Emilia Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Depends on lifestyle and genes as others said but I have noticed once people hit about 50 they start looking older rapidly. I haven't really dated anyone my age (39) for a long time, mainly younger and that's pretty much for the reasons that Mme Chaucer mentioned. I see men at around my age just start giving up. They call things 'young men's game'. 40 isn't young, that's true but it isn't old either.
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 LOL...funny you mention that, there's this American Asian woman I know, age 44....big into Yoga and Health. Attractive woman, looks younger for her age. She said when she went to a nightclub with her same aged friends, she noticed a lot of "old men' there trying to hit on her. I asked her, "About how old were they?" and she said, "Like 40 something and older" And I said, "Um....you're 44....so...what's the problem?" She went dead silent. :laugh: As we all know, I'm an old lady past 50. In my 40's, I had some kind of "age dysmorphia" or something. I would look at people and categorize them (subconsciously) as "old" people without even considering that I was seeing someone exactly in my own age range! I would think of "older people" as being peers of my parents. I was still self-identifying as "young." I had the unsettling experience of being at a doctor appointment and suddenly realizing that I was older than my doctor, which seemed to be impossible! I automatically responded to people in their 30's as if they were age peers. I didn't date vastly younger men (not that I wouldn't have, it just didn't happen), but I found it difficult to be attracted to older ones. Contributing to that was the fact that my ex husband and I had met when we were young and had aged together (well, IMO), and then I found myself single, and middle aged. I was not used to it! Ultimately, it leveled out. I am, in fact, a "young" type of person. I won't go so far as to say I look 40. I really have no idea how old I look. I don't even care. When I got used to dating, and familiar with what things would be attractive to me in a man in my own age range, this youthfulness was key. People can stagnate and lose all vitality, curiosity, passion and spark when they get old, but it's not necessary. Having those things makes a person seem youthful. And as we get older and more mature, we (hopefully - I know I have) find a balance in how we view physical beauty, in ourselves and in other people.
samsungxoxo Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Over 32 is too old for me. Then again, I've just turned 25 last month so I would prefer to date a man closer to my age range: anything going from 23-32. What seems disgusting to me is the 30 year-old men that are dating 18 year-old girls that just graduated from high school. Seriously why can't they date a young woman (let's say 24-28 year old) that is way pass high school conversations and might either be studying or has a degree. What exactly is a 30 year-old man going to talk about with an 18 year-old girl???? 1
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 When I was 27, I dated a 19 year old...no biggie. Tough the age diff. isnt that great at the time. She was nice, and a cute, and smooth booty. lol Over 32 is too old for me. Then again, I've just turned 25 last month so I would prefer to date a man closer to my age range: anything going from 23-32. What seems disgusting to me is the 30 year-old men that are dating 18 year-old girls that just graduated from high school. Seriously why can't they date a young woman (let's say 24-28 year old) that is way pass high school conversations and might either be studying or has a degree. What exactly is a 30 year-old man going to talk about with an 18 year-old girl????
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I went to my 20 year high school reunion and felt like I was at my parents' party! This was not just delusional on my part. Many of the people had stopped growing (except girth-wise ) and they were pretty much boring old farts and fartresses. And a lot of us were "young". A depressing subset of the "young" types were those who were desperately trying to clutch onto their high school looks and personae, which had served them well 20 years ago but now needed to be upgraded to something different. I feel concerned for those of us who seem pre-occupied with holding onto physical youth and to be in denial about some absolute realities of aging. Hormones, eating right and exercise will NOT keep us forever young. I think it's best to take care of ourselves physically and mentally because our bodies and minds are precious gifts that we want to serve us well for as long as possible, and we want to enjoy them. But … we aren't going to be young forever. We will pale in comparison to those who actually ARE young, if we feel like we need to run in that race.
DuchessKaye Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 No age limit, as long as they don't look old. I've met 45 year old guys and they are still as hot and young as 28 year old boys. I don't know how some guys can manage to stay young and look young. Anyway, just because they look young doesn't mean I'm gonna date them. Now that I just broke up with my 33 year old ex, I'm open to date, 28 to 32
samsungxoxo Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 When I was 27, I dated a 19 year old...no biggie. Tough the age diff. isnt that great at the time. She was nice, and a cute, and smooth booty. lolYeah this is what I notice about many men. Brains for some reason doesn't really matters to most of them... well for some yes but it's not that important (unlike me, I wouldn't date a man that's not studying). As long as we're cute but totally clueless about life and any intellectual subjects, it doesn't matter. 9/10 but no brains =win 7/10 (well that's what I was rated many times) + studying = win/lose 1
veggirl Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I am 29, I have ALWAYS gone for guys my age. I look like I'm friggin 18 or so though, so older guys hitting on me just rubs me the wrong way. My preference isn't necessarily because they LOOK old but because I like a guy who is in the same stage of life as me. I will say though, being just over 10 yrs out of high school, I can't believe how old / chubby / run down some of my classmates look now. I am grateful that is not me!!!
Author irc333 Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 :lmao:Yeah, sometimes I would see women on dating sites, saying they're 50+, and they look 30 something. Then I noticed they don't have kids and never been married....so there ya go. LOL No stress as a result of the two, no wonder she stayed looking youth ful. I am 29, I have ALWAYS gone for guys my age. I look like I'm friggin 18 or so though, so older guys hitting on me just rubs me the wrong way. My preference isn't necessarily because they LOOK old but because I like a guy who is in the same stage of life as me. I will say though, being just over 10 yrs out of high school, I can't believe how old / chubby / run down some of my classmates look now. I am grateful that is not me!!!
Negative Nancy Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I think 55+ is where women start to seem too old for me. Really? (She is 58.)
Negative Nancy Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Well, that's something they can't control, baldness is hereditary. So is aging for women, but god forbid, that's considered a crime.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 It has nothing to do with numbers. I see women in their 50s who look beautiful and women in their 20s who look like hell because of all the heavy drinking and smoking and sometimes drugging. Hard living catches up with a person. 4
Negative Nancy Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Yeah this is what I notice about many men. Brains for some reason doesn't really matters to most of them... well for some yes but it's not that important (unlike me, I wouldn't date a man that's not studying). As long as we're cute but totally clueless about life and any intellectual subjects, it doesn't matter. 9/10 but no brains =win 7/10 (well that's what I was rated many times) + studying = win/lose yeah, that's just how men are, they are all shallow. you can be as dumb as a box of rocks - as long as you're "hot", it's fine.
Woggle Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 yeah, that's just how men are, they are all shallow. you can be as dumb as a box of rocks - as long as you're "hot", it's fine. Do you really think women are any different? Surely most boy bands are not popular for their talent or their brains?
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Really? (She is 58.) Even though she is 58 and looks gorgeous, I think it might not feel great to aspire to still look 18 - 21 when one is almost 60. No matter how beautiful, she will NOT really look the same as women in the age group she is trying to emulate. I prefer the look of women who are beautiful but who still carry their actual age as a part of themselves, rather than those who strive to appear to be in their 20's. Like: http://www3.pictures.stylebistro.com/gp/ti-kNhfzsHwl.jpg
samsungxoxo Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 yeah, that's just how men are, they are all shallow. you can be as dumb as a box of rocks - as long as you're "hot", it's fine. True. Most of the times I can't even talk to my mother about certain topics. She doesn't even know what a whale shark looks like, nor what planktons are nor even basic history on the history channel. My father on the other hand, knows some stuff (he took administration classes so it's kool.. I just took that class recently too) but sadly quitted college (not me, I'm going to finish what he didn't). I can only talk about very simple topics with her. Oh well..... At least she does beat me on the cooking area and nurturing, motherly instincts. I'm clueless in those two area (only know basic cooking skills and don't have the natural desire for kids).
udolipixie Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Late 20s is when people start to look too old for me. Once gals are over 18 or 21 the norm seems to be unless she looks younger than her age she's too old. Many guys have thinning hair or are bald then there's wrinkles, sun damaged skin, man boobs, guts, and general fat.
pteromom Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 I am 44, but like Mme. Chaucer said, I identify with younger guys. My hubby is a couple years younger and he already complains about aches and pains and can't do physical stuff without throwing out his back, and it drives me crazy. Should I be single again, I would probably have an age range of 35-50, but anyone in the upper end of that range would have to be a "young-at-heart" type. And anyone in the lower end of that range would have to already have their children, as I can't have more kids. As far as looks, it really depends on the person. I have met people my age who look like old men to me, and I have met guys who are 60 who are good looking still.
FitChick Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 :lmao:Yeah, sometimes I would see women on dating sites, saying they're 50+, and they look 30 something. Then I noticed they don't have kids and never been married....so there ya go. LOL No stress as a result of the two, no wonder she stayed looking youth ful. That's one of my secrets. I can't reveal the others...
FitChick Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Even though she is 58 and looks gorgeous, I think it might not feel great to aspire to still look 18 - 21 when one is almost 60. No matter how beautiful, she will NOT really look the same as women in the age group she is trying to emulate. I prefer the look of women who are beautiful but who still carry their actual age as a part of themselves, rather than those who strive to appear to be in their 20's. Like: http://www3.pictures.stylebistro.com/gp/ti-kNhfzsHwl.jpg Bad examples. I don't know why you think Christie and Sela are trying to emulate teenagers other than they wear fashionable hairstyles, makeup and clothes that suit them. Both women look late 30s/early 40s and like the best version of themselves. Should they wear shapeless floral frocks with crocs and let their hair go grey so other women their age aren't threatened and younger women don't view them as competition? Would that be "age appropriate?" I've actually met Sela Ward and she is a very natural looking, lovely woman.
Imported Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Bad examples. I don't know why you think Christie and Sela are trying to emulate teenagers other than they wear fashionable hairstyles, makeup and clothes that suit them. Both women look late 30s/early 40s and like the best version of themselves. Should they wear shapeless floral frocks with crocs and let their hair go grey so other women their age aren't threatened and younger women don't view them as competition? Would that be "age appropriate?" I've actually met Sela Ward and she is a very natural looking, lovely woman. That's what I got reading her claim about that 58 y/o blonde trying to look young instead of being her age. Gotta knock people down to your level some how.
lso802 Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Maybe. There was a woman who was around my mom's age or older at my work, but she was hotttttttttttttt for her age. Would have wifed in a heartbeat. She also had the personality. Age doesn't matter. Just depends if I'm attracted to them.
oaks Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Now that I just broke up with my 33 year old ex, I'm open to date, 28 to 32 Damn. I'm too old.
kaylan Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) Im 25. For me late teens to late 20s are the young, hot and fun crowd. I see these folks as my peers, though I see the under 21ers as babies sometimes. 30s are midway through their career. Confident, sexy, know their way around. I see them almost as peers, but Im more apt to look up to people in this age group. 40s are the seasoned veterans. For those that stay sexy in this age bracket, being drawn in by such authority and knowledge is very exciting. I def see women in this group as teachers. It ends for me there. I havent been attracted to folks older than that. So I guess thats where old starts for me. Also consider that the 50 benchmark is where people drop off the most in attractiveness in my opinion. Thats when aging really seems to accelerate. But this is all relative to my current age.Yeah this is what I notice about many men. Brains for some reason doesn't really matters to most of them... well for some yes but it's not that important (unlike me, I wouldn't date a man that's not studying). As long as we're cute but totally clueless about life and any intellectual subjects, it doesn't matter. 9/10 but no brains =win 7/10 (well that's what I was rated many times) + studying = win/lose I def care about personality and smarts. And Id never date a girl younger than 21. Im 25 btw. A 19 year old is a kid to me. Edited May 31, 2012 by kaylan
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