to say I look 40. I really have no idea how old I look. I don't even care. When I got used to dating, and familiar with what things would be attractive to me in a man in my own age range, this youthfulness was key. People can stagnate and lose all vitality, curiosity, passion and spark when they get old, but it's not necessary. Having those things makes a person seem youthful. And as we get older and more mature, we (hopefully - I know I have) find a balance in how we view physical beauty, in ourselves and in other people. 2
FitChick Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I suspect Demi Moore lost some ground when she hit the menopause despite her nice external appearance. How do you know she hit menopause? Some women are menopausal in their 30s; my mother was 60. If women don't take bioidentical hormones, they age quicker, as do men. She needs to get off drugs and gain back the pounds she lost due to divorce stress and she will return to her normal, gorgeous self. Let's not forget that men experience andropause which is why you see "man boobs" on even slim men as they age. George Clooney is starting to get them and seldom wears form fitting shirts now.
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